How to Recognise a Message from the Universe

How to Recognise a Message from the Universe

A feather background representing how to recognise messages from the universe

I often get asked how to spot messages from the universe. It can be confusing as you can receive messages from the universe in so many different ways.

To start with, know that you’re most likely to receive messages via your dominant sense.

If you’re not sure what your dominant sense is, think about the sense that you enjoy the most or the one that is the first to become overwhelmed.

Messages from the universe could come to you via:⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀

☁️ Day dreams⠀⠀⠀

🎲 Divination
🌳 Images you see in the clouds, trees, art – anywhere really⠀
✍️ Journaling
💬 Overheard conversations⠀
🎶 Music lyrics or song titles
1️⃣1️⃣1️⃣1️⃣ Repeating numbers⠀
🌸 Smells that remind you of something or someone⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀


✋ Messages from the universe never:⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀

🛑 Make you feel unnecessarily uncomfortable⠀
😡 Speak badly about you or another person⠀⠀
🤕 Tell you to hurt yourself or another person/creature⠀



TRY THIS:⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
➡️➡️ Start your day by asking to receive a message of guidance via the third song you hear today.

The message could then come from the lyrics in the song, the name of the song, the artist or even what you associate with the song. 🎶🎵🎧⠀

You can wait to see what the third song you hear throughout the day is – songs from any source – or you could shuffle your music player and see what comes up for you.


💬 I received a message this morning via a podcast I was listening to. I was just thinking about a question I had about a dream, wondering if the people I met in the dream were my ancestors.

At the exact moment I thought the question, the person on the podcast, which had nothing to do with spirituality or ancestors, said ‘… connecting to your ancestors…’

I simply smiled and said ‘thank you’.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
Messages really can come from anywhere!⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀

✨ Be curious, that’s where the magick is found! ✨

10 Reasons to Start Charm Casting Today

10 Reasons to Start Charm Casting Today

Charm casting is a form of divination that uses small charms and trinkets, often items you have laying around the house.

You then cast these charms upon a surface to connect with your inner wisdom and tap into your  intuition.

If you haven’t tried charm casting yet, you really should!


Here’s my top 10 reasons why you should start Charm Casting today:


1. It doesn’t need any special equipment.

You can just use any random objects you find around the house.


2. Readings are truly meaningful to you.

Each charm used has it’s own unique meaning to you, so that you can get very personalised readings, as opposed to just reading a guidebook.


3. Your charm set grows with you.

There are no limits. As you and your interests change, your charm set will change to reflect this.


4. There are no rules.

Guidelines yes, but hard and fast rules no. So you can make a practice that’s as unique as you are.

5. It helps you learn to trust yourself.

The more you connect with, and use, your charms, you trust the messages they give you. You stop looking for external validation, as you know how to give it to yourself.

6. It develops your intuition.

As you learn to trust yourself more, you trust your intuition more. You trust yourself and your intuition in far more than just your readings. You trust your intuition about people, choices etc.

7. It expands your creativity.

There’s no limit on how you can use your charms. Use them on a desk, on a casting map you’ve designed, with your tarot and oracle cards… anything goes.

8. It’s easy.

You can simply draw one charm for guidance.

9. I mean it’s really easy.

You could even just get a message from a pebble or leaf on the floor.


It’s so fun to do, and even more fun when you find meaningful charms – for example I have lots of Lego mini figures I use to get messages from the characters lol

If you want to join in the fun you can get your copy on Amazon:

And if you want to put together your own charm kit, check out my Etsy shop

Awakening Your Intuition

Awakening Your Intuition

Today I want to share something from my book Charm Casting, I think it’s an important reminder:


Everyone can access their intuition. Absolutely everyone. No exceptions.


Some people find connecting to their intuition easier than others do, but it’s a skill that can be learnt and practised. And the more you practise, the easier it becomes.

You may doubt your intuition because its quiet whispers are drowned out by the doubts, fears and overwhelm of everyday life. It may also be hard to hear the voice of your intuition because you’ve long since forgotten how to truly trust yourself.

We’ve spent much of our lives hearing the world we live in try to convince us that other people know what we need better than we do. The quiet voices of our intuition get drowned out by our fast-paced lives and by instant gratification. They get overwhelmed by the constant stream of other people telling us what to do, how to behave and what’s true.

