Episode 57: Calling Back Your Power

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On today’s episode of The Pinch of Magick podcast we talk all things power.

When we think of power we often have a corrupt idea of what power is, we can think of power as something someone has over us, a form of dominance.

But I want to talk to you about your inner power and how potent it is.

We cover:

• How everything in life is an exchange of energy and power.
• How to identify the things that ‘fill’ you up and make you feel more like yourself.
• How to identify the things that deplete you and leave you feeling drained.
• How people, activities and thoughts build you up or wear you down.
• How to support yourself when you need to do things or be around people that drain your energy.

What’s your relationship to power, and do you notice what drains you and what nourishes you?

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Hello, magickal one. How are you today? Welcome to the A Pinch of Magick podcast with me, Rebecca Anuwen.

So, how have you found this last week? We had the full moon; we had the Eclipse and we emerged with mercury in retrograde. It has been a pretty potent week with a lot of very heightened emotions.

Now I always like to think of retrogrades as renewing and reviewing and all of the re-words like re-establishing and just taking that time to look at what needs changing in your life. 

The eclipse portal because it was in Scorpio and I always think of Scorpio as the sex drugs, rock and roll of the zodiac sign.

It’s all the things people don’t like to talk about, think money, sex, religion, politics, and importantly, power.

And power is the thing that I want to talk to you about today because over the last week, this conversation has come up time and time again with my clients and in the Witch Academy.

I want you to think about your relationship with power.

Now power is essential, and yet it is something that we really shy away from because most of us have a very corrupt / warped relationship with power. 

And when we think of power we can think of power as power over somebody else.

So, when we look at, ‘powerful people in the world’, it usually comes from a place of dominance. Maybe they have more resources, or all the resources, maybe they have taken things away from other people.

We think about that ‘race to the top’ or someone being powerful because they have power over everyone else beneath them.

When we think of powerful companies or corporations, sometimes they have got there by any means necessary and the people at the top are doing really, really well but the people at the ‘bottom’ are suffering or being taken advantage of. 

So, we can tend to shy away from power and one of the things when I have this conversation about power is that many people shy away from their own power.

They say to me, they are afraid they might hurt someone, because that is what they think power is. That power is that ability to hurt or to cause harm or to withdraw resources or if you have something it means someone else can’t have it.

That is not the power I want to talk about today.

That is one aspect of power, it is a very warped, corrupt version of power.

I want you to come back into a relationship with your own power because this is how we create magick in the world.

This is how we create change in our worlds.

This is how we take responsibility for ourselves first and foremost, which then allows us to take responsibility for our communities, for the greater world.

It allows us to create change in our communities and the world around us. But unless we have that healthy relationship with power, it is hard to effectively create change in any area of our life consistently. 

You might create change with a lot of blood, sweat and tears and then we stop and then we revert to our old ways. But when we can create a healthy relationship with our inner power, everything changes.

I want you to think of power not in terms of the idea of dominance, but in terms of that inner energy. Those resources you have access to, that inner sovereignty and authority, that kind of energy.

I want you to think in terms of, as you go throughout your day over the next couple of days, think of everything you do as an exchange of power and exchange of energy.

We very much talk in the language of energy and power.

If people are exhausted, they are worn out, they are tired, they are overwhelmed, they are frustrated. It’s all this language that we would associate typically with that idea of energy and power.

Now I’m sure there are people in your life or people that you have had contact with that deplete and drain your power really, obviously.

You’re having a good day and you feel pretty good. Your energy levels are feeling great and then someone comes in and off-loads on you, or someone is just talking to you. Maybe they are moaning about something, and they are depleting your energy. Maybe they are just sucking the life out of you so to speak and by the end of it, maybe they felt a bit down when they joined you and you felt up and then that power has shifted. They have taken your power and they now feel good, but they have depleted you in the process and now you feel down.

Okay, that happens very obviously, and we know when that happens because you say “oh god now I feel terrible”. 

