Magickal Self-Care Day 6 – Magickal Showers

Magickal Self-Care Day 6 – Magickal Showers

Welcome back to 12-days of Magickal Self-Care.

Today, on day 6,  we’re going to add some magick to your established morning routine with your bath or shower.

 

Adding some magick

I’m going to assume that each morning, or at least frequently you have a bath or a shower, so let’s add some magick and intention to this activity.

It’s something that you’re already doing, so you don’t have to worry about ‘adding’ anything extra to your routine, you’re just going to bring more focused awareness to this activity.

 

Washing away negativity

When you have your next shower, as you stand under the water imagine that it’s washing away any of the energetic debris that we explored yesterday.

Anything that’s not yours or energy that is not for your highest good is being washed away, and  then simply imagine it going down the plughole.

 

Activating what you want more of

Then think about what you’d like to experience more of in your day; peace, joy, love, vibrancy – what colour would you associate with that energy?

For example, you might associate green or blue with peace or red or orange with vibrancy. Now in the shower, image that the water has turned the colour you associated with what you wanted more of and allow yourself to be filled up with that colour and energy.

As you focus on what you want to experience more of, know that you attract more of that energy in, it’s like saying to the universe – ‘thank you, more please’.

 

Appreciating your body

Then as you wash your body in the shower, just slow down your experience as you take a moment to connect with each area of your body.

As you wash each body part thank it for all that it does for you.

As you wash your face, thank your senses for their ability to experience the world and the rich pleasure they bring you.

Thank your arms for all that they carry throughout the day and for thy can reach out for.

Thank your hands for all they give and receive and for all that they create.

Thank your legs for their strength and their ability to move you through life and your feet for being able to take a stand for what’s important to you.

Thank your belly for all it absorbs and how it nourishes you.

Thank your skin for giving you a boundary and defining your space in the world.

Really take some time to show gratitude and appreciation for your body.

Even if your body is a source of pain, thank your body for doing the best it can.

 

Words of affirmation

Then once out of the bath or shower, apply your favourite, oil, cream or lotion to your body, and as you do, take some time to gently feel and connect with your body.

Notice it’s curves, shape and texture.

As you feel your body, say something kind and loving to yourself.

Start to create a more caring, nourishing relationship with yourself.

It doesn’t matter if you love yourself completely or feel disconnected to your body, you can always improve your relationship.

As you touch your body you might want to say words of affirmation.

You could say ‘I love you’ or ‘I appreciate you’ – however if you don’t love or appreciate yourself, don’t feel guilty about it, instead change the affirmation to:

‘I am open to loving myself’, each day it becomes easier to love myself’.

‘I am open to appreciating myself’, ‘each day I find new things to appreciate about myself’.

By just slightly changing these affirmations, allows yourself to believe the affirmations rather than reject them.

Saying ‘I love myself’ when you don’t just affirms that you don’t actually love yourself, so focus on adding the changes about being open to loving yourself.

 

Next-level affirmations (that actually work)

Then one final part to this affirmation.

‘I am open to loving myself… and today I show this to myself by…’

Then insert something small that you will actually do to love yourself.

It could be:

Drink some water

Move or stretch your body

Book the Dr’s appointment you’ve been putting off

So as you’re touching your body and nourishing it with your favourite oil, lotion or cream you’re saying to yourself; ‘I am open to loving myself and today I show myself love by drinking more water.’

‘Each day I love myself more, and today I show myself love by dancing to my favourite songs.’

‘I appreciate my body more and more and today I show myself appreciation by going to bed early.’

Now, you’re not only changing your inner self-talk and affirming more love and compassion for yourself, you’re also proving it to yourself.

When you can prove your affirmations to yourself, by saying you’ll drink more water or go to bed early and you do drink more water and you do go to bed earlier – you start to believe yourself more.

Then you really start to believe that you do love and appreciate yourself and your relationship with yourself becomes stronger and deeper.

It becomes easier to get clear on your wants and needs and it becomes easier for you to prioritise yourself and your self-care.

 

Don’t forget to come and let us know how you found the practice over in our community.

And I’ll see you after Christmas for the next 6-days of our 12-days of magickal self-care. Have a fabulous holiday season!

 

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Magickal Self-Care Day 4 – Becoming Present

Magickal Self-Care Day 4 – Becoming Present

Welcome back to 12-days of Magickal Self-Care.

Today, day 4, I want to focus on becoming present

Yesterday we started to explore the importance of becoming present.

We talked about how to become present it was essential that you feel safe and we focused on feeling safe in your home.

Today I want to talk about being present and feeling safe in your body.

Because when we feel safe, we can be present, present in our body. Present to our own needs.

 

Being present is where you power lies

Being present, means being full of your own energy and needs, it means being whole – a whole person, not just a shell of yourself. And as I mentioned yesterday, this presence, this wholeness is where you power lies.

The power to prioritise yourself. To say ‘yes’ and ‘no’ with confidence. To say what you mean and ask for what you want. Presence allows you to make the right choices for yourself.

