What’s your life purpose, here’s what I think…

What’s your life purpose, here’s what I think…

My Story, On Purpose

Yesterday I was chatting to a friend, I love our chats as nothing is off limits, the conversations go deeeeeeep, but there’s always lots of laughter too.

We got on to the topic of ‘Life purpose’.

You see I LOVE this conversation, and I do indeed believe everyone has a life purpose.

Except that where I differ from most people, is that I think everyone has the same one! Yes really, the same life purpose!

If you’re not sure, just hear me out…

I believe that your life purpose, my friends life purpose, and my own life purpose, is all the same thing.

And that our life purpose is….

To become the most fully expressed version of ourselves.

Sounds great! Yes?

But as my friend rightly asked: What does that actually mean?

For decades, I was looking for my purpose in life.

When I was 16 I started doing yoga with my ‘Teach Yourself Yoga’ book (which I still have!), I started becoming curious about who I was and what I was meant to do with my life.

I honestly don’t know where this drive came from, but I certainly started my journey of seeking that was to last decades.

Over the years this resulted in me attending workshops, doing trainings, collecting qualifications, doing just about every personality profile that I came across, each time hoping that I would find what I was looking for – my meaning, my purpose in life.

Then I realised (after decades lol), that I was going about this all wrong.

I was looking for my purpose as if it was a job title or a destination.

I’ll be happy/feel aligned/insert whatever you’re looking for… when I ‘get there’…

But there’s never a ‘final destination’.

We’re constantly evolving, growing and changing, or let’s face it, we’d no longer exist.

So instead of trying to become something or get to somewhere, I decided to let myself just evolve.

To unfold and see who I became when I stopped trying and started being.

I started embracing what I loved and interested me, I began following what made me curious and stopped doing what I thought I ‘should’ do.

It sounds simple…

But what makes this simple thing so hard is that we can become so entangled in what we’re taught and what’s expected of us (the SPELLs that I mentioned the other day), that it becomes impossible to hear, or even trust, what we know to be true about ourselves and what we want from life.

That then makes it difficult, often impossible, to trust ourselves to know what to do next in our lives.

The good news is that you can change this.

There is always a way! And the first step on your journey of breaking these SPELLs that have been keeping you disconnected from yourself, your truth and dreams and desires, is to renew your relationship with yourself and become deeply grounded into your own unique essence.

Again that sounds easy… and this time it is!

And it’s even easier, as I have a free gift for you so that you can start to do this immediately.

I was asked on a podcast, what did I think should be taught in every school, and I immediately said ‘Energetic health’, and this practice I’m going to share with you is just that.

We know we need to exercise to look after our physical body if we want to feel fit, healthy and vibrant, but we also need to look after our energy system too.

To get started click here, It’s called Your SACRED practice as it really is a sacred pause in your day, for you to come back home to yourself and remember what’s really important to you.

What’s your womb story and why is it important?

What’s your womb story and why is it important?

My Story

“Your issue is intimacy and you don’t get more intimate than growing a baby inside of you.”

Her words jolted me to my core.

I was pregnant.

I’d never planned on having children, I’d never seen them as part of my life.

I kind of felt about them the way I feel about cows: They’re cute, but I wouldn’t want one.

Then I met my pretend husband (‘pretend’ because we’re not married, just living in sin 😉 ), and the idea of having a child wasn’t so horrific.

I didn’t actually believe that I would be able to get pregnant as I had been so vocally against it for as long as I could remember, that I assumed my womb had a huge energetic “DO NOT ENTER” sign for babies – And I was fine with that.

But apparently not!

I was pregnant. And in shock.

My hormones were raging and I knew I needed some additional support, so I went to see my acupuncturist.

He was amazing but suggested that although he could rebalance my body, I needed to address the core of the issue.

I was suprised, I felt like I had addressed most issues in my life – I’d been into personal development since I was 16 years old, I was now 35 – so that was a looong time to get my stuff together (or so I thought, haha on me).

I’d read books, attended seminars, had used more healing modalities than I could name, and had been practicing kinesiology for over 15 years – I was pretty confident that I had my stuff in order.

But apparently not.

 

And let’s face it… there’s nothing like a major event, such as growing a child inside of you, to bring any unresolved stuff screaming to the surface.

I often joke that becoming pregnant sent me to therapy, but it’s kind of true.

The woman I was recommended to see was an energy healer and psychotherapist.