Now there might be activities in your life that do the same thing, that deplete you.

There’ll be activities that add to your energy and take away your energy, that sense of power.

I want you to get into the habit of noticing when that happens.

Sometimes they might be called ‘energy vampires’ or ‘emotional vampires’.

Sometimes people do it on purpose, and most of the time they don’t notice they are even doing it, but they suck your energy.

That is the really obvious form because you just instantly know, and you feel awful. 

We’ve talked about ways that you can protect your energy to make sure that doesn’t happen.

The ones that are trickier, is the drip, drip, drip, drip, drip effect.

In and of itself interactions and activities or thoughts or behaviours, you might not notice that it is taking a drip of your energy away, a drip of your power away but over a long amount of time, it is draining, draining, draining.

Then you’re like, “why do I feel so tired all the time?

Why do I feel off centre?

Why don’t I feel that sense of fulfilment?

Where has my joy gone?”

It’s that constant drip, drip, drip, drip, drip of those little daily choices, those little daily activities that we just do, that we don’t even notice. 

Those are the ones we want to pay attention to.

The obvious ones, the things we hate doing, the things we know leave us depleted. They are quite, ‘easy’ for us to do something about because they are obvious.

I want you to start thinking about the everyday things, those drip, drip, drip things, where you give your power away or where it is taken away from you.

As you go about your day-to-day first of all, maybe start noticing the activities that you do. Does an activity add to your sense of self, add to you being fulfilled and give you a better quality of energy and make you want to reach out and connect with other people more or assert those boundaries and say “I’m having a quiet day?” 

What fills you up and makes you feel more like yourself?

Think of the activities you do each day.

They can be anything from having a shower to going for a walk in nature, to listening to your favourite tunes, to scrolling on social media, to the career that you have chosen, to the people that you spend your time with.

Just notice, do they add to your energy?

Do they make you feel more like you?

Now, of course some things we have to do, even if they deplete our energy, but that’s okay. Some things we have to do, just because we have to do them and there will be times in your life where they may be more prevalent than others.

The one that I always think of is when my little boy was very little, he couldn’t do anything. I always joke with him now he is eight, the grand old age of eight and I’m like, “when you were a baby, you were so useless. You couldn’t even turn over.” Because babies can’t do anything, they need all of our time and attention to keep them safe. They really can’t do anything.

There’ll be a point in your life when you know something does take that energy, if you have gone through motherhood, it’s exhausting even with support. His dad was around, there are things you can do to support yourself but at the end of the day, still some things are reliant on you to do and that will be the case throughout life.

There will be some things we have to do and sometimes, with the example of the little baby we know that they grow up. Those days are long, but the years go fast, and we know they will grow up and become more independent, and then we can take back our own energy and they will need less and less of it. 

Of course, there’ll always be some things that we have to do.

This isn’t about pretending. We live in a world where we have responsibility, and we have to do other things but this is about the things that you can change that will make a huge impact and give you more energy and power and resources to do all of those other things that we have to do. 

I’m talking about the everyday things, the things that maybe you have more authority and choice over.

The way that we can tell if something makes us feel good.

This is the way that I like to do it anyway, is just think about something that you have done, and just notice your energy before it.

If you think of your energy system as being about – if you put your arms out to the side of you horizontal with the floor, your energy system is about an arm’s width around your entire body – start getting used to feeling the quality of the energy around you. 

Now, first of all, if you have never done this before, you might be like, “Rebecca, I can’t feel anything. What are you talking about?”  But the more you just bring attention to it, the more you start to notice the subtle changes, the nuances.

Some days that energy will feel really light and expansive, other days it will feel a bit congested.

So, just notice the quality of the energy around you.

And then before you do something, for example, I always seem to pick on social media, so let’s go for social media, but it could be a book, that you’re reading, a magazine. Any activity that you’re doing, notice how that quality of your energy feels around you.

Do the activity and just become aware of how the energy feels while you are doing that activity and then when you finish again, notice the quality of your energy. 