Our current society rarely values the gifts of our intuitive selves.

Intuition can’t be measured, so it isn’t seen as productive. It’s perceived as having less value than something that’s tangible and provable. Intuition lies in the realms of the mysteries: that which can’t be explained or rationalised. We’ve been taught to fear what we can’t explain or control, yet our intuition is at once our greatest strength and our way to access our inner power. It helps us to navigate our inner landscapes, so we can navigate the outer landscapes with more grace, ease and flow.

As you work with your charms, you’ll gain a deeper understanding of, and access to, your intuition. And just like with a muscle, the more you use it, the stronger your intuition becomes.

To start with, you may feel rusty. You may feel that you’re doing it wrong. But the truth is that you can’t get this wrong. In fact, many people who start working with their intuition find that the most difficult part is that there is no right or wrong way to do it.

We human beings love rules. We’ve been taught that rules keep us safe. And while many rules do exactly that, some can limit us – stifling our growth and expression. We live in a world that’s governed by rules. We’re taught that there’s a right way and wrong way to do everything. We strive for success and we fear failure. We want to achieve. We value getting there quickly and directly, not having time to waste.

And intuition is almost the polar opposite of ALL these things.


There’s no wrong way to access your intuition.

There are no hard and fast rules. There’s guidance, yes, but it’s only guidance.

We’ve grown accustomed to following the rules. We want to get things right and we’re afraid to get them wrong.

But when you step into the mysteries, the home of your intuition, you’re no longer governed by the same rules or structures. At first, that can feel confusing.

As you awaken your intuition, though – as you learn to trust your inner voice and interpret the language of your soul – you’ll experience a greater sense of inner freedom. You’ll feel more connected to your inner power. You’ll feel more confident in who you are and how you show up in the world.

But to do this, you need to embrace the mysteries – the mysteries you were taught to fear, and may indeed once have feared. When you embrace those mysteries, you’ll realise that they’re where you actually hold your greatest strength. They’re where your greatest source of confidence, courage and inner knowing lie.

Then, once you activate your intuition, you’ll step into a world of learning to trust both yourself and the messages from your soul. When you can do this, you’ll stop seeking external validation. You’ll stop holding back because of fears and old conditioning.

Once you begin to trust yourself and your intuition, your whole life changes. You start making EVERY choice you face in a way that aligns with your soul purpose. You make it from a place of inner power and confidence – a place of knowing that you have your own back.

You develop a clarity and a confidence that you can face anything that comes your way. You start creating your life from a place of conscious alignment, rather than from habit.

There’s no doubt that as you begin to awaken your intuition, your life will change. And it will change in a really wonderful, empowering way.

People think that charms will ‘give you the answers’. The truth is that they’ll actually help you to find your own answers. They’ll help you to remember the power and wisdom that you’ve always had.

To quote Glinda the Good Witch from The Wizard of Oz: “You always had the power, my dear. You just had to learn it for yourself.”

If you’re ready to make a deeper connection with your intuition, charm casting is a potent form of divination to explore.


Charm Casting – Your guide to using everyday objects to connect with your intuition

Charm Casting: The Book by Rebecca Anuwen

Charm Casting: The Book by Rebecca Anuwen

My latest book;

Charm Casting:
Your guide to using everyday objects to connect with your intuition

is now available on Amazon and kindle ?

If you follow me on Instagram, you know I’m slightly obsessed by charms and using them as a form of divination, so I’m delighted to bring this book to you for anyone that wants to become obsessed too!…. I mean, anyone who’d like to learn more about this fabulous way of connecting with your intuition.

I love charm casting because of its simplicity.

You can create your own charm casting set, just with things you already have around your home.

In the book, I take you through a step-by-step process, so that you’ll be able to confidently interpret the messages from your charms, and earn to trust yourself and your intuition more deeply.


The Book Covers:

  • What charms you need to get started, and how to collect them,
  • Preparing to work with your charms,
  • How to use your charms,
  • Guidance on interpreting their messages
  • What to do after you’ve cast your charms
  • The storage and cleansing of your charms

There are also 8 full colour casting maps (designs you can cast your charms onto) included in the book.

