How Kinesiology Cleared Up My Eczema

How Kinesiology Cleared Up My Eczema

When I was growing up, I was painfully shy.

I remember being about 6 years old and hiding behind chairs when my Mum tried to introduce me to people.

It didn’t get easier.

I used to absolutely hate those days at school when you had to perform anything to do with music and drama, in fact I think they were the only days I had off ‘sick’.

Even when I was about 20 years old, making phone calls terrified me, and I’d try and get other people to make them on my behalf.

This really changed for me, around that age when my body screamed NO, NO MORE!

 

Suddenly out of nowhere, after never even having a spot as a teenager, my skin erupted into the worst eczema I’ve ever seen.

 

Seemingly overnight, my face, my arms, and legs were bright red, shiny, weeping and very, very sore.

After going to the doctors, and his first words being to me ‘Oh my, you have it bad’, I just burst into tears. I did have it bad, and it really hurt.

I was prescribed anti-biotics, steroid creams and had to wash in emollients.

My skin remained red, sore and weepy.

I remember walking down the street in winter, and people staring at me as my face was so red, I looked burnt.

I tried elimination diets, no wheat, no sugar and no difference.

I’d take handfuls of vitamins, oils, and aloe vera juice and still no change.

After months, I finally took the advice of a friend to visit a Kinesiologist – whatever one of them was…

I have to admit, I was completely sceptical. I’d never even heard of kinesiology before, but nothing else was working. I had nothing to lose, and I was running out of options.

The Kinesiologist was really nice, but what she was doing made absolutely no sense to me.

Wiggle my arm. Think this thought. Wiggle my arm some more. Now think a different thought.

Wiggle my arm, place this on my stomach. Wiggle my arm some more.

And so, the session went on.

I was to later learn, that the ‘wiggling’ my arm was her testing the integrity of my muscle in the presence of a stressor, a thought, phrase, or substance. But at the time it just seemed ridiculous.

I left there rolling my eyes and wondering what on earth I could try next.

 

But…. My skin started to clear up! Even as sceptical as I was, I couldn’t dismiss this as a coincidence!

 

At first it didn’t completely clear up. But it stopped weeping, and to me that was amazing! I’d been having to change my clothes two or three times a day, and now I didn’t.

At the time I thought to myself that I didn’t care if I stayed bright red, it was the weeping skin that was the most painful and inconvenient for me.

So I went back and finished the course of treatment and my skin has never flared up again – I’m now 42!

But not only did my skin clear up, I felt more connected to myself. It was hard to explain, but I felt more ‘in my body’, more present that I ever had before.

I also felt more confident in myself and my choices.

I just felt different, more me.

I was so amazed, that it had worked; I hadn’t wanted to go, but felt I had run out of options, I thought it was a load of rubbish, and never believed it was going to work, and yet despite all of that, it still worked. I had to know how, so I signed up on the very next course.

Still, after all this time, Kinesiology never fails to amaze me.

Pinpointing age-old issues for people and getting right to the core of an issue.

 

Things in life aren’t very often caused by what we think they are.

 

We want a nice tidy answer, so that we can ‘fix’ the symptoms and move on with our life.

Just like when I went to the Doctors with my skin issue, I wanted a pill or a cream to fix it, and when it didn’t, I was unsure of what to do next.

In my mind, the Doctor was supposed to be able to fix me, and if they couldn’t I hadn’t realised there were other avenues available for me.

Now don’t get me wrong, I am super grateful for Doctors, their training and their knowledge. There have been times in my life where medical intervention has probably saved me, and my little boy, and for that I am eternally grateful.

Yet, there are other ways that I’ve learnt to take responsibility for myself and my health, knowing that I can’t always rely on current methods of health care.

But that’s the great thing about being alive today, we can explore both.

As humans we’re complicated, intricate and oh so messy.

One thing I’ve learned after decades of working with thousands and thousands of clients, is there is no ‘one-size’ fits all, and no magic bullet.

When people come to me with a symptom, even if it’s a symptom I’ve seen time-and-time again, the way that it’s resolved is different for every person, because every person is different, with their own unique set of experiences, traumas, and beliefs.

 

The reason the symptom is showing up is unique to them, and never because of just one thing.

 

Many of my clients initially came to see me with conditions such as IBS (Irritable Bowel Syndrome) and eczema because they thought allergies were causing their symptoms. In the huge majority of cases, however, they had underlying emotional issues they needed to resolve, not another food they needed to avoid.

The body is a sensitive piece of equipment. When you think you’re suppressing an emotion – a disappointment or a hurt feeling – your body remembers. It also remembers every time you say “yes” when you really want to say “no”, and every time you smile when all you really want to do is cry.

It was more socially acceptable for the women who came to see me to have an irritated bowel that they couldn’t control until it exploded, than it was for them to lose control over themselves and let the words they really wanted to say explode from their mouths.

Their suppressed words, feelings and emotions found another way to be expressed (or rather expelled) from their bodies.

When I explained this situation to my clients, I was invariably met with mixed emotions.

I saw relief that they could finally put words to their situation.

I saw guilt at being unhappy even with all they had.

I saw sadness at not having honoured their true desires and callings.

I saw frustration for all the time they felt they’d wasted.

I saw overwhelm at the thought of what they now had to do.

