Listen. Because listening’s important:
Hi and welcome to the Re-Enchant Your Life reminder.
Your sacred pause in the day where you’re encouraged to take a moment to stop and tune into your inner wisdom and become present, so that you can reconnect to your personal power and confidently embrace who you’re becoming, as you Re-Enchant Your life and create the change you truly desire.
Today you’re being reminded to pay attention to how you talk to yourself.
Are you kind and compassionate to yourself, or are you your own harshest critic?
Empower yourself by paying attention.
When you notice yourself being critical, judgmental or harsh on yourself, if you find yourself dismissing your hopes and dreams, or you feel your energy dropping, just stop.
You have the, the authority and permission to interrupt this pattern.
Choose thoughts that consciously encourage you.
Choose thoughts that believe in you and lift you up.
Choose thoughts that allow you to make mistakes, and honours the value, and courage, in trying, and then trying again.
Choose thoughts that don’t demand the false construct of perfection.
When you can interrupt the critical and judgemental thoughts, the limiting patterns, and often habitual behaviours, your confidence will grow.
As you do this, feel the pressure release, as it’s replaced by hope.
Laugh, play and smile with and at yourself.
Notice when you fall into an old pattern, and playfully roll your eyes at yourself, not to criticise yourself, but to make light of the situation as you bring awareness to it.
Appreciate your efforts and become your own best friend.
In this very moment, just pause and take a breath, as you feel your inner confidence grow.
Today’s SHEro Action:
Today’s SHEro action is to pay attention to your self-talk.
Notice the words you use and listen to its tone.
As you listen to the voice, ask yourself is it your voice, or is it remnants of the voice of a parent, a teacher, a spiritual or community leader…
Each time you hear something negative, change it.
You might want to say ‘thank you, but that’s no longer true’, or you may give yourself a knowing chuckle as you catch yourself repeating these old patterns. Be kind to yourself, and then remind yourself why you are worthy of your own friendship
Pause, and take a breath. Allow yourself to say something nice to yourself.
Today’s Affirmation:
“Each day, I find it easier to be kind to myself”
I’ll see you tomorrow for your daily reminder to Re-Enchant Your Life with me, Rebecca-Anuwen,
In the meantime, enjoy being kinder to you!
PostScript
When I was 20 I used to do volunteer work at a youth centre on the south coast of England.
And whilst there, I was there I was lucky enough to do a year-long psychology course. The training was to make me more effective at working with the people in the youth centre, many of whom had challenges, but in actual fact it was really beneficial for me.
The training helped me to understand how I communicated with myself and then of course once we know how we communicate with ourselves, we become much better at communicating and supporting other people.
One of the most important things that I remember from that course was learning about self-talk, I hadn’t realised how negatively I spoke to myself, and when I asked myself that question ‘is this my voice?’, I realised it wasn’t, it was expectations of family, and what I’d been taught about society, it was comments teachers had made to me.
One of the things we tried on this class, was instead of berating yourself for talking badly to yourself was to actually own our expertise in talking negatively to ourselves, saying things like ‘Oh my goodness, I’m the best at talking badly to myself’. And as soon as you do that, it steps you out of the situation, it gives you space to pause and to remember that you’re more than the thoughts in your mind.
Once you can break that pattern you make the space to hold yourself with compassion, you make the space for you to think clearly, you make the space to choose supportive thoughts.
So as silly as it may seem, when you find yourself feeling down or stuck in the spiral of decline of negative self-talk, ask yourself first of all: is this my voice? And straight away that separates you from the intensity of the words, and then own the fact that you’re probably a master at talking negatively to yourself, and then again once you create that space, that recognition that you’ve done it again, interrupts the pattern and you get to choose something different, and that power to step back and choose something different is where your power is .
