MMM… New Moon magick and dreaming for the fun of it

MMM… New Moon magick and dreaming for the fun of it

Sent Monday 20th February 2023

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Today is the New Moon in Pisces.
The New Moon reminds us of the importance of resting, slowing down, or at least taking a breath. And it’s the perfect time to connect in with your inner wisdom to listen for its guidance.

The moon is currently moving through the sign of Pisces, the final sign of the zodiac. As it moves through Pisces it reminds us that things must come to an end so that new things can emerge.

One of my favourite aspects of the energy of Pisces is that it can help us connect us to our dreams, imagination and inspiration – this is the home of your power and magick, and yet aspects of ourselves that we can be quick to overlook or dismiss.

So, today we use the MMM’s to take a pause and reconnect to you the value of your imagination and dreaming.

1. Magick: Something for you to journal about

What do you need to release to find more peace?

We can often focus on doing more or becoming more efficient so that we can get more done and become more productive.

Even though the science tells us, and our bodies wish we’d remember, that we can actually get more done after resting, and feel so much better about it too.

When we create more space we can reconnect to what’s really important to us.

When we make this space the magick happens.

 

★ Tip: What can you quit this week? What can you consciously decide not to do, so that you create space for yourself to breathe and reconnect to your magick and what’s actually important to you.

2. Mastery: Something for you to think about

“If you have built castles in the air, your work need not be lost; that is where they should be. Now put the foundations under them.” – ― Henry David Thoreau.”

Making the time to reconnect to your imagination and simply daydream about whatever delicious vision you feel called to dream into, is a wildly powerful thing to do.

Now isn’t a time for working out the ‘how’ you will make your dreams happen or as Thoreau said putting ‘the foundations under them’, that comes with the First Quarter Moon energy next week.

Right now is a time to dream, and with that Piscean energy, let yourself dream as big and deep as your imagination will let you, it will never be ‘lost’ or wasted time.

Notice if any resistance comes up for you as you prioritise daydreaming today. If so, where does that resistance/judgment come from?

Can you give yourself permission to spend 5-minutes daydreaming for no other reason than it’s fun and nourishing for your soul and creative self?

 

★ Tip: You can daydream with your imagination, by creating art, journaling, playing an instrument, moving your body… Dream in anyway that feels good to you!.

3. Momentum: Action for you to take

Connect with your intuition

Take some time to connect with your intuition.

What message does your higher-self have for you?

During this New Moon, focus on asking questions around:

    • How to make a deeper connection to your spiritual self
    • How to connect to your sacred purpose
    • What you need to focus on to recharge your spiritual energy
    • What you need to leg go of
    • What needs healing in your life

To find these answers you could:

    • Journal
    • Use your favourite tool of divination
    • Meditate

    ★ Tip: if you’d love to become more confident interpreting the messages from your intuition, join me for my Introduction to Charm Casting class this Thursday.

    I’d love to know which of the three MMM’s you’re going try so that you can dream more, come and let me know over in our community.

    With love and New Moon magick!

    Rebecca xo

    PS Don’t forget that if you want to learn how to use Charm Casting as a fun way of connecting with your intuition, join me this Thursday on my intro course: Join me for this live class

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    Why You Need to Start Putting Yourself First, and How to Do It

    Why You Need to Start Putting Yourself First, and How to Do It

    As you start to listen for your intuition, it can feel overwhelming at first. Your senses become more aware and heightened and you start to notice all of the different feelings, and even twinges, in your body.

    We’ve spoken before about how to tell the difference between these feelings, and to make sure that the messages you receive are from your intuition and not your fear.

    As your awareness grows, it’s good to remind yourself that this is a practice, and with practice everything becomes easier.

    I often think about when I first learnt to drive a car (a manual one). To start with, trying to find the gears was clunky. I’d look to see where the gear stick was, and I’d have to consciously remember where the indicator was to make sure I didn’t turn the windscreen wipers on by mistake….