Now it might be that first of all you “Yeah, but I can’t really feel my energy Rebecca,” Well just notice the quality of your thoughts, the quality of your emotions, or whether you suddenly feel more energised or whether you feel depleted.

It might be after reading a book, your energy feels very expansive or looking at some artwork or being in nature, your energy feels expansive.

Or it might be that you have read something sad, or maybe you have been scrolling on social media and there’s loads of conflict and you can feel your energy getting really, really heckled.

And just notice when we feel constricted, angry, sad, anything that feels uncomfortable to us, we have given our power to something else.

Now I know that sometimes you are like, “no, it made me do that.” 

It took me about two years to reconcile this with myself to go, “Oh, yeah, okay, I was giving my power to that other thing. It is like I actually have the choice here”.

The way that you can call back your power is to notice what activities you do that leave you feeling depleted, and maybe it’s reading a particular book. Well stop it. Decide you’re not going to read the rest of it.

Maybe it is certain groups on Facebook or certain people on Facebook, come out of those groups, block or unfollow those people.

Maybe there’s a particular activity that just leaves you feeling awful, well, call back your energy from it. Focus on filling yourself up. Because when we’re filled up, it gives us more time, energy, and resources to be able to do the things we do not want to be doing but maybe still have to. 

If you think about your energy in terms of a bank account, if you think that when you came into the world, you came in with a certain amount of internal power.

Now I’m not talking again about privilege or that kind of power right now. I’m talking about the power, internal power, your resilience, your authority, your boundaries, the kind of person that you are.

You came in with a certain amount of this energetic power, and some people will have less and some people will have more, because of a whole range of things and so then nobody starts at the same place.

Then throughout life, the more you do that lights you up, that nourishes you, that fulfils you, that makes you feel like you have agency in your life. You are adding every time you do one of those things, you are adding to your bank balance, even if it is like looking at a sunset, reading your favourite book, having a snuggle with your favourite person or creature.

Anything at all, eating food that just lights up your senses. All of that adds to your bank account.

Every time you think to yourself, “Oh my goodness, good job. I did really well then. Oh, I tried my hardest, oh, look what I’ve managed to achieve.” All of that adds, adds, adds, adds adds. 

However, we’re constantly having things take away that power.

Every time we have a negative thought towards ourselves.

Every time we internalise someone else’s belief about the world, about success that does not resonate with us, it takes away our power.

Every time we buy into what the systems and society say we should do, the car you should be driving, the way that you should look, the colour of your hair, whatever it may be, that starts to take away your power because then you’re trying to strive to be something that you really are not. 

Where in your life do you give away your power?

When you think about things in the past and you are like, “Oh, I do this because of x, y and z”.

Now that may have been true, but when we still live out that energy, we are giving that power to that thing.

I’m not saying that you shouldn’t do that, but know that you’re giving that power away.

Now calling back your power doesn’t make a situation right or wrong. It doesn’t take away anything that happened to you, but this is you saying, “actually that did happen to me. That was true. That was my childhood. That person was mean to me” or whatever happened, but you can call back your agency, you can call back that power and say, “yes, that happened, and this is what I’m going to do about it. This is how I’m moving forward” or “that happened, and I’m still going to take action”. 

Now one of the things I like to talk about is fear.

When we’re afraid of taking action because of a response because, “like oh my goodness, it might not work out.” We are giving our power to the idea of fear and to the visualisation that we’re creating, that it might go wrong, because actually it could go right.

So, we give our power to that fear, and we’re, “Okay, I’ll do it when I’m no longer afraid”. But I say you can do it and take action and be afraid, you can do both at the same time.

You can hold the energy of fear and take action.

Now you’re not giving your power to the fear.

You are saying okay, this is how I feel, and I can still take action and I can still move forward and then you do it and, “Oh my goodness, I never expected this to happen this is amazing.” Might be an option. “I’m so glad I did it”. 

