Change Archives – Rebecca-Anuwen

How to Make Even the Trickiest of Decisions

Change Your Story

This week I’ve seen a lot of clients who’ve been caught up and wrangling with decisions they need to make in life, the BIG ones and the everyday ones.

I’m sure at some point you’ve experienced what they’re going through too?

Being clear, then moments later doubting yourself
Second guessing what you want or need
Second guessing what you think other people want or need
Prioritising the needs of others over yourself
Bending under the weight of expectations
Getting clear, and then doubting yourself again…. and again… and again…

“I’m so confused arghhhh“

Back to basics to beat overwhelm

What if I told you there was a simple way to step out of overwhelm and indecision and into clarity and alignment?

And would it be even better if I told you it would only take a couple of minutes for you to do?

Maybe I feel called to speak about things that overwhelm us, as here in the UK, we are in the middle of the summer holidays, and this is the first time my little boy has had them.

Whilst it’s been amazing and filled with lots of laughter, adventures and trips… it’s also been a little on the exhausting side too lol (anyone who’s been around 5 year olds will know what I mean!)

This is why we practice

This daily practice that I’m about to share with you has made sure that I can stay centred and focused on connection and fun, rather than feeling frazzled and (too) overwhelmed!

The Sacred Practice

The practice I want to share with you is my SACRED Practice. It’s a moment to connect in with yourself, to ground deeply into your own wisdom, so that you can make decisions from a place of clarity, power and alignment, rather than from fear or overwhelm.

You can download the practice here: www.RebeccaAnuwen.com/Sacred

A Sacred Pause

It was only the other day that I actually realised just how much the idea of the a Sacred Pause really is the foundation of all of my work.

This Sacred Practice is the ultimate Sacred Pause. A moment to stop, to rest your energy and bring yourself into alignment so that you can make clear decisions and move forward with clarity.

Even my social media accounts have the idea of a Sacred Pause at the heart of them.

My Moon Musing Facebook group is all about take a moment out of your day to check in with your energy and notice how it’s dancing with the cycles of the moon.

And most recently I’m experimenting with making my Instagram feed a place to pause and take a moment to rest – yes even on social media!

What do you think…. It makes me feel ahhhh:

So whatever’s going on in your life, if it’s a decision you need to make, summer holidays you’re trying to get through, or you just want a moment of peace and time to pause in an ever busy world, I recommend you try this practice, you can access it for free:

I 'm ready for a SACRED Pause

Is balance really what you need?

Change Your Story, Inspiration

The other day I was chatting to a client about the idea of balance, and I asked her if balance was actually something anyone could realistically attain on a sustainable basis?

I know many people strive for it, but is it truly possible to find that all elusive balance?

The dictionary defines balance as:

‘when there is an even distribution of weight’, ‘when something is steady that it doesn’t fall’.

But surely we desire more for ourselves and our lives, rather than something that doesn’t fall over?

Nature teaches us to dance…

When I have questions about life, I always look to nature.

And when I thought about balance in nature, I realised it doesn’t really have a balance.

It has two equinoxes a year, when light and dark is balanced, but they only last for a moment…

The rest of the time nature is in a rhythmic dance of light and dark, of growth and decay, of contraction, expansion and ebb and flow.

It works in a rhythmic harmony embracing change, rather than striving for a static balance of of sameness.

Finding your own rhythm

This then got me thinking about harmony.

The dictionary defines harmony as:

‘the quality of forming a pleasing and consistent whole’ and in a ‘state of agreement and accord’.

Perhaps harmony is what we should be aiming for.

Striving less to not fall over, and aim more for a pleasing life of wholeness, free of unnecessary struggle.

Perhaps we should accept that we might not find balance across all areas of our lives, maybe it’s not even possible…

But what if we accepted that some parts of our lives need more attention than others, and knowing that those needs and levels of attention change over time.

And that’s okay.

If we can find our own ever-changing rhythmic dance within our own lives, perhaps that’s more pleasurable than striving for something that may not even be possible, or if balance is possible, maybe it’s only sustainable for that short moment of time?

Inspired by a jumpsuit…

Inspiration, My Story

Here’s something you probably don’t know about me… It’s not very important, but it did make me think about change today… And that’s…

I hate clothes shopping!

I always have.

I’ve never known what colour or style suits me.

I go snow blind as soon as I walk into a clothes shop.

I’m not sure where this has come from, but I’ve never enjoyed it.

Shopping is too hard….

My bum has always been ‘too big’ compared with my waist, so finding trousers that don’t ridiculously gape at the back is a nuisance, my legs seem to be in between lengths lol… I could go on… but I’m sure you get the picture…

I think I missed the part of being a teenager where you learn how to dress and find what suits you.

And now of course I’m on the other side of 40, still wondering what clothes I should buy!

So I choose another way

Last month I booked a consult with a stylist who tells you what colours you look best in and what styles work for you.

It was such fun! If you haven’t done it before, I highly recommend it!

And if you know colours and are curious… I’m ‘Summer’ and need to wear cool colours, like blues, dark green and burgundy.

But knowing what to wear and buying it are two completely different things!

So I booked a session with the same inspiring woman to go personal shopping, and oh my… what a totally different experience!

She loved shopping and knew exactly what to look for that would suit me.

She picked things for me that I wouldn’t have even looked at

I kept shaking my head… and am still shaking my head chuckling, as I now have

Jumpsuits

Animal print dresses

And White trousers!?!

All of which I would never have bought without her help.

And all of which I actually now love! In fact I’m writing to you in one of my jumpsuits! (yes I have more than one now!!)

And it go me thinking…

The jumpsuit got me thinking about change.

As humans we’re not really good at change…

Whether it’s a change to how we see ourselves, change in the type of clothes we wear, or the relationships we have.

We can resist it, ignore it, fight it …

I know that I’ve even resisted change that I knew would be beneficial to me in the long run!

I could despair at myself lol, but instead I look to nature…

Nature has so much to teach us about change. About starting over, again, and again and again.

As humans we’re taught that time is linear.

There’s a start, and a series of steps that moves you towards an end goal.

Each of those steps builds on the previous step, and you’re expected to become bigger, stronger, and more successful with each of those steps.

But in this model, there’s no space for failure, for stumbling a few steps back, for starting over. No place for rest or a reset.

But when we remember that we are intimately connected to nature, and we can model our experience on hers, we realise that life is in fact a spiral path and not a linear path.

On a spiral path we can allow ourselves to start again.

We can give ourselves permission to rest and pause. To change our minds, to reset, to revisit, to regroup and start over.

On a spiral path there’s no comparison, so no place for fear, blame or shame.

When we remember that we are intimately connected to nature we can embrace the spiral path and give ourselves permission to start over, to start again and change.

With love, jumpsuits and spirals

Rebecca xo