    But very quickly, it all became very normal, and I didn’t need to look where things were. I just knew.

    The same is true with your intuition, at first it might seem clunky, and considered, but very quickly, you just know.

    To help you step into the energy of ‘just knowing’, it’s important that you can fill yourself up with your essence, so that you know what’s yours, and what’s not; what feelings, dreams and desires are yours, and what you’ve ‘absorbed’ from the people and the world around you.

    Being a British woman, I love to say the following, as it’s most definitely not what most of us have been taught here in the UK, and that’s:

     

    YOU NEED TO BE FULL OF YOURSELF

     No doubt some of the people who read that reacted and judged it.

    Of course they did.

    And yet, any discomfort aside, you do need to give yourself permission to become full of yourself.

    To give yourself permission to take up space with ALL of you; your thoughts, feelings, dreams, desires, and your physicality.

    We’re conditioned to in the UK; not getting too big for our boots, in the US; not to get too big for your britches, and Australia they have tall poppy syndrome. No doubt every country has something similar.

    All of these sayings and beliefs are there to encourage people to play small, be accommodating, and be selfless.

    ‘Selfless’. Selfless is made to sound virtuous… but really ‘self-less’… why on earth is it celebrated to be without your self?

    When surely it’s the very act of being your-self, your whole self, that makes you the incredible person that you are, the incredible, fully-expressed person you have the potential to be?

     

    Now being full of yourself, doesn’t mean that you become a horrible person and never care about anyone ever again.

    But it does mean that you become discerning about your own needs, and how you use your time, energy, and resources.

    It does mean that you get used to prioritising your needs, over the needs, and comfort, of other people. Of course, there will be compromises, and times where you do put others first, but these become the conscious choice; the exception, and not the expectation.

    Another reason it’s soooo important to be FULL OF YOURSELF, is from an energetic perspective.

    I’ve spent the last 20+ years working with the energy therapy, Kinesiology.

    I’ve worked with 1000’s and 1000’s of clients, mainly women, and without question, there’s a pattern.

    The women who don’t believe in themselves, or who don’t trust themselves, or don’t know what they truly want from life, or have lost connection with their dreams, desires, and inner power, the women who aren’t full of their own essence, are full of other people’s judgments and expectations.

    And yes, that’s as horrid as it sounds!

    When you aren’t full of your own hopes and dreams, there’s space in your body and energy, for you to hold the energetic judgements and expectations of others.

    This then muddies the waters of what you do want, as it gets blurred by the energy and desires of other people.

    If you’ve ever made a decision, and then ended up doubting yourself and not taking action, your own clarity has been muddied by the energy of other people.

    For you to be focused, aligned, and on-purpose, and for you to be able to hear your intuition with clarity and confidence, it’s essential that you become full of yourself, and not a shell of a person, trying to live up to everyone else’s expectations.

     

    Think about where you might not be showing up fully in your life.

    Are there any places in your life where you play small to make other people feel more comfortable, or to avoid being judged?

    Although you may not become ‘full of yourself’ overnight, you will start to notice where you aren’t full of your own hopes, dreams and desires, and that’s a powerful start. Because, once you notice, you start to unravel those old stories and patterns, creating the space to re-write your own stories and consciously choose how you respond to life, rather than react.

    You create the space to be able to hear your intuition so that you can make choices that are right for you, rather than choices that harm you.

    How your body responds differently to intuition and trauma

    How your body responds differently to intuition and trauma

    I want to talk about the difference between fear and trauma responses in your body and your intuition.

    When you start to listen for your intuition, you become more aware of the feelings and sensations in your body.

    Not all of these sensations will be your intuition.

     

    So how can you tell the difference?

    People can often struggle to understand what’s their intuition, and question whether they were receiving intuitive guidance or if it was something different.

    Every moment of the day, your body is giving you feedback.

