MMM… How to love you (in a world that can make you feel not good enough)

Today is the last quarter moon in Scorpio and tomorrow is Valentine’s day, this brings an interesting combination of:

• Last quarter moon: Reviewing what’s working for you and what’s not
• Scorpio: Brings, among other things, the topics of power, pleasure, relationships, and money
• Valentine’s day: A focus on love; with society telling you what love, or even what relationships, ‘should’ look like for them to be considered happy and successful.

When you bring these elements together you end up with an energy that could have you questioning your relationships, the power dynamics of those relationships, and what you actually want from them.

But before you can decide what you want to create with those around you, or call in through a new relationship, it’s essential that you review your own relationship with the most important person in your life… You!

So, today we use the MMM’s to give yourself a moment to check-in with yourself and explore your relationship with yourself.

1. Magick: Something for you to journal about

How did your hardest moments shape you into who you are today?

Over the next few days, as we celebrate romantic relationships, we tend to focus on the shiny, picture perfect aspects of relationships, and gloss over the parts that we have found challenging.

We can do the same with ourselves too.

We want to show up as our shiny selves, but forget the depth of our experiences that have shaped us (which have not all been shiny and picture perfect).

Take a moment to explore how your hardest times have shaped you.

I remember my sister once saying to me: ‘Our parents must’ve really hurt you Rebecca, I see you trying to make sure others don’t feel the pain that you did’.

I’d never thought about it that way, but the core of my work is that I want people to embrace and celebrate who they are, to know that they’re not alone and that they’ve ‘got this’, whatever they decide their ‘this’ is.

Guess the themes of my ‘hardest’ moments that shaped who I am today!? Yep; Abandonment, rejection and not trusting myself – none of which I feel today (well, rarely), but I certainly know what it’s like to.

At the time of experiencing this, I wasn’t thinking, this is great, all this will really allow me to cultivate the strength to live life on my own terms and do impactful work that I love in the world… At the time I was hurt, feeling abandoned, rejected and not clear on what to do next.

★ Tip: Without ‘loving and lighting’ over yourself or thinking ‘everything happens for a reason’, gently explore the key themes that you’ve experienced in your life and see if there is power to be found in there.

PLEASE NOTE: Don’t do this if you’re in the middle of experiencing the ‘thing’ – it’s never helpful to try and find the meaning whilst you’re ‘in it’. With time comes clarity (and often support and tears) – be gentle with yourself!

2. Mastery: Something for you to think about

“Talk to yourself like someone you love.” – Brene Brown

If you spoke to people in your life the way that you talk to yourself would they love being your friend?

Hopefully yes!

But if it was a ‘no’… spend today talking to yourself as if you were your best friend, or a tiny toddler.

Cheer yourself on and celebrate yourself for all of the the little things you do throughout the day.

Made a great cup of coffee? High-five yourself.
Spilt the cup of coffee? Be gentle and reassuring to yourself and you clear it up (remember: pretend you’re speaking to a toddler)

Got to work on time? ‘Go you!’
Was late for work? Oh well, you can try again tomorrow.

It may feel silly to start with, but there may be years (decades) worth of you not being as kind to yourself as you could’ve been, so it will take more than a couple of affirmations to rewire that pattern.

★ Tip: Listen the latest episode of the A Pinch of Magick podcast, where I walk you through two rituals for being kinder to yourself (with the help of a little extra magick!)

3. Momentum: Action for you to take

Write a love letter to yourself

You may or may not be sending a Valentine’s card tomorrow, either way, make the time to write yourself a love letter.

Write a letter celebrating who you are and who you’re becoming.

• Write about all the things you appreciate about who you are, what you’ve achieved and what you’re working towards.
• Celebrate your achievements AND what it took you to get them.
• Most of all celebrate all of the things that make you, you – especially the quirky things

★ Tip: Sleep with your love letter under your pillow for the next 7 days, they you can bury it, so that it grows, or store it somewhere special for as long as you need it.

Rebecca xo

PS need to reset your relationship with yourself, check out these energy clearing meditations to create a Fresh Start and New beginning with your with yourself: Start here

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