Presence allows you to become more of yourself.

And the world is a richer more beautiful place when you, and all of the other 7.9 billion people we share the world with, can show up in their full ness.

 

Being you, free from judgement and expectation

Presence requires that you accept and even celebrate who you are, all that you are. Free from judgements and expectations.

It’s about accepting who you are, who you were and who you’re becoming.

And being able to stay present, centred and grounded in your truth every day is something that needs your conscious attention.

I’m sure you’ve encountered people that just have that something about them.

They walk into a room, and you’re drawn to them.

They might not be the most beautiful or attractive person, but something about them holds your attention.

That’s presence.

Presence brings with it a magnetism that radiates from a person that is happy in their own skin. Confident in who they are.

It doesn’t mean they’re perfect, never fail or don’t occasionally doubt themselves. But they are grounded in themselves knowing their strengths and supporting themselves in all areas of their life.

Perhaps you’ve had a conversation with someone who is really present. It’s a beautiful thing. To know that person is completely present and really hears you. Rather than having a conversation with someone who is distracted, trying to talk over you, finish your sentences, or who has already moved on, and are just their physically.

It’s easy not to be present.

 

Being productive just means you have more to do

With more and more pressures on your time, energy and resources, growing to-do lists and the expectations of those around you.

The more productive you try and become, the better you try and manage your time, the more you seem to be expected to do.

Fretting about past actions, worrying about what the future holds, wondering how you can fit it all in without making the mistakes of the past, leaves us living in the past or leaning into the future. Neither of which gives us presence.

To be present requires that you are full of your own essence, thoughts, values, dreams and desire.

 

You need to be ‘full of yourself’

It’s about becoming ‘full of yourself’.

Here in the UK, saying that someone’s ‘full of themselves’ is usually a criticism.

I have a very different take on the matter. As far as I’m concerned:

YOU NEED TO BE FULL OF YOURSELF!

Now, when you read that sentence, you might find yourself reacting and judging me.

Of course you might.

Because, regardless of where you live now, you were probably encouraged to stay small from the time you were a young child. On top of this, depending on where you grew up, you might have been told:

    • not to get too big for your boots (in the UK)
    • not to act above your station (in Ireland)
    • not to get too big for your britches (in the US)
    • not to be the tall poppy (in Australia or New Zealand)

No doubt every country has some kind of similar saying that encourages people to play small – to be accommodating and selfless.

 

Not a shell of yourself

‘Selfless’ – I really hate that word! People say it as if it’s some kind of virtue… but really, why on earth would you celebrate not having a self?!

Surely, it’s the very act of being yourself – your whole self – that makes you the incredible person that you are? How can you be the fully self-expressed person you have the potential to be if you have no self to express?

We can often celebrate the people, often woman, who are ‘so selfless’. The ones that can be relied on to help out at the schools, ferrying the children around to friends, clubs or sports matches, baking cakes for the bake sale, looking after aging parents, checking in on the neighbours, always there when a friend needs them and working a full-time job.

 

Forgetting your own needs and desire

Yes, they are selfless, they’re in fact so self-less that they’ve forgotten they have their own needs, they have lost their boundaries and can no longer say ‘no’.

The person is celebrated for being self-less, when in fact they’re exhausted and disconnected from any desire they have for themselves, as they just try and make it through the day without losing their shit.

Now, being ‘full of yourself’ doesn’t mean becoming a horrible narcissist who never cares about anyone else. Nor does it mean that you think you’re the ONLY one who deserves to have their needs met. But it does mean that you become discerning about meeting your own needs, and about how you choose to use your time, energy and resources.

Being full of your own energy also means you get used to prioritising your own needs over the expectations and comfort of other people. Of course, sometimes you’ll compromise. Sometimes you will put others first, but when you do it, you’ll do it consciously. It will be your choice as an exception, rather than the default expectation.

Another reason to be ‘full of yourself’ is that if you’re not full of your own hopes and dreams, you leave empty space in your energetic body. And since nature abhors a vacuum… that space is where other people’s energetic judgements and expectations will slip in.

I’ve been a kinesiologist for the last 20+ years, and worked with thousands of women over that time. And I’ve noticed that women who try to be ‘selfless’ almost never believe in or trust themselves. How can they, when they’re trying so hard not to have a self to believe in or trust? With that loss of belief comes a disconnection from their dreams, desires and inner power.

This then muddies the waters of what they want for themselves. Their vision for their ideal life is blurred by everyone else’s energy and desires.

So, even if it doesn’t feel comfortable right now, you need to give yourself permission to become full of yourself. Give yourself permission to take up space with ALL of you: your thoughts, feelings, dreams, desires and physicality.

Of course, you probably won’t become ‘full of yourself’ overnight. But you might gradually start to notice the places where you aren’t full of your own hopes, dreams and desires – and that’s a powerful start.