    Many of these messages come from life experiences and are designed to keep you safe.

    However, a trauma or experience that happened in the past may be stored in your body as fear. Then, every time you encounter a similar situation, your body goes into super protection mode, sending you messages that you aren’t safe.

    When you receive these messages, you may interpret them as your intuition telling you that this person is ‘bad’ and to be avoided, or that an opportunity isn’t right for you.

    When you start to work with your intuition, it’s essential to get to know yourself really well.

    You need to learn to regulate your nervous system so that you can tell the difference between an emotional encounter and the wisdom of your intuition.

    Helping to regulate your nervous system is as simple as giving yourself a moment to take a breath.

    When you feel something that could be your intuition, notice the sensation you feel.

    Where do you feel it in your body?

    How emotionally charged does it – and do you – feel?

    If you do feel charged, take a couple of slow deep breaths and exhale fully.

    Witness the feeling, then become present in your body and breathe through it.

    How do you feel now?

    Close your eyes, put your hand on your heart and remind yourself that you’re safe.

     

    Keep a record

    Start to keep a record of anything you think is your intuition.

    Note down how the message felt,

    • Where did you feel it in your body?
    • Was it accompanied by any emotion
    • What happened when you listened to the ‘intuition’?
    • What was the outcome of taking action on what you thought was your intuition?

    Keeping a record of these things will help you to untangle the messages of your emotions, stored trauma and fear, and your actual intuition.

     

    Clarity

    You’ll be able to clearly identify if the information you received was an intuitive hit, or if a situation triggered you to feel an emotionally charged reaction.  

    You may do the same when it comes to making a choice, especially one that would require you to step out of your comfort zone.

    You may feel the answer is not to take the opportunity. But it could be fear. You could be intellectualising the reason why you shouldn’t do it, and thinking it’s your intuition guiding you.

     

    Intuition is subtle and nuanced.

    In my experience, if there are highly charged emotions attached to the guidance you receive from your body, that’s not your intuition.

    People have spent most of their lives ignoring their intuition because they didn’t actually know what it was, let alone being able to interpret and trust the messages.

    And humans can often love drama. It’s loud and exciting – and in an already noisy world – we can hear it.

    So it’s easy to think that the loud message you heard was your intuition talking to you.

    But hearing your intuition and interpreting its messages, are skills.

    It’s a practice.

    It’s not glamorous or exciting. Instead, it’s a practice that refines your ability to listen for the subtle messages coming from your body and the quality of your energy.

     

    Pay attention to the quality of the messages you receive

    Pay particular attention to the messages that appear neutral and not charged. The ones that are quieter and easier to overlook, are the information that you can more often trust.

    It’s not exciting. It’s just a clear inner-knowing.

    It’s not numb or suppressed. That energy is still charged, but negatively.

    Instead, pay attention and become aware of the energy, information, and messages that are ‘clean’ and clear.

     

    A person I knew, made a significant life-changing decision based on their intuition.

    Except it wasn’t their intuition.

    When I asked them why they thought it was their intuition, they said that they could feel the excitement – like butterflies in their stomach.

    When we dived a bit deeper, it became clear to them that it hadn’t been their intuition guiding them, but fear. They desperately needed a change. What they were feeling was desperation and the hope that this change might be the one they so needed in their life.

    Except it wasn’t.

    That’s not to say that your intuition won’t speak to you as excitement.

    But make sure that you’re clear on how your intuition does speak to you.

    When you do receive a message, slow down. Take a moment to check in with how you feel and how the message feels, and then see if it’s your intuition or an emotional response.

    How to Use Your Intuition When You Feel Overwhelmed About What to Do

    How to Use Your Intuition When You Feel Overwhelmed About What to Do

    How to use your intuition when you feel overwhelmed about what to do blog

    You’d think making a choice would be easy. 

     

    Which option feels the most aligned with your intentions for your future. 

     

    Simple. 