If you want to learn more about charm casting visit the charm casting resource area here

Rebecca-Anuwen helps you let go of your need for rules so you can go deep. Guiding you to use your lived experience to access the magic of the charms which is in fact, your own inner wisdom. Ruby Toad

Learning to charm cast from Rebecca-Anuwen has been fantastic. I love her enthusiasm for it and how it’s allowed me to connect with and tap into my intuition more directly. The practice has helped carry my connection with my inner knowing into other areas of my life which is a life changing thing.” Allison Brodeur

Why You Need to Start Putting Yourself First, and How to Do It

Why You Need to Start Putting Yourself First, and How to Do It

As you start to listen for your intuition, it can feel overwhelming at first. Your senses become more aware and heightened and you start to notice all of the different feelings, and even twinges, in your body.

We’ve spoken before about how to tell the difference between these feelings, and to make sure that the messages you receive are from your intuition and not your fear.

As your awareness grows, it’s good to remind yourself that this is a practice, and with practice everything becomes easier.

I often think about when I first learnt to drive a car (a manual one). To start with, trying to find the gears was clunky. I’d look to see where the gear stick was, and I’d have to consciously remember where the indicator was to make sure I didn’t turn the windscreen wipers on by mistake….

But very quickly, it all became very normal, and I didn’t need to look where things were. I just knew.

The same is true with your intuition, at first it might seem clunky, and considered, but very quickly, you just know.

To help you step into the energy of ‘just knowing’, it’s important that you can fill yourself up with your essence, so that you know what’s yours, and what’s not; what feelings, dreams and desires are yours, and what you’ve ‘absorbed’ from the people and the world around you.

Being a British woman, I love to say the following, as it’s most definitely not what most of us have been taught here in the UK, and that’s:



 No doubt some of the people who read that reacted and judged it.

Of course they did.

And yet, any discomfort aside, you do need to give yourself permission to become full of yourself.

To give yourself permission to take up space with ALL of you; your thoughts, feelings, dreams, desires, and your physicality.

We’re conditioned to in the UK; not getting too big for our boots, in the US; not to get too big for your britches, and Australia they have tall poppy syndrome. No doubt every country has something similar.

All of these sayings and beliefs are there to encourage people to play small, be accommodating, and be selfless.

‘Selfless’. Selfless is made to sound virtuous… but really ‘self-less’… why on earth is it celebrated to be without your self?

When surely it’s the very act of being your-self, your whole self, that makes you the incredible person that you are, the incredible, fully-expressed person you have the potential to be?


Now being full of yourself, doesn’t mean that you become a horrible person and never care about anyone ever again.

But it does mean that you become discerning about your own needs, and how you use your time, energy, and resources.

It does mean that you get used to prioritising your needs, over the needs, and comfort, of other people. Of course, there will be compromises, and times where you do put others first, but these become the conscious choice; the exception, and not the expectation.

Another reason it’s soooo important to be FULL OF YOURSELF, is from an energetic perspective.

I’ve spent the last 20+ years working with the energy therapy, Kinesiology.

I’ve worked with 1000’s and 1000’s of clients, mainly women, and without question, there’s a pattern.

The women who don’t believe in themselves, or who don’t trust themselves, or don’t know what they truly want from life, or have lost connection with their dreams, desires, and inner power, the women who aren’t full of their own essence, are full of other people’s judgments and expectations.

And yes, that’s as horrid as it sounds!

When you aren’t full of your own hopes and dreams, there’s space in your body and energy, for you to hold the energetic judgements and expectations of others.

This then muddies the waters of what you do want, as it gets blurred by the energy and desires of other people.

If you’ve ever made a decision, and then ended up doubting yourself and not taking action, your own clarity has been muddied by the energy of other people.

For you to be focused, aligned, and on-purpose, and for you to be able to hear your intuition with clarity and confidence, it’s essential that you become full of yourself, and not a shell of a person, trying to live up to everyone else’s expectations.


Think about where you might not be showing up fully in your life.

Are there any places in your life where you play small to make other people feel more comfortable, or to avoid being judged?

Although you may not become ‘full of yourself’ overnight, you will start to notice where you aren’t full of your own hopes, dreams and desires, and that’s a powerful start. Because, once you notice, you start to unravel those old stories and patterns, creating the space to re-write your own stories and consciously choose how you respond to life, rather than react.

You create the space to be able to hear your intuition so that you can make choices that are right for you, rather than choices that harm you.

