Listen. Because listening’s important:

Hi and welcome to the Re-Enchant Your Life reminder.

Your sacred pause in the day where you’re encouraged to take a moment to stop and tune into your inner wisdom and become present, so that you can reconnect to your personal power and confidently embrace who you’re becoming, as you Re-Enchant Your life and create the change you truly desire.

Today you’re being reminded to be honest with yourself.

Be honest as you connect with your inner wisdom and listen to its truth.

What is it really whispering to you?

What guidance does it offer you?

No matter how much you try and hide from, or ignore the truth, you know.

You know what you need to do.

You know what you need to start or end.

You know what direction you’re headed.

Sometimes it may seem easier or more convenient to say ‘I don’t know’.

To say ‘I don’t know’ can seem the simpler option, rather than admitting the truth and turning your world upside down, leaving careers, ending relationships, or disappointing people. But there is a place inside of you that knows the truth.

Slow down, get quiet and listen for those whispers.

You don’t need to take action or make changes right now, just start by being honest with yourself.

You owe it to yourself to be honest and show yourself integrity.

In this very moment, just pause and take a breath, as you listen to the truth.

I’ll see you tomorrow for your daily reminder to Re-Enchant Your Life with me, Rebecca-Anuwen,

In the meantime, enjoy the freedom that comes from being honest with yourself as you walk Your SHEro’s Journey!

PostScript

It can sometimes be difficult to hear the truth, even to hear our own truth from ourselves.

Many people can avoid being still, being in silence or even resting, because then they’ll have to listen to their inner wisdom, that deep inner-knowing.

Busyness, never-ending to-do lists, and even scrolling through social media, can all be preferable to hearing what we know to be true.

So next time you find yourself ‘not having time’ to rest or be still, just take a moment to check-in with yourself and make sure that you aren’t avoiding yourself and your truth.

Listen. Because listening’s important:

Hi and welcome to the Re-Enchant Your Life reminder.

Your sacred pause in the day where you’re encouraged to take a moment to stop and tune into your inner wisdom and become present, so that you can reconnect to your personal power and confidently embrace who you’re becoming, as you Re-Enchant Your life and create the change you truly desire.

Today you’re being reminded to shut out the noise.

You know what you’re here to do.

You know what needs to be done.

You believe in yourself and you’re ready to take action.

But then… Someone tells you that you can’t, you shouldn’t, you mustn’t.

You get overwhelmed by the opinions and judgements of those around you.

You try and manage the emotions, feelings and expectations of others.

You may even try convincing other people of your choices, but your voice isn’t heard and falls on deaf ears.

You’re kind, thoughtful and compassionate. You don’t want to upset people.

You want to be seen a particular way and don’t want to disappoint or hurt others.

And then suddenly, under the weight or other people’s thoughts, feelings, and expectations, you find yourself unsure of what it is you want to do and are confused and doubtful about your next steps.

Are you wrong?

Are you being selfish?

Do other people know best?

When you find yourself in this pattern, it’s time to shut out the noise from others, and reconnect to yourself, your values, your truth and your priorities.

Reconnect to what’s important to you.

Align. Focus. And commit to your own path.

Your path is yours alone to walk, no one else can do it for you, so make sure as you move forward that you’re the one holding the compass and map.

In this very moment, just pause and take a breath, as you shut out the noise that surrounds you.

I’ll see you tomorrow for your daily reminder to Re-Enchant Your Life with me, Rebecca-Anuwen,

In the meantime, enjoy connecting to what’s important to you on Your SHEro’s Journey!

PostScript

I’m not sure if I’ve said this before, but if I have, I think it’s worth saying again.

I absolutely believe that when you have a dream, it’s because you can make it happen.

That doesn’t mean that it will be easy, or will happen overnight, although I’m always up for some spontaneous magic!

You may have to stretch, heal and move through old patterns of belief.

You may have to learn new skills, change your focus in life and get support.

But I absolutely believe you can make it happen.

Other people might not understand your dream, and that’s okay, it’s your dream and not theirs.

They have their own dream and it’s up to them if they follow theirs of not.

It’s up to you if you follow yours.

Listen. Because listening’s important:

Hi and welcome to the Re-Enchant Your Life reminder.

Your sacred pause in the day where you’re encouraged to take a moment to stop and tune into your inner wisdom and become present, so that you can reconnect to your personal power and confidently embrace who you’re becoming, as you Re-Enchant Your life and create the change you truly desire.

Today you’re being reminded that growth is part of the process.

The time, effort, and challenges that you can face as you progress along your path are an essential part of the journey.

They are often the parts that we resist, try to avoid, or numb out, but they are needed as part of the process, your process, of unfolding.