     

    Okay… maybe it’s not that simple. 

     

    You make a choice. 

     

    ‘Yes, that’s what I’m going to do’. 

     

    And then it starts… 

     

    But…. 

     

    Is that the really the right choice for me?

     

    What will xyz think of that choice? 

     

    Can I really do that? 

     

    Isn’t that a bit out of reach for me? 

     

    Am I qualified enough, intelligent enough, rich enough, old enough, young enough, thin enough, funny enough, serious enough… 

     

    When I tried that in the past it didn’t work, am I stupid for thinking it will work this time? 

     

     

    Am I just setting myself up to fail? 

     

    Perhaps I’ll just ask a few people and see what they think. 

     

    Then after you have all the (hopefully) well-intentioned thoughts and let’s face it, emotional baggage that’s been triggered by the decision you’re making, piled on top of your already overworking mind, you still have no idea what choice to make. 

     

    You’ve gone from having an idea about what you wanted to do, to talking yourself out of it, to now drowning under the weight of information, expectations, and should’s – most of which aren’t even your beliefs in the first place. 

     

    No wonder you’re confused! 

     

    But let’s not stop there…

     

    Next, we can add the pressure of getting something ‘right’ or ‘wrong’, as if we think there is only one way to achieve what we want. 

     

    We can put so much pressure on ourselves to make the perfect decision, that we immobilise ourselves and make no decision at all. 

     

    Yet in our quest for perfection, we rarely stop to ask who’s set of rules for perfection we are trying to measure up to; family, societal, cultural? It’s rarely our own. 

     

    The problem is, as humans we’re emotional creatures, we’re full of feelings, we’re sensory beings, yet we pretend we’re not. 

     

    Instead of embracing the messiness and unpredictability of humanness and life, we try to sanitise and control it.

     

    We generally already know what we want to do, but we try to justify our decision to ourselves, and to others.

     

    Then we just get in a tangled mess of what we want, what we think we should want, and what other’s want for us.

     

    No wonder you’re now overwhelmed!

     

    Instead try this.

     

    Next time you have to make a decision, write it down for clarity, then notice how you feel. 

     

    Stop what you’re doing and pay attention to how your physical body feels. 

     

    What’s the quality of your energy and thoughts? 

     

    There will be two types of feelings in your body’s response to the choice you need to make. 

     

    One response will be fear that shows up as overwhelm. 

     

    The other will be your intuition guiding you to the choice that’s best for you. 

     

    Here’s how to sense the difference. 

     

    Fear feels:

    • Heavy
    • Restrictive
    • Negatively charged emotionally
    • Anxious, frustrated
    • Vague
    • Like you’restuck in a loop 

     

    Intuition feels:

    • Light
    • Expansive
    • Neutral; it just is
    • Clear and calm
    • Full of opportunity and hope
    • It feels ‘right’, but not in a way that makes sense logically, but you just ‘know’

     

    By stopping to notice how you feel, you’ll be able to cut through the noise of overwhelm, expectations, and should’s. 

     

    You can step out of the energy of ‘what if it all goes wrong’, and into the energy of ‘what if it all goes better than I imagined’. 

     

    One thing’s for sure you can’t think your way out of overwhelm. You don’t need more thoughts you need more clarity. 

     

    You create clarity by creating space. That means removing some of the thoughts that aren’t helpful (and that aren’t yours). 

     

    Imagine you were moving into a new house. 

     

    You turn up with your removal van and start to unload your furniture. 

     

    When you open the door to your new home, the previous people have left all of their furniture behind. But instead of clearing out the house first, you just continue to unpack your belongings and add it to the previous occupants. 

     

    When you’ve finished unpacking it’s going to be squashed, messy, and you’ll have very little space to do all the things you’d dreamed of doing in your new home. 

     

    And yet that’s what we do when we try and think our way out of overwhelm. 