How your body responds differently to intuition and trauma

How your body responds differently to intuition and trauma

I want to talk about the difference between fear and trauma responses in your body and your intuition.

When you start to listen for your intuition, you become more aware of the feelings and sensations in your body.

Not all of these sensations will be your intuition.


So how can you tell the difference?

People can often struggle to understand what’s their intuition, and question whether they were receiving intuitive guidance or if it was something different.

Every moment of the day, your body is giving you feedback.

Many of these messages come from life experiences and are designed to keep you safe.

However, a trauma or experience that happened in the past may be stored in your body as fear. Then, every time you encounter a similar situation, your body goes into super protection mode, sending you messages that you aren’t safe.

When you receive these messages, you may interpret them as your intuition telling you that this person is ‘bad’ and to be avoided, or that an opportunity isn’t right for you.

When you start to work with your intuition, it’s essential to get to know yourself really well.

You need to learn to regulate your nervous system so that you can tell the difference between an emotional encounter and the wisdom of your intuition.

Helping to regulate your nervous system is as simple as giving yourself a moment to take a breath.

When you feel something that could be your intuition, notice the sensation you feel.

Where do you feel it in your body?

How emotionally charged does it – and do you – feel?

If you do feel charged, take a couple of slow deep breaths and exhale fully.

Witness the feeling, then become present in your body and breathe through it.

How do you feel now?

Close your eyes, put your hand on your heart and remind yourself that you’re safe.


Keep a record

Start to keep a record of anything you think is your intuition.

Note down how the message felt,

  • Where did you feel it in your body?
  • Was it accompanied by any emotion
  • What happened when you listened to the ‘intuition’?
  • What was the outcome of taking action on what you thought was your intuition?

Keeping a record of these things will help you to untangle the messages of your emotions, stored trauma and fear, and your actual intuition.



You’ll be able to clearly identify if the information you received was an intuitive hit, or if a situation triggered you to feel an emotionally charged reaction.  

You may do the same when it comes to making a choice, especially one that would require you to step out of your comfort zone.

You may feel the answer is not to take the opportunity. But it could be fear. You could be intellectualising the reason why you shouldn’t do it, and thinking it’s your intuition guiding you.


Intuition is subtle and nuanced.

In my experience, if there are highly charged emotions attached to the guidance you receive from your body, that’s not your intuition.

People have spent most of their lives ignoring their intuition because they didn’t actually know what it was, let alone being able to interpret and trust the messages.

And humans can often love drama. It’s loud and exciting – and in an already noisy world – we can hear it.

So it’s easy to think that the loud message you heard was your intuition talking to you.

But hearing your intuition and interpreting its messages, are skills.

It’s a practice.

It’s not glamorous or exciting. Instead, it’s a practice that refines your ability to listen for the subtle messages coming from your body and the quality of your energy.


Pay attention to the quality of the messages you receive

Pay particular attention to the messages that appear neutral and not charged. The ones that are quieter and easier to overlook, are the information that you can more often trust.

It’s not exciting. It’s just a clear inner-knowing.

It’s not numb or suppressed. That energy is still charged, but negatively.

Instead, pay attention and become aware of the energy, information, and messages that are ‘clean’ and clear.


A person I knew, made a significant life-changing decision based on their intuition.

Except it wasn’t their intuition.

When I asked them why they thought it was their intuition, they said that they could feel the excitement – like butterflies in their stomach.

When we dived a bit deeper, it became clear to them that it hadn’t been their intuition guiding them, but fear. They desperately needed a change. What they were feeling was desperation and the hope that this change might be the one they so needed in their life.

Except it wasn’t.

That’s not to say that your intuition won’t speak to you as excitement.

But make sure that you’re clear on how your intuition does speak to you.

When you do receive a message, slow down. Take a moment to check in with how you feel and how the message feels, and then see if it’s your intuition or an emotional response.

Tap into your intuition to make better decisions in life

Tap into your intuition to make better decisions in life

Tap into your intuition to make better decisions in life

Let’s face it, it can be hard to know what we really want.


I’ve had way too many women burst into tears when I’ve asked them that exact question.


“What do you want?”


Whether it’s life purpose questions, what they want to do at the weekend, or even what movie they want to watch.


They’re so used to prioritising the needs of others; children, partners, parents, co-workers, friends…. they’ve become disconnected from what they really want.


