It’s getting exciting now. Are you ready to embody your truth?
Now, of course, ‘Embody Your Truth’, three words that sound very, very simple, but just feel into that for a moment. What does embodying your truth mean to you?
If you were to embody and embrace all of your truth, how would you show up in the world?
Would it be different than you do now?
Would you have to change jobs, careers, friendship groups, hobbies?
Would you have to say yes to more opportunities?
Push yourself out of your comfort zone a bit more.
Would you have to say ‘No’ to certain people and behaviours?
Do you feel safe to embody your truth?
These are big questions.
Three little words ‘Embody Your Truth’ come with a whole load of stuff…
Now, hopefully as you’ve been working through this program, you’re getting a better sense of who you are, how you want to show up in the world.
What is your truth?
You might start to realise that there’s changes you need to make, that there’s things that are out of alignment.
Being a woman, and of course men go through this too, but particularly I think for women it’s difficult for us to embody our truth because as women we’re judged.
Maybe you’ve been shamed, maybe you’ve been told your voice doesn’t matter.
Maybe you were told that little girls should be seen and not heard.
Maybe you’ve been dismissed, being told that you’re just a woman or you’re just a stay at home mom or you’re just a career woman. Whatever it is, but you’ve been silenced in the past.
And that adds into this fuel of thinking that we can’t embody our truth because it’s shameful because it’s hurtful because it’s not safe for us to do so.
So we ended up not speaking out.
We put up with toxic relationships.
We become self conscious.
We suppress all fears and desires.
And I think a lot of that stems back to… I’m a woman of a certain age, 41… I grew up with ‘Once upon a time’ stories everywhere.
In fairy tales the role models of women… thank goodness it’s so much different today, but it’s still very much there as the undercurrent. The women portrayed were princesses that needed rescuing or villainous women, which is evil stepmom. I was a stepmom and, I always used to say, ‘I’m step-mom, but the good kind’. The evil step-mother archetype was so ingrained in me, that I always had to add that I was the good kind of step-mum.
So there’s the energy of either having to be rescued or being evil. And it’s, and it’s the same if you look at business women, if they shout in a boardroom, they are called shrill, and if a man does it, he’s just being powerful.
There’s a double standard energy that can keep a woman quiet, silenced. It can make her not want to stand out. Maybe she doesn’t want the extra attention, whatever it may be.
It’s time to break down that energy.
This stage is really is about understanding how you see yourself in the world.
Identifying if there are any things that are keeping you smaller, because I want you to take up all the space again.
Take up all of the space as you become more confident in who you are in the gifts that you have in the way you want to express yourself, the way you want to dress, the way you want to talk, the activities you want to spend your time on, because this is all about embodying your truth.
It’s also about boundaries. What you say yes to, and what you say no to. And now it starts become how you express it in the world.
When we looked about OWNING and WORTHINESS, it was very much like an internal process. You had to decide to OWN your gifts, to PRIORITISE your needs. Now it’s time to start expressing it out in the world.
How you show up, how you show up more confidently, how you want to be perceived, how you, how you want to show up in every area of your life, so go back to your SHEro Wheel that we did in the beginning.
How do you want to show up with family and friends?
How do you want to show up in your career?
How do you want to show up in service?
It’s time to OWN it, become more emboldened and more courageous in the way that you show up as you break through these old patterns of how women have been portrayed.
Earlier I asked who were the women role models you had when you grew up, and who are the role models you could have now?
One of the exercises in this section is a beautiful exercise called the SHEro Circle and you get to meet all nine of the SHEro’s . The idea is that you start with the Innocent SHEro and journey and all the way through to the Wise Woman SHEro, and each of them, you have all of the nine SHEro archetypes within you, and you get to draw out the wisdom and information they have to share with you.
The Innocent SHEro will help you discover how to play.
The Intuitive SHEro will help you to discover how to become more intuitive, to trust your intuition, and you travel through them all, right through to the Wise Woman SHEro who’s going to show you how to become more connected to your wisdom, how to own that wisdom and to really show up fully. T.
Then of course we have the meditation and this one is: ‘I fully embody who I am’.
So if you have any fears about showing up fully in the fullness, the richness juiciness of who you are, this is the meditation for you.
Listen to it once, listen to once a day, listen to it on repeat. It’s entirely up to you. ‘I fully embody who I am’.
Just feel those words.
‘I fully embody who I am’.
How do they feel? Do they feel calm, comfortable, and you’re like, yes, I’m ready. Or are you thinking that you’re ready in one area but not all areas.
It doesn’t matter. There’s no right or wrong. It’s just information. Go back, listen to the meditation and allow yourself just to embody a little more, a little more, a little more, a little more. And then you realise: yes, I’m here.!
As always there’s the colouring sheets as well. Get you out of your intellectual mind and just dreaming: how can I, embody my truth more colour, colour, colour, colour. Oh yeah. This is what I can do. This is how I can show up. Oh my goodness, I’ve been running that pattern of behaviour., well, that stops right now.