I’m sure there are things in your life that you have done that have taken a lot of courage for you to do and then you are like. “Oh my god, I’m so glad I did”. 

I’m sure you have done things and you are like, “Oh no, holy broomsticks. I wish I had not done that”. And it is gone a little bit wrong, so when it has gone wrong, this is another example of where we give our power. You can say to yourself, “Oh, I’m such a failure and nothing I do ever do works”. 

I would ask you, is that really true?

Nothing you do works. Are you sure? Because I know there are lots of things you do that do work and of course when we do something that feels like a failure, what we would label failure, it can be devastating.

And again, it is not taking away that ability for you to feel that in that moment, to feel the disappointment, the hurt, the betrayal, whatever it was, and then say to yourself, “Okay, now I have data”.

Start seeing failure as data because when we see it as failure, we are giving our power to that energy, and then that energy festers, and it becomes like, “oh, I won’t try again, what’s the point?”

But when we can say ‘okay, I got data’. When I tried it this way, the data tells me that it does not work. Okay, what could I do differently next time? Do I need to do it differently? Do I need to get more support? Do I need to wait longer? Do I need more experience? Do I need to do it on a different day? There are lots of things you could do to change that energy.

But when you’re, “Okay, let’s look at this from a different point of view”. You call back your power and your agency and you give yourself a new way to look at the situation.

Now of course, if you have done something and it has gone wrong, give yourself permission to feel the disappointment. Give yourself permission to feel those feelings, but don’t let them consume you.

Don’t let that be your story forevermore, because it is the stories that we tell ourselves, “I’m this kind of person, from this kind of background, with this kind of experience. Oh, I’ll never do that”. “My family, we do not do that. Or we can’t do that because this person will judge me or we can’t do that because society will frown upon me”.

Those stories are where we give most of our power.

So, yes of course there are activities that we give our power to, and they can make us feel good or bad. But really it is the stories we tell ourselves. 

There’re a few people that talk about, Will Storr is one of them, and the other person, my mind has gone blank. They talk about how we are human because we tell stories.

We tell stories to connect with each other.

We tell stories to teach each other.

We tell stories as a way of warning each other.

We tell stories to inspire each other.

Stories are really important, and we constantly tell ourselves stories.

We are like the hero of our own story, and we need a villain and in between we have magickal people that come along and wave their magick wand and help and support us or steer us on a different path.

I want you to not only notice the activities you do that light you up that add to your bank account, but notice the stories that you tell yourself.

What are the stories you give your power to?

“Oh, I can’t do that. Oh, I can’t do that because I’m an empath, and everything overwhelms me.” “I can’t do that because my family would judge me”. “Oh no, I can’t do that because I’ve tried. I’ve tried everything before, and it has failed”.

That is a story.

Ask yourself, is that always true?

Now, sometimes the answer might be ‘yes’.

“Oh, my family will judge me.”

Well, is that really true? Maybe they will. I mean, they could surprise you, but then you could say to yourself and start to create that story and call back your power from that story and just start to ask yourself; “Am I prepared to write a new story? Am I the hero of my own story that actually breaks away from those patterns? Do I end that pattern?”

I truly believe that… and I’m going to say ‘our generation’… I have no idea how old you are, I’m 44, so, kind of 20 years either side will give you that, but I definitely feel that we are here to break those patterns of the generations that came before us. And that is not blaming the generations for everything they did. They had to overcome, and they had to break the moulds from their parents and their parents and their parents.

Every generation does that in some way, but I think we are a generation where we are really stepping into this new dynamic, this new place of opening up to our gifts, opening up to intuitions, of being really clear on the energetics of the world around us.

There is a, I don’t really know what the word would be… I guess the closest words that I could use would be like there is an ‘awakening’ almost.

I don’t really like that word because of the things that it is associated with, but there is a real ‘opening up’, maybe ‘opening up’, there is an opening up to our other senses, our intuitive senses or for some people for their psychic senses of knowing that there is more to the world and the things that we can just see. 