Their desires silenced under the noise of judgements, ‘should’s’, and expectations.


Not wanting to let other people down, wanting to be seen as a ‘good’ person, not wanting to be seen as selfish, the list goes on and on as to why people get disconnected from hearing their inner wisdom and desires.


The noise, overwhelm, and mixed messages that women receive can create inner turmoil and confusion. Be confident, but not too confident, be clever, but not too clever, be powerful, but not too powerful, be sexual, but not too sexual…


Playing small to keep other people comfortable. Not speaking up in case it upsets or offends someone. Not asking for what you need in case it inconveniences others.


So instead of trusting her inner desires, or hearing her inner wisdom, she can barely hear their messages. She gets busy contorting herself to meet other people’s expectations and desires.


As she gets busier, her inner voice gets quieter, until it’s a distant memory, a slight twinge of knowing that’s easy to ignore.


In quiet moments, she knows something doesn’t feel right, but rather than ask herself what she really needs, she doesn’t have time, and certainly doesn’t want to explore how much she’s betrayed herself and turned her back on her needs, instead, she takes on more responsibility and numbs the pain with her crutch of choice; scrolling through social media, gossip, shopping, food or ‘wine o’clock’.


Under this weight of expectations and judgements it can be hard to choose what you want, over what you feel you should do to fit in or please others.


There’s no doubt that sometimes it can feel easier to ignore that intuitive nudge, and that quiet inner knowing, rather than speak up or ‘rock the boat’.


It’s easy for the mind to become overwhelmed with information.


But it’s time to try something new.


A way that prioritises you and your needs.


Because from experience, we know the other way leads to frustration, resentment, overwhelm and burnout, and that’s no fun for anyone!


Instead, it’s time to start to reconnect with awe and wonder.


With opportunities and possibility.


Instead of trying to think your way through a situation, start to feel it.


Let the openness of curiosity lead you to where you want to be.


Place your hand over your heart and ask yourself:


“What do I want?”


Not what you think you should want, or what other people want for you, but what do you want?


Then ask yourself:


“What do I need to do today to be fulfilled?”


Ask yourself these questions everyday.


You may not have the answer immediately but keep asking.


Get quiet, ask the question, and become curious to the quiet whisper you hear.


Create the space for that whisper or quiet nudge to get louder, and louder, until you’re clear what voice is yours, and what voices are the external expectations and desires of other people.


This process is important as of course you’re asking a question to get an answer.


But it’s also important because you’re giving yourself a moment of sacred pause, a moment to turn inwards and actually ask yourself what you want and need.


You’re taking a moment to cut through the noise and listen to yourself.

A moment to connect with yourself to hear your inner wisdom.


A moment to help you make better choices, that are aligned with what you actually want and desire.


And if that fails, toss a coin.


Yes really!


Years ago, I was on a training and the teacher said that when she can’t decide what to do, she tosses a coin.


I was surprised, I didn’t have her down as someone who would leave decisions up to chance in such a way.


She then went on to explain…


She doesn’t ‘do’ what she assigned to the coin’s ‘heads’ or ‘tails’, but she uses it to watch her immediate response, her intuitive wisdom.


She might not initially know what she wants, but as soon as the coin ‘tells’ her what to do, she immediately feels relief at a ‘yes’ because that’s what she wants to do.


Or a resistance to the coin’s answer, in that case she knows that she wants the other option.


She used the coin to help her bypass her mind and get clear on what she really wanted.


If you want to cut out the noise and reconnect to your inner wisdom, so that you can make better choices in life click here to learn how>>

Tap into your intuition to make better decisions in life
Learn how to get in touch with your intuition with a modern day witch

Learn how to get in touch with your intuition with a modern day witch

Years ago, I was listening to a radio interview with Ray Mears, an outdoor survival expert, and someone had asked him how to get the most out of their up-coming trip to the jungle.


His response has always stayed with me.


Not because I’m off to the jungle, but because they’re words to live by, especially when developing your relationship with your intuition. 


He said, and I’m paraphrasing: 


“Walk into the jungle and stop. Let the jungle come to you.”




I just love that for soooo many reasons. 


Stop, and let the jungle come to you. 


I mean of course… it’s so obvious. If you go stomping through the jungle, all the creatures will run away from you, you won’t get to notice all of the incredible diversity that surrounds you, as you’re moving too fast and ‘on a mission’ to see the jungle, rather than experience it. 