     

    What we need to do is the same as moving house. You need to start by removing the previous occupants stuff, clean the house, and then you can start to move your furniture in, creating the home that you desire; one where you feel safe, protected, nourished and nurtured. 

     

    Just like when you need to make a decision, you need to remove the previous occupant’s stuff; consider this identifying and removing the fears, expectations and should’s. 

     

    Then you clean the house; this is you getting clear on what you want from life. 

     

    And finally, you bring in your own furniture; you get to create the life that you want, and choose the decisions that move you in that direction. 

     

    So, when you next feel overwhelmed, take a moment to stop and give yourself the chance to notice the nudges and messages, from your intuition. 

     

    Then take action. 

     

    Actions create movement.

     

    Movement and the direction of travel can always be amended. 

     

    Being stuck in the loop of overwhelm just gets you thinking in circles and going nowhere. 

     

    Choose to be a perfectly imperfect, messy and complicated human, it’s much more fulfilling, fun, and full of adventures. 

     

    The other option is, well… I’ll let you fill in the blank ____________ 

    How to use your intuition when you feel overwhelmed about what to do
    Learn how to get in touch with your intuition with a modern day witch

    Learn how to get in touch with your intuition with a modern day witch

    Years ago, I was listening to a radio interview with Ray Mears, an outdoor survival expert, and someone had asked him how to get the most out of their up-coming trip to the jungle.

     

    His response has always stayed with me.

     

    Not because I’m off to the jungle, but because they’re words to live by, especially when developing your relationship with your intuition. 

     

    He said, and I’m paraphrasing: 

     

    “Walk into the jungle and stop. Let the jungle come to you.”

     

    Wow! 

     

    I just love that for soooo many reasons. 

     

    Stop, and let the jungle come to you. 

     

    I mean of course… it’s so obvious. If you go stomping through the jungle, all the creatures will run away from you, you won’t get to notice all of the incredible diversity that surrounds you, as you’re moving too fast and ‘on a mission’ to see the jungle, rather than experience it. 

     

    How many times do you set an intention, want to hear your intuition, or weave some magic, but you’re being too ‘noisy’ and scaring off, and not noticing, the signs and synchronicities around you?

    It’s like the time I was staying in a hotel in London and overheard a tourist announcing that they had ‘done Europe’, as they had been to London, Paris, and Amsterdam.  

     

    Even though the Tourist was no doubt having a fabulous time and seeing the sights that many people would associate with Europe, people who live in Europe would know that they had anything but ‘done’ Europe, all they’d actually done was tick of a few tourist destination. 

     

    Of course, there’s absolutely nothing wrong with that, but it’s also important to recognise it for what it is. 

     

    Just like when you’re connecting to your intuition.

     

    If you’re trying to force it, or be a ‘spiritual tourist’ doing the things that have worked for others, rather than exploring what actually works for you, youll only connect with your intuition at the same depth the tourist really connected with Europe. 

     

    There will be some benefit and fun adventures, but you miss the real beauty. 

     

    You need to stop, and let your intuition come to you.

     

    However, stopping is easier said than done in today’s world. 

     

    Life is getting busier, and faster, and noisier. 

     

    Technology is amazing, it’s made so much more of life easier and accessible, it’s also added a different level of stress; a constant ability to be ‘on’.

     

    With many people now working from home, the working and not working time and space has become increasingly blurred.

     

    I saw a meme the other day that I think summed it up, it said: We’re not working from home, we’re sleeping at work.

     

    It’s now more important than ever to disconnect from the noise around us and reconnect to ourselves so that we can get in touch with our intuition and trust ourselves.

     

    A Sacred Pause 

     

    Years ago, I head the term ‘Sacred Pause’ from Molly Remer, who learnt it from Joanna Powell Colbert. 

     

    As soon as I heard the term my body recognised it and sighed ‘yes’.

     

    Stop and let life, your intuition, magic and synchronicities come to you. 

