Listen. Because listening’s important:
Hi and welcome to the Re-Enchant Your Life reminder.
Your sacred pause in the day where you’re encouraged to take a moment to stop and tune into your inner wisdom and become present, so that you can reconnect to your personal power and confidently embrace who you’re becoming, as you Re-Enchant Your life and create the change you truly desire.
Today you’re being reminded to walk your own path.
As you step out and choose to follow your own path, you may feel alone, because others don’t understand your choices.
It takes courage to stay true to yourself, especially when the world around you is invested in getting you to conform.
Conforming makes others feel comfortable.
They understand the rules, and they can make people feel safe.
Deep down, although many people may want change, they don’t make the changes because they feel confused at how their desires go against all they’ve been taught, so instead of exploring these feelings and their options, many people numb the feelings with various tools such as TV, food, alcohol, shopping, scrolling through social media…
When you choose to walk your own path, it can leave you feeling alone as many people don’t make the choice to follow theirs.
This can be compounded as when you do choose your own path, you can start to see the world, and behaviours in a very different way than you once did, different even from your friends and family who you thought once knew you best.
However, don’t allow loneliness to lower your standards or compromise your values and those things that are important to you.
In this very moment, just pause and take a breath, as you reconnect to what’s truly important to you.
Today’s SHEro Action:
Today’s SHEro action is to seek out people and communities that share your values and beliefs of the world.
These could be in-person communities or on-line groups. You can connect with the shared stories of other people walking their own path through books, articles and podcasts.
Remind yourself that you aren’t alone.
Yes, you may feel different and/or misunderstood from your family and oldest friends.
Maybe they don’t ‘get you’ anymore.
But there are a whole lot more people who are searching to connect with someone just like you too.
Be open to creating new friendships.
Be okay with feeling lonely at times.
Reconnect with what’s important to you and where you are heading.
Pause, and take a breath. As you get clear with what’s important to you.
“I consciously create my own life”
I’ll see you tomorrow for your daily reminder to Re-Enchant Your Life with me, Rebecca-Anuwen,
In the meantime, enjoy creating your SHEro’s Journey, your very own way!
I shared in my book The SHEro Archetypes that when I was younger, I used to be a fairly heavy drinker. Drinking was very much part of my communities’ culture, in fact I had grown up with my parents owning bars and restaurants, and they were where I had my first summer jobs.
When I left home to go to university most of my socialising revolved around drinking. And of course, this continued throughout the next few years.
That was until my final assignments were due in, and I had to stay in and cram.
After about a week of not going out, I had what I can only describe now as ‘a moment of clarity’ – it literally felt as if someone had washed my eyeballs out and I could literally see clearer, like the world sparkled.
I was shocked, and made me realise just how much I’d been drinking.
There and then I made the conscious choice not to drink, or at least not to the levels I had been.
When I returned home to visit my family, instead of being pleased that I had stopped drinking so much, which of course was better for my health and overall well-being, they instead thought I had joined a cult!
It’s funny now, but at the time I was shocked.
However, to them they saw me as rejecting part of what was our family and community culture. In essence rejecting them as it could be interpreted that I was saying that their way of life was not good enough for me and I was choosing another way.
Feeling rejected by your family because of your choices can be a lonely experience, but for me it was more important that I stayed true to myself and what was important to me. As being true to me was ultimately more important to me than fitting in somewhere that I was not unconditionally accepted.
Perhaps you’ve had a similar experience when you have changed a behaviour that your own family took for granted?