During one of my sessions with her, she asked if she could share something with me, ‘of course!’ I replied, I was always open to this kind of feedback, I loved looking for patterns within myself. Yet I wasn’t quite ready for her feedback.

“Your issue is intimacy and you don’t get more intimate than growing a baby inside of you.”

Immediately I thought to myself ‘what rubbish’.

I was very intimate.

I (thought) I knew myself really well, and I had a deeply loving relationship, how on earth did she think I had intimacy issues?

 

Then pieces of the puzzle came to mind as I remembered various events.

The most recent being when I nearly drove the car off the road and squealed ‘urghhh get it out of me that’s not normal!’ the first time I felt my baby kick me in the womb.

Then I remembered how I had avoided journaling for so long, only being able to call it the J word, as I didn’t want to become intimate with my deepest thoughts and feelings.

 

It started to dawn on me, that actually for a long time, it was hard for me to feel *in* my body.

As strange as that may sound, much of the time it felt like I was floating just outside of it.

Not really being connected.

I had been carrying around this Womb trauma and grief that made it too painful to show up fully, so instead I was disconnected from my body and my centre of power.

 

The Womb is the female centre of power.

(Just a note: when I use the word ‘Womb’, I’m referring to the Womb with a capital ‘W’, your Womb energy, this is the seat of your female power, and is not dependent on the presence of a physical womb)

When you’re disconnected from your Womb space, that energetic space, you also become disconnected from your own power.

When you’re disconnected from your own power one of the most damaging things that can happen is that you can lose your own sense of self, and quite literally forget the truth of who you really are.

You can lose touch with your own hopes, dreams and desires.

One of the main reasons that women become disconnected from their sense of power is that they are taught from a very young age that women are caregivers; loving, kind and nurturing. So it’s then expected that they should  put the needs of others before themselves. To do this women end up suppressing their own thoughts needs and desires until they become numb to them.

They can be so busy putting everyone else’s needs before their own, that they can forget what truly lights them up, and this can leave them feeling frustrated, empty and resentful, and not even know why.

If you think about your Womb space, it’s mainly an empty space that we don’t pay much attention to unless you’re pregnant or have your period.

And for that reason, I see many women using it like a ‘cupboard under the stairs’ or a spare drawer in the kitchen; a space where you put all the items that don’t really have any other place to go.

You have an emotion, you don’t know what to do with it, so it gets stuffed down into the Womb space.

Something happens, you don’t have time to process it, it gets stuffed down into your Womb space.

You have a shock or experience a trauma, it gets stuffed down into your Womb space so that you can continue with everyday life.

All  the ‘junk’ ends up in Womb space and the pelvic girdle.

It’s like a convenient space that’s really handy just to store things in until you know what to do with them, yet we often forget to go back and empty it.

 

So, the emotions and unprocessed events stay there festering…

And that’s exactly what I had been doing.

I’d been storing, and dare I say ‘hiding’ the remnants of these events in my ‘cupboard under the stairs’ Womb space, and there wasn’t enough room for all of it and my baby.

It was time for me to once and for all clear out the junk and make room for my baby, and reclaim ALL of my power.

The ironic thing was, that I’d ‘left’ my body as I thought it was safer for me. Yet when I released and healed what needed to be addressed and I came back into my body, I felt safer than I ever had before.

 

Avoiding the issues may have felt easier than facing them, but in fact addressing them left me feeling lighter, freer, happier and rooted in my own sense of self and connected to my seat of power.

 

I’d never felt so good.

I even came to love feeling my little one squirming around inside of me and practicing his acrobatics.

I came to love journalling, and journal most days!

And my already gorgeous relationship, became even more fulfilling.

I could show up fully for my self, my relationships, and for my child.

And I finally understood on a very physical level what it meant to stand in and own my power.

I felt clearer about what I wanted in life and how I wanted to contribute.

I completely trusted myself and my intuitive wisdom.

 

My Womb story had changed.

I had changed.

I was ready to create a life that supported my energy, values and feelings.

I was ready to become the SHEro of my own story…

 

If you’re ready to become the author of your own story too start here>>

Are you eating the poisoned apple?

Are you eating the poisoned apple?

Change Your Story, My Story

What can a 200 year old tale teach you about reclaiming your own power?

Quite a bit it seems…

Discovering that she was no longer the fairest in the land, the evil Step-Mother wanted to ‘right’ this ‘wrong’. Making a poisonous brew she dipped a red apple in it, and set out to deliver her plan.

Disguising herself as an old lady, she tracked down Snow White, who was hiding from her in cottage deep in the forest.

