Listen. Because listening’s important:
Hi and welcome to the Re-Enchant Your Life reminder.
Your sacred pause in the day where you’re encouraged to take a moment to stop and tune into your inner wisdom and become present, so that you can reconnect to your personal power and confidently embrace who you’re becoming, as you Re-Enchant Your life and create the change you truly desire.
Today you’re being reminded to examine your beliefs.
You don’t have to experience life the way in which you’ve been told.
Your family, community, groups that you belong to, will have their own ideas, beliefs and stories about how the world operates.
These stories and beliefs are based on their experiences, what they’ve been taught and their expectations of themselves and others.
These beliefs can often be at the core of these groups, and sharing these beliefs bonds them together.
These stories do not have to be yours, and may not be true for you and that’s okay.
Perhaps you’ve heard the following and at some level have internalised them and have them as part of your unconscious story:
Security comes from having the right type of education or career, or being married to a particular type of person.
You have to look a particular way to have success.
Money is the root of all evil.
The starving artist.
X type of people are bad.
Y type of people are lazy.
Z type of people can’t be trusted.
The world owes you nothing, you have to work hard to get what you want.
The good guy comes last.
But perhaps you want to be an abundantly wealthy self-taught, unmarried, artist who is kind and generous to all that you know.
If you run the previous stories and allow other people’s beliefs and expectations to dictate your experience of life, it’s unlikely, or will be very hard, to achieve your own definition of success as the generous, abundantly wealthy, unmarried, artist.
Once you recognise the stories that you’ve been taught and influenced by, you can let them go and replace them, or be open to replacing them with your own experiences and beliefs.
In this very moment, just pause and take a breath, as you re-write your own beliefs about life.
Today’s SHEro Action:
Today’s SHEro action is to explore the beliefs that you take for granted.
Money and love are two very charged patterns of belief to explore.
What do you believe to be true about money or love?
What were the stories, or phrases that your family, community, or groups, commonly shared about these topics?
Do you truly agree with them?
Are these your experiences too?
Do you still want these to be your stories and experiences? And of course, ‘Yes’ is a great answer too if they support, nourish you and cause no harm, intended or otherwise, to others.
But if it’s a ‘No’, start looking for stories and beliefs that re-enforce your new beliefs.
Pause, and take a breath. As you experience life in your own way.
“I choose to experience life in my own way”
I’ll see you tomorrow for your daily reminder to Re-Enchant Your Life with me, Rebecca-Anuwen,
In the meantime, enjoy creating your own experiences on Your SHEro’s Journey!
I shared in yesterday’s reminder how when I stopped drinking my parents thought I’d joined a cult.
Drinking was so much a part of their culture and identity, they didn’t understand how someone could choose that path when it wasn’t for health reasons.
One of the things that I was constantly asked, especially by my Step-Dad was ‘How do you socialise?’
I always thought that was an odd question, as there are so many other ways to socialise that don’t involve drinking, or if I was out and alcohol was being served, I just chose to drink something different.
Back then sometimes it made others feel uncomfortable, but I never did, I was clear on my choices and my why.
Often heard ‘oh one won’t hurt’. So, I started using the excuse that I was driving, and that was more acceptable for people.
These days, people don’t really notice when people don’t drink, or choose not to.
But I recently found out that my Step-Dad had stopped drinking.
My first petty thought was ‘well how do you socialise?’
But actually, my real thought was ‘go him, that’s fantastic’. He still goes to the pub regularly to see all his friends, but he chooses a soft drink over the decades of beer and whiskey.
The moral of the story really is, that no matter your age, no matter how ingrained a habit is, no matter how long you held a belief, it’s never too late to change your story.