I think we’re breaking those old patterns from the past so that we can’t pass them on to the next generations.

I mean, it’s certainly how I feel when I think about how I show up in the world and how I parent and how I contribute. It is very different from my own parents, certainly different from my grandparents.

I have shared before; I feel like a different species from my own grandparents.

This is our time not to blame, yes,  of course to hold people accountable and of course, to have very clear boundaries, and it is not about pretending things didn’t happen, of course, they happened.

But now it is for us to take responsibility.

To call back our power from those stories that we tell ourselves, from those events and go “okay, now what is it I want to create?

How am I creating a life where I can feel nourished, fulfilled and contribute to the world around me in a healthy and positive way?

How can I reclaim my sense of power and use that in a healthy way, using it in a way to create positive change in the world to be impactful?

To be of service in a way that feels good, not servitude, where you have to be the good girl and a ‘good person’ and do all of the things that other people expect of you.

How can you model a healthy sense of power to the people in your life, to maybe heal childhood wounds if you have them, and really take ownership of what it means to be a fully realised person?

Not that place of like, “oh, I’m broken, and I’m always going to need fixing”.

I often think of therapy, when therapy first became popular back in probably the 70’s, it was very much about people staying in therapy for decades and decades and decades and I think now we are in a position where yes, people might be in therapy for a while, but we can move through things faster.

We can create change at a much quicker rate.

We have more knowledge about how to support ourselves and how to step out of those situations.

We’re not replaying the same story over and over and over and over again. It’s like, ‘oh, that was a story that I lived by and now I’m taking back control of the pen and I’m going to choose how I spend my time, my energy, and my resources to create a life that feels nourishing and fulfilling to me that has nothing to do with your external circumstances’.

Now of course, they will impact how you feel and the resources you have access to, but this is about an inner power.

There was a person called Viktor Frankl and he wrote a book, ‘In Search of Meaning’ and he was in a concentration camp, and he talks about how he found fulfilment even whilst he was in a concentration camp. He found that search for meaning within himself even in those moments.

Now of course, we do not want anything that extreme, but it is about finding that sense of power within yourself that is not dependent upon how someone else behaves. That is not dependent on how much money you have in your bank account, which is not dependent on where you live. 

Now, of course, we always want you to be able to step out of any situations that doesn’t serve you, that doesn’t nourish you, particularly any situations that are harmful. But I’m talking about that kind of power that is within you, that has you able to make those changes, to reach out to take those bold changes, to ask for help to seek the guidance that you need to create the next level of your life, that next chapter of your life.

And knowing that some things in your life are chapters, maybe it is part one of your life, but it does not have to be part two.

And that some things, whilst they feel important, are actually only a footnote in a chapter. They don’t have to be, although they feel all-encompassing at the time, they don’t have to be the entire story of your life.

And so, over these next few days, just notice, what activities do you do that make you feel more like you?

Then try and do more of them, cherish those moments, make those moments sacred, whether it’s just feeling the sun on your face, and you are like, “oh my goodness, I can feel that.” Whether it is eating your favourite food and you would like to really take the time to nourish it, enjoy it and smell it and just enjoy the textures, the flavours, all of it.

And also notice the things that drain you and deplete your power, that deplete that energy; how can you stop doing some of them?

Maybe you could do it for less time, maybe you could make sure you do something nourishing first of all.

Do the thing that you don’t want to do or that’s a little bit draining, and then accept that it is draining. Because when we accept that it is draining and that we still have to do it, instead of feeling resentful or frustrated or angry towards it, instead of trying to change somebody or something that we cannot possibly change, and we accept it for what it is, it brings back our power and says ‘okay, this is a situation, what do I need to do to change the situation?’, because like I said, it is not about being reliant on other people for how we feel. 

Just by doing that, calls back your power. And then once you’ve done it, perhaps there is something else you could do to top up your energy.

So, whereas before you might have been resentful about something, you might have done it and you might have felt your energy drain, but it was just draining, draining, draining and then of course, after we have done it if we are still being resentful, that is a constant drip, drip, drip, drip drip of losing your power, of giving your power to that thing.