Going against her first instincts not to let the old woman in her cottage, Snow White did, and accepted the gift of the bright, shiny apple.

Once she took a bite of the apple, Snow White collapsed to the floor, falling into a deep sleep.

When the seven dwarfs returned home, they were so distressed at seeing Snow White laying on the floor that they built her a glass coffin, and laid her in front of their cottage.

Most people are familiar with the tale of Sleeping Beauty. The beautiful, and innocent maiden, who fell prey to the jealousy of another.

You might not be living in exile in a cottage in the woods with 7 dwarfs… but is there an aspect of yourself, or your life, that that you’re running away from or avoiding?

(more…)

When Priestesses Get It Wrong

When Priestesses Get It Wrong

My Story

Yesterday, I was one of six priestesses to hold a Dark Moon ritual at at the Goddess Temple, in Glastonbury.

Over 40 people attended!

If you’ve ever been to the Temple, you know that 40 people makes it very full, and very cosy!!

It was an amazing experience with the most gorgeous contributions from the people who joined us.

There’s a lot of visitors to Glastonbury, and during the ritual people spoke their offerings in Portuguese, Hebrew, Italian, German, and Welsh.

It felt wonderful to be part of such a rich and varied community.

A community who had stepped forward with the intention to bring more love to themselves, and the world.

But…I nearly let the fullness of the experience be taken away from me…

(more…)

Feeling Disconnected When Being Connected Should Be Easy

Feeling Disconnected When Being Connected Should Be Easy

Inspiration, My Story

Sometimes I can’t help but laugh at myself…

One of my deepest desires in life is to feel truly connected to both myself, and the world around me.

I can’t explain why this is important to me, but it’s an inbuilt need I have. When I feel this sense of connection I’m at my happiest, most creative, productive, loving, and nurturing, self.

Over the years I can track a very clear correlation between how connected I feel to nature, and how connected I feel to myself.

These pictures are some views from my home, as you can see I live in the countryside. I’m surrounded by fields, and woodlands.

(more…)

Listening to your intuition and sacred yew groves

Listening to your intuition and sacred yew groves

My Story

I’ve always ‘heard’ my intuition, but not always listened to it… 

But over the last few years I’ve felt even more connected to my internal compass than ever before, and it’s becoming harder to ignore, or even push to oneside.

So when for the past week I’ve had a strong pull to go and visit a place that I’ve visited many times before, I had to go – and I’m so glad I did!

This afternoon was a lovely walk and I spent some time hanging out with the ancient yews in the nearby church – I’ve always adored trees, but it’s only recently that I’ve been connecting with them in a much deeper way.

After our walk, I started to drive us home, and something caught my attention. I reversed back up the road, and saw what looked like a secret grove.

I pulled the car over, left my boys (pretend hubby and our little boy) in the car and went for a quick investigation.

It was amazing!

I really thought I was going to be spirited away by the fairies.

Through the thick yew trees, was an inner space that had the most incredible fallen yew tree, on it’s side it was still taller than me – the tree was amazing.

 

There was also a small ring of trees within the grove, I stood in the centre of it, and just knew I had to go back and sit in this space some more.

I took a few photos (that don’t do it justice), and then went back to my boys and drove home.

I was only in the sacred grove for about 10 minutes, but still hours later I can feel that something shifted within me.

Tree’s are showing up more an more for me. As I said I’ve always adored them, it was a standing joke with my ex-husband about how much I loved trees… – often these messages/passions/interests, can run as a theme through our life, but we don’t understand the significance until much later, when we can see a bigger pattern emerging.

(My growing collection of tree books and divination)

I’m currently on a Priestess training in Glastonbury, to become a Priestess of Cerridwen. Since I started this training last year, so much has been opening up for me. One of these things has been that I have felt very much called by another Goddess, the Goddess Nemetona, she’s the goddess of the Sacred Grove.

It wasn’t until recently that I realised how much both Cerridwen and Nemetona are both connected with Druidry – and of course the Druids are very much connected to the trees and nature.

Then just yesterday a very good friend of mine Kris Oster did a card reading for my business (she’s amazing!), and one of the key images that showed up in the reading was the Tree (well of course!)

So I’m not sure how this is going to play out, bit it’s certainly leading the way.

What are the breadcrumbs that are making themselves more known to you?

Come and share your  thoughts and own personal experiences over in our very own sacred space the SHEro’s Red Tent Temple free Facebook Community