How many times do you set an intention, want to hear your intuition, or weave some magic, but you’re being too ‘noisy’ and scaring off, and not noticing, the signs and synchronicities around you?

It’s like the time I was staying in a hotel in London and overheard a tourist announcing that they had ‘done Europe’, as they had been to London, Paris, and Amsterdam.  


Even though the Tourist was no doubt having a fabulous time and seeing the sights that many people would associate with Europe, people who live in Europe would know that they had anything but ‘done’ Europe, all they’d actually done was tick of a few tourist destination. 


Of course, there’s absolutely nothing wrong with that, but it’s also important to recognise it for what it is. 


Just like when you’re connecting to your intuition.


If you’re trying to force it, or be a ‘spiritual tourist’ doing the things that have worked for others, rather than exploring what actually works for you, youll only connect with your intuition at the same depth the tourist really connected with Europe. 


There will be some benefit and fun adventures, but you miss the real beauty. 


You need to stop, and let your intuition come to you.


However, stopping is easier said than done in today’s world. 


Life is getting busier, and faster, and noisier. 


Technology is amazing, it’s made so much more of life easier and accessible, it’s also added a different level of stress; a constant ability to be ‘on’.


With many people now working from home, the working and not working time and space has become increasingly blurred.


I saw a meme the other day that I think summed it up, it said: We’re not working from home, we’re sleeping at work.


It’s now more important than ever to disconnect from the noise around us and reconnect to ourselves so that we can get in touch with our intuition and trust ourselves.


A Sacred Pause 


Years ago, I head the term ‘Sacred Pause’ from Molly Remer, who learnt it from Joanna Powell Colbert. 


As soon as I heard the term my body recognised it and sighed ‘yes’.


Stop and let life, your intuition, magic and synchronicities come to you. 


The stopping, the Sacred Pause is at the heart of life. 


Yes, there are times when we need to do, and achieve, and push forwards. 


But the pause, the rest, and the stopping are equally important.


I like to think of it as walking the labyrinth. 


When you walk a labyrinth, you enter with intention, often to seek the answer to a question you hold in your heart.


As you spiral in, you let go and release all of the things that are preventing you from finding the answer you seek.


Then when you get to the centre you pause.


The Sacred Pause where you allow yourself to assimilate. To allow the answer a chance to come to you.


This is where the transformation and deep connection occurs.


Then when you’re ready, you spiral back out of the labyrinth, transformed, a new person, never to be the same again.


The Sacred Pause being quite literally the heart and the centre of all transformation and deep connection. 


  • Choose to consciously pause.
  • Choose to notice your energy.
  • Choose to let life come to you.


When you stop, you become aware of the nuances of life, the diversity of the energy around you. 


You begin to become aware of what’s your energy and what belongs to other people.


When you get that kind of clarity you begin to trust yourself as you can sense your intuition and hear its wisdom as it cuts through the noise of judgements, expectations, and shoulds.


Everyone is intuitive, it’s not reserved for people that are ‘special’.


EVERYONE is intuitive and can access their intuitive wisdom. 


If you don’t trust your intuition, feel like you can’t hear it, or find yourself doubting it, you just need to take a Sacred Pause so you can learn to cut out the noise and hear yourself again.


I’ve created super simple practice based on the Sacred Pause, it takes about 5-10 minutes to do. It will cut out the noise and reconnect you to your intuition simply CLICK HERE to access it.

Should you trust your intuition when you take an instant dislike to someone? 

Should you trust your intuition when you take an instant dislike to someone? 

Should you trust your intuition


“I knew this would happen. I just had a feeling when I meet him, but he seemed okay so I just ignored it”.

These were the words I’d heard too many times before.

When Rachel* met Simon* she felt something wasn’t right, but couldn’t put her finger on it.

Everyone else seemed to think he was lovely; so charming and funny, that she squashed her own intuition, assuming not everyone else could be wrong.

It must be her.

Perhaps she was tired or being too quick to judge, he was being very attentive and charming…

Yet here they were, a month later, and her best friend in tears at the way Simon had treated her.

Rachel now kicking herself because somehow, she knew he was trouble, but she didn’t believe in herself enough to say anything. Of course, her friend would still make her own decisions, but still… she regretted not saying anything at the time.