These challenges can often bring discomfort, but they also bring growth.

Just as the little sapling must learn how to weather the elements so that it grows stronger, and in time can stand against all the weather and even the storms it will encounter, you too must strengthen your resilience, and grow as a person, so that you can stand strong and follow your dreams and desires.

You need to face challenges so that you can grow deep roots and stand your ground on the things and causes that are important to you.

You need to face obstacles so that you can be clear on your resolve about what’s truly aligned with your feelings and values.

You can make the process easier by knowing what to expect, having the right tools and support in place, and then embracing it.

Resisting the process just makes it harder on you, and more tiring and overwhelming for yourself.

In this very moment, pause, and take a breath. As you embrace the process.

I’ll see you tomorrow for your daily reminder to Re-Enchant Your Life with me, Rebecca-Anuwen,

In the meantime, enjoy the process of unfolding on Your SHEro’s Journey!

PostScript

There’s a belief among many people that if it’s ‘hard’ then it mustn’t be right for them.

If it’s not flowing, then they must be on the wrong path.

And whilst I’m all about embracing the ease, to me it doesn’t always mean that it has to be easy, particularly on the first try.

Obstacles help us to grow, and they help us to grow stronger.

For example, if you wanted to go to the gym and learn how to bench press 120 kilos and you’ve never been to the gym before, and on your first visit you tried to bench press 120 kilos you’d likely damage yourself.

However, if you started with 5 or 10 kilos and then gradually built up the resistance and strength in your muscles, you’d be much more likely to be able to bench press your 120 kilos, as you would have created the environment for sustainable success.

And just like with muscles, we actually have to break the muscles down so that they grow back stronger.

Just like in life, sometimes we have to meet the obstacles, that can even feel like they are breaking us down too, so that we can become stronger and enjoy longer, sustainable progress.

Listen. Because listening’s important:

Hi and welcome to the Re-Enchant Your Life reminder.

Your sacred pause in the day where you’re encouraged to take a moment to stop and tune into your inner wisdom and become present, so that you can reconnect to your personal power and confidently embrace who you’re becoming, as you Re-Enchant Your life and create the change you truly desire.

Today you’re being reminded to get to know yourself.

Know yourself so deeply and intimately that you have absolute confidence in who you are and what you want from life.

Know yourself so well that you know what’s yours and what’s not, particularly in relation to beliefs and fears.

Know yourself so well that you can create a life that honours the truth of who you are.

Understand what’s important to you, what lights you up and what you’re passionate about.

Throughout life you’ll continue to learn more about yourself.

Challenges help you to understand what’s important to you, as they show you what you’re willing to overcome and what you’ll give up on.

Successes show you what you’re good at, or at least what challenges you’ll persist with.

Each event in life helps you to understand more about yourself and reveal a truer version of you.

As more of your true self is revealed, the more you can own your power as you know what actions and values align with who you are.

You do not need for other people to understand your truth.

You do not need their validation, permission or acceptance for you to honour yourself.

Once you understand yourself better you can make choices that support your values, feelings and energy, and you’re less influenced by the demands and expectations of outside influences.

In this very moment, just pause, and take a breath. As you commit to getting to know yourself better.

I’ll see you tomorrow for your daily reminder to Re-Enchant Your Life with me, Rebecca-Anuwen,

In the meantime, enjoy getting to know yourself better as you walk Your SHEro’s Journey!

PostScript

I always loved doing personality profiles and quizzes that promised to tell you more about yourself.

And they did always tell me something and they’d point me in a certain direction, but it was never enough, and I’d continue to seek.

Two things shifted the eternal seeking for me, one was a realisation, and one was a super simple practice.

The combination of these two actions helped me to know myself better than the decades of personal exploration, and hundreds of quizzes, books and courses I’d taken and read.

First of all, although I enjoyed and had great value from my personal explorations guided by others, one day I realised that the reason I kept searching and trying new things was that I didn’t want more information about myself, what I actually wanted was permission to be me! And I could give that to myself!

Done!

The second thing was that I discovered the idea of charting your energy. Oh my, I could talk about this for hours, and quite often do, but I’ll share a link for a post I wrote about it. But basically, it’s a creative tool that takes a minute or two a day, that helps you to get to know your own inner rhythms and how you show up in the world.

This tool was a complete game-changer for me as it gave me confidence in my own creative energy and allowed me to be much more productive, as well as making it easier for me to honour the time I needed to rest.

Active become more active, and restful became more restful. Everything got done and with time to rest when I discovered my own inner rhythms and cycles!

Resources:

Article on Charting 

Energy Charting book

Listen. Because listening’s important:

Hi and welcome to the Re-Enchant Your Life reminder.

