Listen. Because listening’s important:
Hi and welcome to the Re-Enchant Your Life reminder.
Your sacred pause in the day where you’re encouraged to take a moment to stop and tune into your inner wisdom and become present, so that you can reconnect to your personal power and confidently embrace who you’re becoming, as you Re-Enchant Your life and create the change you truly desire.
Today you’re being reminded to be real.
It can be more important to focus on being real than on being nice.
Nice is what women are often taught to be.
The good girls, the looking after people, the prioritising the needs of others before themselves.
They can be taught be pleasant and not make a fuss.
To be the peacekeepers, the bridge builders.
Authenticity is replaced with a façade of niceness.
Boundaries are trodden on, if they even existed at all.
It’s time to honour yourself, your feelings and your energy.
Protect your space.
Be discerning about who or what you allow in, or at least what of theirs you take on.
Be true to yourself.
Show up in the realness of who you are.
You can still be nice, but this time it will come from a place deep within, fuelled by love and connection, and not from a place of ‘should’.
You will be nice from a place of power and choice, and not a place of fear, habit or expectation.
In this very moment, pause, and take a breath. As you allow yourself to be real.
Today’s SHEro Action:
Today’s SHEro action is to acknowledge those areas where you wear the façade of ‘niceness’.
Where you put others needs before yourself, because it’s expected of you.
Where you don’t speak up about your thoughts, feelings or needs, because you’re concerned about how you will be received.
How can you be more real today, in a way that feels safe and authentic to you?
Perhaps it could be in what you do, what you wear, or who you spend your time with.
Maybe it’s spending time journaling about your truth so that you start to be real and honest with yourself first.
Pause, and take a breath. As you allow yourself to drop any façades that aren’t yours to carry.
“I choose being real over being nice”
I’ll see you tomorrow for your daily reminder to Re-Enchant Your Life with me, Rebecca-Anuwen,
In the meantime, enjoy being real on Your SHEro’s Journey!
I love working with Archetypes.
They hold so much information about who we are and what drives us.
They can explain to us patterns of behaviours that we appear to fall in to.
Everything about us is connected to our archetypal patterns.
They can be hugely powerful, and yet they can also hold us back.
When I teach about these Archetypal patterns, I usually start with the Innocent SHEro, and her repressed side which shows up as the ‘good girl’.
Often when we begin to explore these patterns of behaviour, and where we discover how these patterns have been amplified in us, or why we’ve taken them on, many women become annoyed and angry.
They realise that instead of being able to explore the curiosity, dreams and wonder of the Innocent SHEro, they’ve instead adopted the ‘good girl’ repressed energy of her, as a way of people pleasing and receiving love and acceptance.
Once we recognise these limiting patterns, we can begin to consciously choose the path we do want to walk.
We can free ourselves of these limits and become more of who we are, we become more real.
We can start to become aware of the façades we’ve been hiding behind and protecting ourselves with and show up in the realness of who we are.