Listen. Because listening’s important:
Hi and welcome to the Re-Enchant Your Life reminder.
Your sacred pause in the day where you’re encouraged to take a moment to stop and tune into your inner wisdom and become present, so that you can reconnect to your personal power and confidently embrace who you’re becoming, as you Re-Enchant Your life and create the change you truly desire.
Today you’re being reminded that you are absolutely allowed to enforce your boundaries.
Get clear on what you want and need.
Be clear on what you will not accept or tolerate.
Express your expectations with clarity.
Raise your standards and expect more from yourself and others.
Be clear on what you will compromise on and what is absolutely non-negotiable for you.
Boundaries do not keep people out, they just show people where the door is.
You are allowed to enforce your boundaries.
Ask someone to leave, say ‘No’, remove yourself from a situation.
You do not have to put other people’s needs or comfort before your own if it means that you are putting yourself in a situation that makes you uncomfortable.
In this very moment, just pause and take a breath, as you re-establish your boundaries.
Today’s SHEro Action:
Today’s SHEro action is to take note of where you’ve been too relaxed with your own boundaries, if you’re unsure, consider where you have been feeling uncomfortable, stressed or anxious.
Where do you feel pushed to your limits?
Then consider some options that might be available to you so that you can re-establish these boundaries.
Start small and know what you want and need.
Be clear with yourself and others about the situation and your expectations about it.
Seek support.
Be assertive in your communication.
Recognise your feelings and honour them.
Boundaries are about self-respect, give yourself permission to enforce them and maintain them.
Pause, and take a breath. As you feel into your own boundaries.
Today’s Affirmation:
“I allow myself to enforce and maintain my boundaries for my own well-being”
I’ll see you tomorrow for your daily reminder to Re-Enchant Your Life with me, Rebecca-Anuwen,
In the meantime,enjoy having clear boundaries as you walk Your SHEro’s Journey!
PostScript
I often think about boundaries being like what I would call a ‘cookie-no’.
And what I mean by that is that if my little boy wanted a cookie and I say ‘no’, he knows that he can ask again and he might get a cookie, more likely if he asks his dad… however if he was about to put himself in danger and I said ‘no’ he would clearly feel the difference of the intention behind my ‘no’.
The same goes for you when you set boundaries.
If somebody asks you for a favour and you want to say ‘no’, but you feel bad about saying ‘no’, the person will sense this energy and know that if they keep asking you they might be able to get you to change your mind, and they’ll keep asking until you give in and say ‘yes’.
However, if the same person was to ask you for the same thing and you checked in with yourself and it didn’t align with your energy, it wasn’t something that you wanted to do, or you had other plans, and from that aligned place you gave an energetically clear ‘no’, and you just said ‘no sorry I can’t’, they would feel the difference in your energy and they would be much more likely to leave you alone and then go and ask someone else.
So, when you think about your boundaries make sure you’re not giving yourself or other people a ‘cookie-no’.
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