How many times have you found yourself in similar situations?

After the event, the heartache, the disappointment, wishing you had trusted those first impressions, that initial feeling, knowing you’d already intuitively known this was the likely outcome.

How many times have you said (or thought to yourself) those awful words: “I knew this was going to happen, I just had a feeling”?

You’d known.

Your intuition had given you the information you needed, and you’d ignored it.

You know that listening to your intuition can save you much pain and heartache, and yet why is it so tricky to trust it?

Listening to your intuition can help you avoid unhealthy relationships and opportunities that don’t support you.

People will always have opinions and ideas about what’s best for you, some of these will be well-intended, and some will, unfortunately, come from a place of wanting to deceive and/or control you.

It’s true, you can often tell instantly if someone’s idea is good for you or not, no matter how well-intentioned, and you intuitively know if someone does have your best interests at heart.

It’s equally true, that you can often override your intuition. In fact, for most of your life, you may have dismissed your intuition, maybe you’ve even been encouraged by others to override this inner wisdom.

Ways you can dismiss your intuition:

  • You can doubt yourself by overthinking the situation and listening to the (many) opinions of others.
  • Unconscious bias, assumptions, and judgements can drown out the wisdom of your intuition.
  • Shoulds and expectations can have you thinking that you have to override your initial insights into a situation, so that you don’t ‘make a fuss’, disappoint others, or let them down.
  • You don’t want to listen to your intuition because your desire for the opportunity/person/status is bigger than your intuitive voice.
  • Previous trauma can leave you disconnected to your own experiences, leaving you not trusting yourself or your intuition.

There are many reasons why your initial thoughts or judgements about a person may be wrong.

You may take an instant dislike to someone because of your own unconscious bias, your judgements, or previous experiences that you subconsciously project on to them.

These are not helpful or trustworthy.

But there is a way to bypass these unhelpful ‘first impressions’ and reconnect to your intuition and your inner wisdom.

A way that helps you to learn to interpret your inner wisdom and untangle it from the unhelpful judgements.

How to trust your intuition when you first meet someone:

Most importantly notice what your energy does when you meet someone.

Your energy is quite different from your emotions and feelings, ask yourself;

  • Does your energy expand or contract around this person?
  • Does your heart intuition pull you forward towards them, or does your gut intuition back you away from them?
  • Do you feel empowered or drained in their company?
  • Do you feel neutral or uplifted, or drained and disempowered, after spending time with them?
  • Would you feel the same if you were your best self; nourished, rested and confident, and all of your needs were taken care of?
  • Do you feel seen, heard, and respected in the interaction you had with them?
  • Do you feel valued in the interaction?
  • Are you trying to control the situation involving them?
  • Is fear or opportunity leading any potential future relationship with them (platonic or otherwise)?
  • How much is your desire for the idea of them, or what they can offer, leading your thoughts?

Intuition is like any muscle. The more you use it, the stronger it becomes.

Knowing if you should you trust someone when you take an instant dislike to them becomes easier the more you start to listen to and trust your intuition, in all areas of your life.

To start with you’ll need to untangle feelings, emotions, and judgements from your intuition. When you notice a feeling, emotion, or judgement, observe it.

How does it feel?

Where do you feel it?

Judgements evoke feelings and emotions.

Feelings and emotions move through you. They’re designed to bring your attention to something; often to let you know if your own behaviour, or that of others, is aligned with you, your values and your boundaries.

Feelings and emotions that you label ‘good’ mean you’re likely aligned with and on your path, leaving you with a sense of empowerment.

Feelings and emotions that you label ‘uncomfortable’ or ‘bad’ indicate you or others are dishonouring your values and boundaries, moving you away from your path and leaving you dis-empowered.

Once they’ve given you the information, they can then move on (if you let them).

Your intuition is much more grounded.

It’s a deep, inner-knowing, a quiet inner-presence, coming from within.

It doesn’t just pass through your body, it’s part of you. Your intuition becomes louder or quieter but doesn’t leave.

Your intuition doesn’t pass judgement.

It focuses purely on you.

Next time you meet someone, and you instantly dislike them, check-in with yourself, and your energy, to see if the information you’ve received is an intuitive insight.

If it is, give yourself permission to leave.

