Listen. Because listening’s important:
Hi and welcome to the Re-Enchant Your Life reminder.
Your sacred pause in the day where you’re encouraged to take a moment to stop and tune into your inner wisdom and become present, so that you can reconnect to your personal power and confidently embrace who you’re becoming, as you Re-Enchant Your life and create the change you truly desire.
Today you’re being reminded to honour yourself.
It’s time to pay less attention to what other people think of you and your choices, and care more about what you think of yourself.
It’s almost inevitable that at some point you’ll meet someone who will trigger feelings within you that you’d rather not have, and they may even leave you questioning your enough-ness for example are you good enough, successful enough, thin enough, intelligent enough.
But don’t allow yourself to buy into other people’s perceptions of you or your beliefs.
They are judging you through their eyes, their experiences, their values and their wounds.
They are not yours to carry too.
They have their own stuff. Their own limiting beliefs, their own unresolved experiences.
Don’t allow their baggage to engage with how you see yourself.
You have nothing to prove to them, so don’t try.
Power games start when you think you have to prove that your thoughts, opinions and views are more valid than someone else’s, whilst they try to do the same.
When in fact what you’ve done is think that they have the power to define who you are.
You are asking them ‘Am I enough?’, ‘Are my thoughts and feelings enough?’, and they are responding ‘No’.
They don’t get to define you.
You do.
Instead of engaging in this, drop the power play, and focus on building up your own belief in yourself.
Remind yourself of who you are.
And then let you be you, and let them be them.
In this very moment, just pause and take a breath, as you remember what’s really important to you.
Today’s SHEro Action:
Today’s SHEro action is to notice anytime that you start to try and prove yourself to someone else or convince them that your views are the right ones.
Remember this is different from healthy debate, this comes from a place of feeling ‘not enough’.
Each time you notice yourself feeling not enough and trying to win the approval of someone else or prove that you’re right, step back and connect with all the things that are important to you – it’s okay that they’re not important to everyone else – it would be a dull world if they were.
Pause, and take a breath. As you give yourself permission to be yourself.
Today’s Affirmation:
“I honour and value my unique self”
I’ll see you tomorrow for your daily reminder to Re-Enchant Your Life with me, Rebecca-Anuwen,
In the meantime, enjoy valuing yourself!
PostScript
People want to be seen, heard and able to express themselves fully. We want to feel validated, we want people to see us, hear us and for them to understand our choices.
The people we usually look to for this validation, are those closest to us, our friends, family and people we love. Yet the truth is, we don’t often get it from them.
People who can’t validate themselves, who haven’t done the internal work to truly validate themselves, to own their worth and value, can not validate other people.
When people live life based on their fears and limitations, they can not truly witness and support a person to freely express themselves, because they are not free themselves.
You do not need any validation to be you, you just need to give yourself permission.
As you walk your own SHEro’s Journey, and walk a path that others may not understand, know that the only person you need validation from is you.
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