 

Focus on your senses

To start to become full of yourself focus on your senses.

Your senses demand that you are in your body to experience them.

Right now, notice:

What you can see around you?

What can you hear?

What can you feel?

What can you smell?

What can you taste?

It steps you out of thinking about the past, or dreaming about the future and puts you right here, in your body in the present.

Do this regularly throughout the day, just as a mini check-in with yourself, a mini sacred pause in your day when you come back to your own centre, present and aware of your own fullness.

It’s like taking a huge sigh, it resets your system as you become present.

 

Your senses require you get present

There’s a reason when people are having panic attacks, one piece of advice is to name 5 things you can see, 3 things you can touch and two things you can hear. It brings you back into your body and into the present moment.

Here’s a morning routine for you to try – but in fact you can do it anytime throughout your day as it’s just about bringing conscious attention to your senses.

 

A sensory experience

In the morning when you wake up, before checking your phone, stretch your arms above your head and feel your body stretch and move.

Place your hands on your heart, close your eyes and take a deep breath in and exhale fully.

Notice the quality of your breath, how deep you can inhale and the sound and force of the exhale.

Then open your curtains and notice what you can see. Notice the colours or any changes that have occurred overnight. What’s the sky like, can you see any birds, animals or people?

Next open the windows and feel the air on your skin. Is it warm or cold? Perhaps it’s a crisp morning, or the sun is starting a warm glow on your skin, or perhaps the wind and rain are whipping around.

Next light some incense or do something that activates your sense of smell, and really enjoy the aroma of whatever you’re inhaling; coffee, perfume, essential oils.

Put on your favourite music or just sit quietly and notice what you can hear. Perhaps it’s something in your home, or something off in the distance.

Using your senses intentionally this way requires that you become present.

And just like any skill, the more we can practice becoming present the easier it becomes.

And as we’ve explored the more you can become present, the more you become aware of your own needs and what you want.

The more you become present you start to notice how the people, events, habits actually impact you.

You’ll start to notice what fills you up and what drains you.

You’ll recognise when you can do more and when you want to stop.

Being present puts you back in the driver seat of your life, instead of being at the mercy of being bombarded with the judgments, wants and expectations of those around you.

So just notice, how connected to your senses do you feel today?

Don’t forget to come and let us know what you’re focusing on over in our community.

And I’ll see you tomorrow for day-5 where I’ll walk you through a practice that will ground you in your energy and bring you back to your own centre – it’s particularly good if you find yourself impacted by the opinions and moods of those around you.

 

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Throw Away Thursday is the reminder to cleanse and clear your energy and space.

Today we look at using salt to cleanse your energy.

I love using salt, it’s super simple to get hold of and use, and something you most likely already have in your kitchen!

 

To cleanse your space

Inside: Sprinkle salt in the corners of your room, and over the threshold strips to your rooms.

Leave it there overnight.

The salt will absorb any negative energies.

Vacuum up the salt, leaving your home feeling lighter and clearer, ready for consciously creating what you desire, instead of being stuck in old energy.

Be mindful if you have small children or pets, as you don’t want them eating the salt as it could be harmful to them!

If you do have pets or small children, you could put small bowls of salt around your home, out of their reach.

 

Outside: You can also sprinkle salt outside of your home. Sprinkle it around the perimeter of your home, or in front of your entrance ways and across the entrance to your home.

That way when people enter your home, they will walk through a ‘cleansing threshold’, leaving much of their energetic debris ‘at the door’.

The elements will naturally sweep the salt away for you.

 

When using salt, we are talking about a sprinkle, you do not need to pour thick lines of salt around your home.

 

To cleanse your body

Add some sea salt to your bath. Epsom salts work really well too. But be mindful if you have high blood pressure!

Not only is salt really relaxing to add to your water, it softens your skin and draws out energetic debris from your energy system.

As you soak in your bath, let anything that’s not aligned with your highest good be gently dissolved by the salt water.

When you pull the plug out of your bath, feel any negativity being washed away with the water.

If you don’t have a bath, you could do the same by soaking your feet in a bowl of salt water.

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To be grounded is to be energetically centred.

To be energetically centred is the key to successful magick as you are clear, focused and aligned with your own energy.

When you’re not grounded and centred you can feel disconnected, drained and easily swayed by other people’s thoughts, judgements and opinions.

The easiest way to get grounded is to use your senses to get back ‘in’ your body.

TOUCH
Walk barefoot on the grass, run your fingers through the grass.
Hold a dark crystal or pebble.

LISTEN
Listen to a meditation, drumming or forest/ocean sounds.

SMELL
Smell woody essential oils or herbs.

LOOK
Describe an object near you in great detail.
Imagine roots coming out of your feet and sinking deep into the earth.

TASTE
Take a bite of lemon for instant re-entry to your body!

Try some of the above and notice which make you feel more grounded and energetically centred, and then come and try some of my intuitive challenges over on instagram @themodernwitchway.

 

 

 

 

 

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