     

    The stopping, the Sacred Pause is at the heart of life. 

     

    Yes, there are times when we need to do, and achieve, and push forwards. 

     

    But the pause, the rest, and the stopping are equally important.

     

    I like to think of it as walking the labyrinth. 

     

    When you walk a labyrinth, you enter with intention, often to seek the answer to a question you hold in your heart.

     

    As you spiral in, you let go and release all of the things that are preventing you from finding the answer you seek.

     

    Then when you get to the centre you pause.

     

    The Sacred Pause where you allow yourself to assimilate. To allow the answer a chance to come to you.

     

    This is where the transformation and deep connection occurs.

     

    Then when you’re ready, you spiral back out of the labyrinth, transformed, a new person, never to be the same again.

     

    The Sacred Pause being quite literally the heart and the centre of all transformation and deep connection. 

     

    • Choose to consciously pause.
    • Choose to notice your energy.
    • Choose to let life come to you.

     

    When you stop, you become aware of the nuances of life, the diversity of the energy around you. 

     

    You begin to become aware of what’s your energy and what belongs to other people.

     

    When you get that kind of clarity you begin to trust yourself as you can sense your intuition and hear its wisdom as it cuts through the noise of judgements, expectations, and shoulds.

     

    Everyone is intuitive, it’s not reserved for people that are ‘special’.

     

    EVERYONE is intuitive and can access their intuitive wisdom. 

     

    If you don’t trust your intuition, feel like you can’t hear it, or find yourself doubting it, you just need to take a Sacred Pause so you can learn to cut out the noise and hear yourself again.

     

    I’ve created super simple practice based on the Sacred Pause, it takes about 5-10 minutes to do. It will cut out the noise and reconnect you to your intuition simply CLICK HERE to access it.

    Should you trust your intuition when you take an instant dislike to someone? 

    Should you trust your intuition when you take an instant dislike to someone? 

    Should you trust your intuition

     

    “I knew this would happen. I just had a feeling when I meet him, but he seemed okay so I just ignored it”.

    These were the words I’d heard too many times before.

    When Rachel* met Simon* she felt something wasn’t right, but couldn’t put her finger on it.

    Everyone else seemed to think he was lovely; so charming and funny, that she squashed her own intuition, assuming not everyone else could be wrong.

    It must be her.

    Perhaps she was tired or being too quick to judge, he was being very attentive and charming…

    Yet here they were, a month later, and her best friend in tears at the way Simon had treated her.

    Rachel now kicking herself because somehow, she knew he was trouble, but she didn’t believe in herself enough to say anything. Of course, her friend would still make her own decisions, but still… she regretted not saying anything at the time.

     

    How many times have you found yourself in similar situations?

    After the event, the heartache, the disappointment, wishing you had trusted those first impressions, that initial feeling, knowing you’d already intuitively known this was the likely outcome.

    How many times have you said (or thought to yourself) those awful words: “I knew this was going to happen, I just had a feeling”?

    You’d known.

    Your intuition had given you the information you needed, and you’d ignored it.

    You know that listening to your intuition can save you much pain and heartache, and yet why is it so tricky to trust it?

    Listening to your intuition can help you avoid unhealthy relationships and opportunities that don’t support you.

    People will always have opinions and ideas about what’s best for you, some of these will be well-intended, and some will, unfortunately, come from a place of wanting to deceive and/or control you.

    It’s true, you can often tell instantly if someone’s idea is good for you or not, no matter how well-intentioned, and you intuitively know if someone does have your best interests at heart.

    It’s equally true, that you can often override your intuition. In fact, for most of your life, you may have dismissed your intuition, maybe you’ve even been encouraged by others to override this inner wisdom.