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Have you ever walked into a room and just known that something wasn’t right?

No-one said anything, nothing looked obviously out of place… but you just knew?

Maybe you left the room, made your excuses to leave or kept your guard up?

Either way, you trusted that little voice or feeling.

Perhaps when you’re talking to a friend or member of your family, you get a feeling that something’s not right? Maybe the story they’re sharing or the situation feels ‘off’ to you?

But instead of trusting this (same) feeling, you override this inner-knowing with logic or justifications, or just plain ignore it.

Then there’s that voice that tells you that you’ve done something wrong (again), that you’re (still) not good enough or that you don’t deserve what you desire (and never will).

Why do you choose to listen to some types of information and not others?

And more importantly, how do you know which information you should listen to?

The first two examples are your intuition communicating with you.

The third example is your inner critic.


So, what is intuition?

Your intuition is your immediate, often unexplained, understanding of something.

It usually comes as a moment of clarity or a deep knowing about something that you couldn’t logically know or explain.


What is your inner critic?

Your inner critic is your fears disguised as good intentions or your ‘truth’. However, these messages are based in fear and want to prevent you from moving forward and making change.


The difference between intuition and your inner critic

We’re going to look at intuition today, but the key thing to remember is that your intuition will NEVER say anything negative about you or someone else. It will also never encourage you to harm yourself or others in any way (physically, emotionally or mentally).

If you hear anything negative or that sounds like you’re being ‘told off’, that’s your inner critic trying to stop your growth. And you don’t have to listen to it.

A few years ago, I interviewed Becky Walsh and I loved what she had to say about intuition.

She said that we have two types of intuition: heart intuition, and gut intuition.


Heart intuition pulls us forward.

It shows us what’s aligned for us to be doing. Perhaps you feel it when you know it’s time to change jobs, start a new career or leave a relationship.


Gut intuition moves us ‘back’

It moves us away from dancger.

You meet someone who just feels ‘off’, or you get a sensation not to walkdown a certain road. That’s your gut intuition keeping you safe.

Often, if we’re not overly invested in the situation, we can recognise our intuitive message quickly and act accordingly. We remove ourselves from a situation, choose a different route or choose not to becomes friends with certain people we’ve just met.

It becomes trickier to interpret these messages when we’re more heavily invested in the outcome. For example, it might involve people we care about or the life choices we have to make for ourselves.

It’s easy for us to talk ourselves out of our intuitive insight.

Our intuitive insight -that moment of clarity – comes in fast, and may only last for a second or two.

And yet in that moment, we’re certain in our choice or experience.

Then, almost as quickly, the noise returns.

We’re so used to thinking things through and looking at something from all angles that we don’t trust the speed and clarity of our intuition.


Intelligence, logic, and reason are essential to our experience of life, and so is our intuition

It’s not about prioritising one over the other but being able to recognise both.

However, instead of valuing both, we try and reason with our intuition. We may ask for another sign, searching for ‘proof’ and validation of its message. We may pull the intuitive message apart so much that there’s nothing left of it.

Then we feel confused, overwhelmed and unsure if we can trust ourselves.

The thoughts and reasoning we usually rely on are based on the conditioning of our past.

The stories we believe are the judgements and expectations of our families, cultures, and society at large.

Those beliefs may not be true for you, yet you try and contort yourself to conform to their shape and expectations. It’s what you’ve been taught to do.

Getting caught up in trying to please other people, trying to fit in or living in accordance with other people’s values, disconnects from our own inner-knowing.


These judgements and expectations become louder than our own inner guidance.

We end up not listening to our intuition. Instead we override it and make poor decisions. We stay in jobs and relationships that we’ve outgrown. We turn a blind eye to behaviours that go against our own standards. We make excuses for people.

Your intuition is that quiet voice that speaks to you and you just know it to be true. Maybe it’s a whisper, a feeling pulling you forward or the quiet voice encouraging you to make the changes you desire or telling you to try again.

When you’re not sure what to do next, or feeling lost, confused or overwhelmed, take a moment to get quiet. Place your hand over your heart and just feel into and listen to that quiet voice inside – not the external noise telling you what to do, but the quiet,  calm voice of inner-knowing.

Tune in and then follow what feels best for you. Don’t seek external validation or want other people to understand your choices.


Listen for your intuition and learn to trust yourself again

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