But when we can contain it to, “okay, I’ve got to do this thing.” We can do it, but we can then make a sandwich out of it.

We do something that makes us feel like us.

We do the rubbishy bit and then we do something that feels like us again.

Our bank balance at the end of the day is going to be much healthier than if we were dreading it all the way to it, doing it, and then being resentful for having done it afterwards. 

That is like a consistent drain and drip, drip, drip, drip, drip on our power, when actually we could contain it.

It’s the same with your thoughts.

What thoughts are you having that lift you up, that inspire you, that have your own back so you can become your own best friend? Or at least acknowledge like, “oh, yeah, god, my self-talk is awful. I’m really good at talking badly to myself”. 

Then just when we can pattern interrupt that way that we talk to ourselves, we get to call back our power. We get to change that internal dialogue, because that internal dialogue often is not even yours.

It sounds like your voice because you have internalised it and said it for so long that you assume it’s your inner voice, but it’s usually people that have criticised you in the past. It might be parents, it could be religious leaders, it could be society. It could be something a friend said to you when you were six that you can’t even remember but it stayed with you.

And the example I often like to think about is if you have just bought a brand-new jumper and you love it.

In fact, I remember once I bought this skirt, it was a very long time ago and I loved it. It was so funky it was pale blue, and I think it had like dogs on it or something. I mean I don’t know what I was thinking at the time, but I had visited a place called Brighton in the UK and if you know anything about Brighton in the UK, it is this fantastic hub of creativity and artists. It’s just a brilliant atmosphere, and they have this shopping area called The Lanes where, it just got everything you could ever imagine.

Like I said, it’s very artistic and there was this, gorgeous clothes shop down there and I bought this skirt and it was turquoise and I think it might have even had poodles on it, I think.  I do not know, whatever it was, it was really, really fun and it just made me chuckle to look at it.

So, I wore it, and someone said to me at the time, “oh my god, what are you doing wearing that?”  I mean, admittedly I probably wouldn’t wear it today but at that moment, I really loved it and I remember going, “oh, oh, maybe I shouldn’t wear it.”

I think it was probably about 19 or 20 at the time and I stopped wearing it.

I look back now and wow, I gave my power away over something as silly as a skirt and because someone said ‘oh my god, what do you do wearing that?’ That I stopped wearing it as much, in fact I don’t think I wore it very much again afterwards because I became so self-conscious of it.

I gave my power away to a blooming piece of material that was wrapped around my body, just because one person said to me, “oh, what are you wearing that for?” 

So where else do you silence yourself? Stop wearing your favourite jumper because someone said to you, “oh, gosh, what you doing that for”.

A habit that you wanted to do, or a hobby wanted to follow up.

Everything we do in life is an exchange of energy. Just notice where you leak yours because we don’t want you to be a Leaky Cauldron.

We want to plug those gaps and be more mindful of it because what happens when we don’t, it just drip, drip, drip, drips, and over time, you just, “God, I feel so exhausted and I don’t know why.”

Someone says, “Oh, get some sleep,” but you know, the different kinds of exhaustion from just feeling tired. That kind of exhaustion that having a good night’s sleep is not going to solve it.

I invite you to have a look at where is it, at the moment, that you’re giving that power away to.

That you’re leaking your own energy.

And then what can you do to call it back.

These days if I’d worn my little, let’s call it a ‘poodle skirt’, and someone had said, “oh my god, Rebecca, what are you wearing that for?”

I’d be, “Because it makes me smile. Because I love the color. Because it’s just fun and quirky.” And that I would be it.

I wouldn’t ever go, “oh my god, maybe I shouldn’t wear it.”

Now, if you’re losing your power away to a piece of material, as something as inconsequential as that, where else are you leaking your power?

And when I looked back to when I was that age, it was where I was losing my power to everything; to expectations, to judgments, to should’s, to all of the things. I was constantly giving my power away instead of owning my inner authority.