    Ways you can dismiss your intuition:

    • You can doubt yourself by overthinking the situation and listening to the (many) opinions of others.
    • Unconscious bias, assumptions, and judgements can drown out the wisdom of your intuition.
    • Shoulds and expectations can have you thinking that you have to override your initial insights into a situation, so that you don’t ‘make a fuss’, disappoint others, or let them down.
    • You don’t want to listen to your intuition because your desire for the opportunity/person/status is bigger than your intuitive voice.
    • Previous trauma can leave you disconnected to your own experiences, leaving you not trusting yourself or your intuition.

    There are many reasons why your initial thoughts or judgements about a person may be wrong.

    You may take an instant dislike to someone because of your own unconscious bias, your judgements, or previous experiences that you subconsciously project on to them.

    These are not helpful or trustworthy.

    But there is a way to bypass these unhelpful ‘first impressions’ and reconnect to your intuition and your inner wisdom.

    A way that helps you to learn to interpret your inner wisdom and untangle it from the unhelpful judgements.

    How to trust your intuition when you first meet someone:

    Most importantly notice what your energy does when you meet someone.

    Your energy is quite different from your emotions and feelings, ask yourself;

    • Does your energy expand or contract around this person?
    • Does your heart intuition pull you forward towards them, or does your gut intuition back you away from them?
    • Do you feel empowered or drained in their company?
    • Do you feel neutral or uplifted, or drained and disempowered, after spending time with them?
    • Would you feel the same if you were your best self; nourished, rested and confident, and all of your needs were taken care of?
    • Do you feel seen, heard, and respected in the interaction you had with them?
    • Do you feel valued in the interaction?
    • Are you trying to control the situation involving them?
    • Is fear or opportunity leading any potential future relationship with them (platonic or otherwise)?
    • How much is your desire for the idea of them, or what they can offer, leading your thoughts?

    Intuition is like any muscle. The more you use it, the stronger it becomes.

    Knowing if you should you trust someone when you take an instant dislike to them becomes easier the more you start to listen to and trust your intuition, in all areas of your life.

    To start with you’ll need to untangle feelings, emotions, and judgements from your intuition. When you notice a feeling, emotion, or judgement, observe it.

    How does it feel?

    Where do you feel it?

    Judgements evoke feelings and emotions.

    Feelings and emotions move through you. They’re designed to bring your attention to something; often to let you know if your own behaviour, or that of others, is aligned with you, your values and your boundaries.

    Feelings and emotions that you label ‘good’ mean you’re likely aligned with and on your path, leaving you with a sense of empowerment.

    Feelings and emotions that you label ‘uncomfortable’ or ‘bad’ indicate you or others are dishonouring your values and boundaries, moving you away from your path and leaving you dis-empowered.

    Once they’ve given you the information, they can then move on (if you let them).

    Your intuition is much more grounded.

    It’s a deep, inner-knowing, a quiet inner-presence, coming from within.

    It doesn’t just pass through your body, it’s part of you. Your intuition becomes louder or quieter but doesn’t leave.

    Your intuition doesn’t pass judgement.

    It focuses purely on you.

    Next time you meet someone, and you instantly dislike them, check-in with yourself, and your energy, to see if the information you’ve received is an intuitive insight.

    If it is, give yourself permission to leave.

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    Have you ever walked into a room and just known that something wasn’t right?

    No-one said anything, nothing looked obviously out of place… but you just knew?

    Maybe you left the room, made your excuses to leave or kept your guard up?

    Either way, you trusted that little voice or feeling.

    Perhaps when you’re talking to a friend or member of your family, you get a feeling that something’s not right? Maybe the story they’re sharing or the situation feels ‘off’ to you?

    But instead of trusting this (same) feeling, you override this inner-knowing with logic or justifications, or just plain ignore it.

    Then there’s that voice that tells you that you’ve done something wrong (again), that you’re (still) not good enough or that you don’t deserve what you desire (and never will).

    Why do you choose to listen to some types of information and not others?

    And more importantly, how do you know which information you should listen to?

    The first two examples are your intuition communicating with you.

