Listen. Because listening’s important:

Hi and welcome to the Re-Enchant Your Life reminder.

Your sacred pause in the day where you’re encouraged to take a moment to stop and tune into your inner wisdom and become present, so that you can reconnect to your personal power and confidently embrace who you’re becoming, as you Re-Enchant Your life and create the change you truly desire.

Today is reminding you of the power of ‘No’.

You can absolutely say ‘No’.

You can say ‘No’ even if the request is reasonable and asked from a place of integrity.

You can say ‘No’ because you don’t want to be busy, or even busier.

You can say ‘No’, for no other reason than you don’t feel like it.

You can say ‘No’ and just take the time to sit at home and do nothing.

You can say ‘No’ as a way of saying ‘Yes’ to yourself and your own passions.

It’s time to stop applauding people, especially women, who are super busy and running themselves into the ground, the people with so many things on their plate that they can barely keep their head above water, and instead congratulate the woman who prioritises rest and her own health, self-care and sanity.

When you say ‘No’ to others, you are saying ‘Yes’ to yourself, your energy, your relationships and your family.

Of course, someone might initially be upset that you’ve said ‘No’, but it’s much better that you’re honest and upfront rather than feeling resentful or saying ‘No’ at the very last-minute causing everyone involved additional stress.

In this very moment, just pause and take a breath, as you feel into the power of saying ‘No’.

 

Today’s SHEro Action:

Today’s SHEro action is to practice saying ‘No’.

Start by saying the word out loud, ‘No’, ‘No’, ‘No’.

Then look yourself in the mirror and repeat the word ‘No’

Get really comfortable hearing and saying the word ‘No’.

Then when it feels appropriate, when someone asks you to do something that you don’t want to, say ‘No’.

No guilt, no dramas, just say ‘No’.

Pause, and take a breath. As you give yourself permission to say ‘No’.

Today’s Affirmation:

“I lovingly say ‘No’ so that I can say ‘Yes’ to myself”

I’ll see you tomorrow for your daily reminder to Re-Enchant Your Life with me, Rebecca-Anuwen,

In the meantime, enjoy the freedom of saying ‘No’ as you walk Your SHEro’s Journey!

 

PostScript

There’s something that I call ‘the cookie-no’.

It’s that ‘no’ we say when we don’t really mean it, the ‘no’ with some wiggle room.

For example, if my little boy wants a cookie, I can say ‘no’. But he’ll probably sense it’s a ‘no’ that if he’s lucky he might be able to push.

The kind of ‘no’ that if he asks over and over, he might get his way… the kind of ‘no’ that he can certainly turn into a ‘yes’ with his dad…

But if there was a ‘no’ that I meant, a ‘no’ that kept him out of immediate danger, then my energy would align so strongly that he wouldn’t have any doubt that I meant it.

People in your life are the same, they know if your ‘no’ is a real heart-felt ‘no’ or if it’s a ‘cookie-no’

When you practice saying ‘no’ unapologetically. When you say ‘no’ and mean it with your whole heart, free of guilt, self-judgment and expectation, people know that you mean it and will stop trying to push their luck.

When you say ‘no’ and mean it, people will respect you and your boundaries as much as you respect you and your boundaries.

When you say ‘no and mean it, you can say ‘yes’ to all the things that you actually do want to do.

And it all starts with you saying those two little letters ‘n’ and ‘o’.

No, no, no.

 

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