I want you just to feel into and just notice, you don’t have to do for every single activity and every single thought, that would be quite exhausting… but just start to notice, “Oh, where am I giving my power away?”

And notice what tops up your power, because it’s really easy I think sometimes particularly in that kind of self-helpy world that we can notice all the ‘negative’, “Oh, this is draining me and that’s draining, and that’s draining me and draining me.” That may be true. And… what fills you up?

What are you doing to nourish it?

We can’t change the entire world in one go.

We can’t change our situation or circumstances in one go, but what we can do is start filling out power back up, filling our reserves back up.

Even though, we’re still being drained and other things are going on. As we fill ourselves back up, we’re going to start bringing that bank balance of power up and that means at some point we’re going to have, suddenly there’s enough electric to light the bulb. And we’re, “Oh, this I can do. Oh, this is who I can reach out to, or this is the thing I can do differently.”

If in your life, you’re in a position in your life right now and you’re “I can’t do anything. It’s just too overwhelming.” And it is, well, don’t try and change anything then, obviously, unless you’re in danger, that’s a very different thing. Don’t try and change anything or everything.

Just start by focusing on one thing that is going to fill you up.

What can you do that will nourish you?

What is that one thing that’s going to add a few little pounds to your bank balance?

Do that consistently because as much as we can drip drip, drip, drip, drip and deplete our energy, we can also drip, drip, drip, drip, drip and start to fill our energy.

Of course, that might take a little bit longer, but that little bit longer is going to be consistent and it’s going to give you time to recognize who you are and what’s important to you, so that when you come to make your decision, it’s going to be the right decision for you.

Rather than summoning what’s left of your power and energy and making a big change and then not having the power and energy to see it through.

If you’ve ever wanted to make a change, and then you’ve used up all of your energy and then you’ve gone back. Then you’ve done it again and then you’ve gone back on yourself. It’s because you haven’t got the energy and the power to maintain it.

But once you start to notice where we leak power, it becomes a really empowering process because we’re “Oh, I need to spend less time with that person or I need to spend less time doing this. I need to be more mindful of my thoughts. I need to remember that just because I haven’t done it, it just means I haven’t done it yet.”

Just by adding the word ‘yet’ into something is enough to make us go. “Oh, yeah, if I haven’t done it yet, that means I could possibly do it in the future.” It’s just calling back that power and energy.

And so, then that energy, that power becomes much more authentic, it becomes more robust, it becomes clearer, and then we can direct our power and energy into the world in a way that feels really healthy and nourishing to us.

It becomes a way of contributing. It becomes a way of us consciously choosing to do something instead of feeling that we should do it.

Then of course, when we weave that into our magick, our magick becomes so much more powerful because it’s in alignment with our energy.

We can do things every day that are magickal to recall our power. By having a shower and just imagining all of the energy that’s not yours, all of the ‘should’s’, the judgments, the expectations and the negative thought habits behaviours just being washed down the drain. That’s it. Just allow it to be washed down the drain and we can come out the shower going, “I feel a bit healthier.”

You can make your cup of tea in the morning or coffee, whatever drink it is. And as you stir it in the morning …well, in the northern hemisphere, I would stir in a clockwise direction and just think I’m activating my inner power. I’m activating my inner power. As we stir, we add to something, we’re working with the energy of the sun and we are increasing the energy, so we’re activating more of our power and energy.

Over in our community I shared yesterday about burning a bay leaf. You write on your bay leaf what your intentions are and then you burn the bay leaf. Obviously, somewhere safe and sensible (health and safety first, please).  You could write, ‘I’m powerful’. Just write the word powerful on there and burn it. So, you’re putting that intention out to the world. You can say your affirmation, “Each day I step into my power more and more.”

“Each day I embrace my inner power.”

“I become more confident in welding my power in the world each day.”

You can start saying those intentions.

Give yourself a cheeky high-five and a cheeky wink as you go pass the mirror.