Your sacred pause in the day where you’re encouraged to take a moment to stop and tune into your inner wisdom and become present, so that you can reconnect to your personal power and confidently embrace who you’re becoming, as you Re-Enchant Your life and create the change you truly desire.

Today you’re being reminded to create a life that feels great.

Choose to create a life that feels great, rather than prioritising a life that looks great.

Create a life that feels great, because it aligns with your values and nourishes you emotionally, mentally, physically and spiritually.

Focus more on honouring your feelings, and what you truly want, rather than how it may look to others.

Create a life of substance and meaning for yourself.

It doesn’t matter if it isn’t what’s expected of you.

It doesn’t matter if other people don’t understand the way in which you choose to live your life.

It doesn’t matter if your life looks messy or if it looks glossy.

All that matters is that you create a life that nourishes and nurtures you.

This is your life you need to live it for you.

In this very moment, just pause, and take a breath. As you honour feeling great.

I’ll see you tomorrow for your daily reminder to Re-Enchant Your Life with me, Rebecca-Anuwen,

In the meantime, enjoy feeling great on Your SHEro’s Journey!

PostScript

When I first started in private practice 20 years ago, many women came to see me who were deeply unhappy, but they didn’t realise exactly how unhappy, unfulfilled and resentful they had become.

They felt guilty for feeling unhappy, as on the surface they had everything they had been taught to want; relationships, families, careers, nice house, cars and holidays… and yet they were unhappy.

They were unhappy as they were living lives that they thought they should have.

They were living lives that looked superficially good.

They were living lives where their basic needs were met, and they felt guilty for wanting more.

Often the first question they asked, when they realised that they needed to change something, was; but what will my husband, mum, friends etc say.

Not, oh my goodness, I need to make some changes, where do I start…

But instead; ‘what will others think?’

But what if you allowed your feelings to lead you?

What if you said ‘Yes’ to more opportunities that you wanted, and ‘No’ to those that made you feel were a waste of your time?

How would your life be different if you did more of the things that felt good, and less of the things that you thought you should do?

What if you lived a life of potential messiness and imperfection that was lived with your desires front and centre, rather than one that was curated for the gaze of others?

Listen. Because listening’s important:

Hi and welcome to the Re-Enchant Your Life reminder.

Your sacred pause in the day where you’re encouraged to take a moment to stop and tune into your inner wisdom and become present, so that you can reconnect to your personal power and confidently embrace who you’re becoming, as you Re-Enchant Your life and create the change you truly desire.

Today you’re being reminded that you need to meet your own needs.

Looking outside of yourself for someone to know, or guess, what you need, waiting for someone to rescue or fix you or your situation, will just leave you anxious, frustrated and reliant on others for your own sense of inner peace.

It’s time to get clear on what you need.

This may mean asking for what you need.

It may include getting help and support from others.

But it always starts with you getting clear on what you need and then asking and doing what it takes to get it.

Meeting your own needs, is about knowing yourself well enough that you know exactly what you need.

And it’s about recognising that your needs change.

Your needs can change throughout the month, the year and when dealing with certain situations. Get to know yourself, your needs and how they change.

Meeting your own needs is about honouring your need for rest and not just trying to keep going.

And it’s also about taking inspired action.

It’s about doing what you know is right for you, even if it doesn’t make sense to those around you.

Most of all, it’s about showing yourself love, compassion and kindness.

In this very moment, just pause, and take a breath. As you acknowledge your own needs.

I’ll see you tomorrow for your daily reminder to Re-Enchant Your Life with me, Rebecca-Anuwen,

In the meantime, enjoy getting your needs met as you walk Your SHEro’s Journey!

PostScript

Many of my clients tell me that they feel frustrated and resentful, they often feel it’s due to their current circumstances or they may even feel this way towards one, or some, of their relationships. But when I ask them ‘what they need right now’, they are less certain of the answer.  

People aren’t mind readers.

It’s not fair on them or yourself for you to expect other people to know what you want or need.

If you find yourself getting upset, frustrated or resentful, at a behaviour, or an action (or lack of action), give yourself a moment to pause, and ask yourself ‘What do I really need right now?’.

The chances are it will be about connection.

And the irony of this is, in this moment you are probably least connected to yourself too.

Other areas that you may be lacking having your needs met could be around your physical and emotional well-being, your need for intimacy, play, peace, sovereignty, purpose, meaning and contribution, or self-expression.

When you can work out what it is that you truly need, and in what are of your life you need it, you can then take responsibility for yourself and your well-being.

As you get to know yourself and your needs better, it becomes easier for you to speak up for yourself and ask for what you want and need, and to share what you think and feel.

When you can have this level of understanding around yourself, all your relationships, including the one with yourself, become much more fulfilling.