It just gives you more information so that you can move forward with confidence embodying the truth of who you are.
Isn’t that exciting? Yes. ?
Thank you for doing the work. We need more women who are ready to show up in the fullness of who they are. So I will see you in a moment for the last section.
For women to speak their truth, and feel empowered (and safe) to do so, has been one of the biggest challenges that people have come to see me about over the last 20 years of practising the energy therapy Kinesiology.
This can range from speaking up about things they care about, following their dreams, breaking free from toxic families, friends, and relationships, to being too self-conscious to wear what they truly want to.
There are many reasons this is difficult for people, just a few include:
Questions for you to consider:
As you were growing up, how were strong and independent women spoken about by your parents or caregivers?
Do you always embody and express your truth, or are there times when it seems easier to stay quiet?
How would your life be if you embodied your truth in all areas of your life?
‘Once Upon a Time’ and ‘Happily Ever After’
These are probably two of the most recognisable statements in story telling history, and a real reason as to why it’s hard for women to EMBODY and express their truth.
As you think back to your childhood, what books did you read?
The chances are at some point you were enchanted by the richly symbolic, and mystical world of Princesses, evil Step-Mums and the heroic Princes of classic fairytales.
The tales of Snow White, Rapunzel, Red Riding Hood and Cinderella fed my imagination, evil Step-Mums and ugly Witches filled me with anticipation, and the Prince let me know that everything was going to be okay.
As much as I loved to read these stories when I was a child, what were they really teaching me as a young and impressionable girl? Who were these role models that I entered the lives of?
In fairytales there are several female archetypes that are portrayed, and you can usually tell what kind of character they are, simply by the way that they look.
If you were young and attractive, you were the good girl. The lovable, innocent.
If you were old and ugly, you were likely to be the villain of the story.
The good girl would accept her life and not make any trouble, think about Cinderella, she wasn’t treated well at all, yet made no attempt to challenge her ‘ugly’ sisters, or continue to protest until she got a better deal.
Instead a good girl would dream, and patiently wait for her Prince Charming to take control of her destiny by rescuing her and whisking her away – often to be married.
The unattractive women in the stories would be viewed with suspicion, and rightly so, as these characters often proved to be the scheming, vindictive, vain, jealous types, who often dabbled in magic and sorcery – think of the Step-Mum’s in Snow White, Cinderella and Hansel and Gretel, you really wouldn’t want to leave your children with them!
Being young and beautiful wasn’t without its dangers. This danger didn’t come from men, as you might expect, but from other women, often the Step Mum’s or ageing Queens. There was no learning to celebrate and support of power Sisterhood here!
These villainous women were often portrayed as strong and determined. They knew their own minds and wanted to change their life (often to appear to be more youthful), and had the audacity to do this without a man by their side!
This ideal suggests to the reader that there is a link between an empowered and ambitious woman who knows what she wants from life, and a woman who has an evil character.
Of course although we know these are stories, and not all stories have these characters, we can’t help but pick up on the suggested roles and have it permeate into our subconscious.
I mean who doesn’t instantly recognise an image of a witch, Red Riding Hood, Sleeping Beauty or Prince Charming?
If only one person was subject to these stereotypes, it might not be so bad, but it’s not just us that read these tales, it’s generations of people that have read them. They become part of our heritage. These roles are strengthened through movies, adverts and many aspects of popular culture.
Of course things are changing, but these roles are still deeply ingrained in the collective consciousness.
Obviously I KNOW these are just fairytales, but when I became a Step Mum, I always had a pang of wanting to say ‘but not the evil kind’.
One role that I have always found the most interesting is that of the Witch.
Rarely getting any good press, and often described as old and ugly, she has become a character to be feared and persecuted.
There is so much power in the word ‘Witch’ that still today many people are afraid to embrace this archetype of the Wise Woman, lest they be cast out and persecuted too.
Yet if we think about what a Witch really stands for, she is the ultimate self-empowered woman.
“Traditionally female archetypes get power from other people. Think about things like the mother, the queen, the daughter — these are all lovely archetypes for women, and yet they’re deriving their power from their relation to other people, whereas the witch, she has power unto herself. She perhaps draws power from something greater than herself or from nature, but it’s really coming from within herself. It’s not because it’s in relation to someone else. She’s self-defining in the same way women are defining themselves today.” Pam Grossman
Questions for you to consider:
What was your favourite classic fairytale growing up as a child?
How were the female characters portrayed?
What was the role of the male characters?
Can you see any of these patterns/beliefs playing out in your life?
What do you think of how Pam Grossman describes the Witch archetype for today’s women?
Think of one area of your life (of course you can do more, afterwards, but just start with one), and then take your notebook and pen, and ask the members of the SHEro Circle, how you can embody and express more of your true self:
Imagine that you are sat in the middle of a circle with eight woman sat around you.
These eight women embody the SHEo Archetypes, and you are the Edge-Walker who can move between these women with ease.