    The third example is your inner critic.

     

    So, what is intuition?

    Your intuition is your immediate, often unexplained, understanding of something.

    It usually comes as a moment of clarity or a deep knowing about something that you couldn’t logically know or explain.

     

    What is your inner critic?

    Your inner critic is your fears disguised as good intentions or your ‘truth’. However, these messages are based in fear and want to prevent you from moving forward and making change.

     

    The difference between intuition and your inner critic

    We’re going to look at intuition today, but the key thing to remember is that your intuition will NEVER say anything negative about you or someone else. It will also never encourage you to harm yourself or others in any way (physically, emotionally or mentally).

    If you hear anything negative or that sounds like you’re being ‘told off’, that’s your inner critic trying to stop your growth. And you don’t have to listen to it.

    A few years ago, I interviewed Becky Walsh and I loved what she had to say about intuition.

    She said that we have two types of intuition: heart intuition, and gut intuition.

     

    Heart intuition pulls us forward.

    It shows us what’s aligned for us to be doing. Perhaps you feel it when you know it’s time to change jobs, start a new career or leave a relationship.

     

    Gut intuition moves us ‘back’

    It moves us away from dancger.

    You meet someone who just feels ‘off’, or you get a sensation not to walkdown a certain road. That’s your gut intuition keeping you safe.

    Often, if we’re not overly invested in the situation, we can recognise our intuitive message quickly and act accordingly. We remove ourselves from a situation, choose a different route or choose not to becomes friends with certain people we’ve just met.

    It becomes trickier to interpret these messages when we’re more heavily invested in the outcome. For example, it might involve people we care about or the life choices we have to make for ourselves.

    It’s easy for us to talk ourselves out of our intuitive insight.

    Our intuitive insight -that moment of clarity – comes in fast, and may only last for a second or two.

    And yet in that moment, we’re certain in our choice or experience.

    Then, almost as quickly, the noise returns.

    We’re so used to thinking things through and looking at something from all angles that we don’t trust the speed and clarity of our intuition.

     

    Intelligence, logic, and reason are essential to our experience of life, and so is our intuition

    It’s not about prioritising one over the other but being able to recognise both.

    However, instead of valuing both, we try and reason with our intuition. We may ask for another sign, searching for ‘proof’ and validation of its message. We may pull the intuitive message apart so much that there’s nothing left of it.

    Then we feel confused, overwhelmed and unsure if we can trust ourselves.

    The thoughts and reasoning we usually rely on are based on the conditioning of our past.

    The stories we believe are the judgements and expectations of our families, cultures, and society at large.

    Those beliefs may not be true for you, yet you try and contort yourself to conform to their shape and expectations. It’s what you’ve been taught to do.

    Getting caught up in trying to please other people, trying to fit in or living in accordance with other people’s values, disconnects from our own inner-knowing.

     

    These judgements and expectations become louder than our own inner guidance.

    We end up not listening to our intuition. Instead we override it and make poor decisions. We stay in jobs and relationships that we’ve outgrown. We turn a blind eye to behaviours that go against our own standards. We make excuses for people.

    Your intuition is that quiet voice that speaks to you and you just know it to be true. Maybe it’s a whisper, a feeling pulling you forward or the quiet voice encouraging you to make the changes you desire or telling you to try again.

    When you’re not sure what to do next, or feeling lost, confused or overwhelmed, take a moment to get quiet. Place your hand over your heart and just feel into and listen to that quiet voice inside – not the external noise telling you what to do, but the quiet,  calm voice of inner-knowing.

    Tune in and then follow what feels best for you. Don’t seek external validation or want other people to understand your choices.

     

    Listen for your intuition and learn to trust yourself again

    Do you need some help shutting out the noise so that you can hear your intuition?

    If so, I’ve created a quick and easy practice that you can incorporate into your day to help you reconnect to your intuition and make the choices that are right for you.

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