Recognize yourself, recognize the powerful woman that you are. The powerful person that you are, because you are powerful.

You have the ability to create change in every moment.

I invite you just to have a look at that power, to feel that power, to notice how your energy is. What depletes it and what increases it? Because you’re far more powerful than you realize.

Even in situations where you feel like all of your agency has been taken away from you. There is still that inner resilience, still that inner power that we can slowly add, add, add to and very quickly you’ll be able to create significant change in all areas of your life.

Sometimes even just a reframe from “I’m never going to be able to do this,” to … “I haven’t worked out how to do this yet,” is the biggest thing in the world.

I often coach people and they say. “Oh, you know, one thing I’m celebrating is only reframing my mindset.”

And I’m, “your mindset is the biggest thing that you can create change from.”

It’s one of the things that’s most powerful in building us up or draining us.

If we constantly have that story inside of our head going, “you’re rubbish, you’re useless, don’t bother, it’s not going to work out, you just going to get hurt.”

I feel tired just saying that out loud…

Of course, that’s going to drain you.

But if you go, “I’ve done brave things in the past, I could probably give this another go. Actually, I could call on this person. I could read this book. I could listen to this podcast. I could do a power pose for two minutes before I make that conversation. Doing what I haven’t been able to do this in the past, but I wonder what I need to do differently to do it now.”

Can you see how that internal dialogue is completely different?

When we start to notice our mindset, it becomes a really powerful way for us to call back our power, even if someone has said something really vicious to you. You don’t have to take it on, that’s their word, that’s their issues, that’s their belief. (It’s probably not even their belief, probably they’re just being mean). It doesn’t have to be yours.

If someone said something to you, that’s on them.

Only if you stamped on their foot, or hurt them maliciously or on purpose that might be a little bit different.

If someone, like that person who says, “Oh, what are you wearing that skirt for?” That was them, that was their judgments. That was their idea of style.

I didn’t buy it to be stylish, I bought it because I thought it was cute.

So, it’s that same thing. That was their energy being projected on me.

Now, maybe it’s because they wouldn’t have the confidence to wear something as cute as I was wearing on that day. Or maybe they really hated it because it was everything they hated, but that’s okay too. It doesn’t mean I have to change my mind or stop doing something that I thought was fun.

Your energy, your time, your resources are so precious. It’s time to be much more mindful of them.

Now, I’ve rambled on all around the houses, as usual, as you have come to hopefully love about this podcast and inner workings… come over into our community and let us know about your relationship with power.

If you feel like sharing, what’s one thing that fills you up? And what’s one thing that depletes you? 

When you think about both of those, how can you do more of that thing that fills you up?

How could you prioritise that more? Like putting it in your diary, scheduling it, giving your time, your energy and your resources to doing more of it or even looking forward to it. That energy of looking forward to doing something on the weekend, even that can fill you up and nourish you.

And that thing that you don’t like doing, the thing that deplete you. How can you either stop doing it, outsource it, gets someone else to do it? Or how can you contain that energy?

If you need any help, obviously come into our community and just ask. There’ll be a podcast, episode on there. So come and find it and put your comments underneath or start a whole new thread.

Come and share what you’re going to do.

When we’re like ‘this is the situation I’m in and this is the action I’m going to take’; that’s calling back your power.

This isn’t about saying “Oh, everything in my life has to be exactly as I wanted it to be”, far from that.

But this is about you saying, “This sucks, and this is what I’m going to do about it. This is amazing and this is how I’m going to do more of it.”

Even if it feels out of reach right now, there’ll be something that you can do to start calling back that power and if you really stuck, just reach out to us in our community.

We are there to help you contain that rubbishness and make you feel more like yourself again because that’s what I want for all of you, is for you to be able to stand in your power to own the magick of who you are as your magnificent individual, very unique self and really love and adore that person because you’re needed in this world.

So, I look forward to hearing your thoughts and your comments, and I’ll speak to you again very soon.