I saw anger at themselves for not having done this sooner.

I saw annoyance at their parents/partner/society for having placed these expectations on them.

I saw confusion as to how this could possibly have happened to them.

And – perhaps not surprisingly – I saw exhaustion at the number of emotions they were suddenly allowing themselves to feel.

Of course, I can totally relate to this. Why?

 

Because I was one of these women too!

 

I was smart, educated, open and aware. Yet somehow, I still fell into the trap of living my life the way I’d been taught was ‘right’… even though, at the time, I was convinced I was living on my own terms.

And yet there I was with my angry, weeping skin.

I thought I needed a pill, or to eliminate a food group.

But what I actually needed was to heal unresolved anger at events from my childhood that had been triggered by circumstances in my twenties.

The anger that I’d repressed for decades was quite literally burning through my skin. Apparently, it was ‘easier’ to deal with the eczema than it was to face the truth of my emotions, and the reality of my past situation.

I needed to acknowledge what I really wanted in life.

I needed to reconnect to the truth of who I was and stop restricting myself with limiting beliefs that no longer served me.

I had to create a life on my own terms, not the life that others expected me to live.

The words sound so easy when I say them like that. But little did I realise that when I said ‘No, not this life anymore’, I opened up the powerful thought of ‘If not this, then what?’

And so, my inner journey began.

Fast forward twenty years, and I had to wonder why so many intelligent women were turning up at my clinic with the same underlying issue.

What had disconnected so many women from their truth so completely that the only way their inner selves could communicate with them was by creating bodily symptoms that they just couldn’t ignore?

 

We live in a world that’s saturated with the idea of how life should be. There’s little room to celebrate true diversity and individual expression.

 

From the youngest of ages, we’re taught (usually at an unconscious level) the behaviours that society expects from us. We’re taught the roles we should live, and how we should contribute to our family, friends and community. It comes through in comments from the adults around us. Comments like…

“Children should be seen and not heard.”

“Good girls don’t xxx.”

“That’s women’s work.”

“Calm down.”

“You’d be prettier if you smiled.”

But more specifically, we’re told that how we should behave and what we should aspire to depends on whether we were born male or female.

“Why are girls so emotional?”

“You’re so high-maintenance.”

“Big boys don’t cry.”

“You do xxx well… for a girl.”

“Does your husband mind that you make more money than him?”

“You’re so lucky that your husband helps out with the kids.”

 

These seemingly throw-away comments seep into our subconscious minds and influence how we think we should behave. All this is further compounded by the seemingly innocent (but often gender-biased) stories we’re told growing up, along with the films we watch and the toys we play with.

And the media we consume as adults continues to reinforce these beliefs and patterns. We’re basically surrounded by them.

Many women long to contribute creatively to society. They want to heal their families, their communities and the planet they live on. They feel called to co-create better lives for themselves and those around them.

Meanwhile, they’ve been taught to work for – to create and honour – security over passion.

But this will never fully satisfy them. How can it? They’re trying to find value in some kind of external security, rather than developing their own internal resources and inner sense of security.

They know deep inside that they’re here for a reason, and that they have a sacred soul-purpose. Yet they haven’t been taught the language to decipher this inner knowing. They don’t understand how to make it tangible.

Instead, they make choices that compromise their passions. They feel obligated to create financial security for themselves and their families above all else, which leaves them unsatisfied and searching for greater meaning. Then add to this the primal need we all have to fit in… and it can be hugely difficult to truly break from the expectations of their families, friends, and spiritual and religious communities.

However, becoming aware of these limiting patterns, stories and beliefs can help them – and you – to break free from those influences. It can help you to consciously create your life and choose how you express yourself.

If you can relate, feel disconnected to yourself and life, or want an energetic tune-up I recommend you start with my ‘ART of Being You’ energy-clearing meditations.

PRACTICAL AND MAGICAL

I’ve put together a collection of energy-clearing meditations to support you with the ART of being more you!

These meditations bring together my 20 years of experience working as a transformations kinesiologist and my love of all things practical. They are around 8-10 minutes long and filled with energy clearings so that you can release old patterns that no longer serve you.

I wanted to make these super accessible and have made them Pay What You Can (click here to learn my selfish reason they’re pay what you can).

How do you say that? My Journey as a kinesiologist

How do you say that? My Journey as a kinesiologist

How do you say that... My journey as a Kinesiologist

20+ years ago I started work at a thriving Natural Health Centre, practising the energy therapy kinesiology; the art of using muscle testing to identify imbalances in the body’s energy system. 

At the time most people had never heard of kinesiology, and I was often met with ‘How do you say that?’, or ‘What’s that. I’ve never heard of it before.’ And despite this being unknown to many people, I still was often booked months in advance, just through word of mouth referrals. 

During that time, I worked with 100s and 100s of women who displayed many symptoms such as IBS, depression/low mood, not feeling quite right, lack of motivation or a feeling that something was missing from their lives. 

Not what they expected

They would often come to me expecting to be told that they were allergic to something, but in fact, in 90+% of cases, the root cause was emotional in nature, often a result of them consciously, or sub-consciously, hiding their true self, suppressing their dreams and desires, or resisting taking opportunities that came their way. 

They’d been doing this for so long that they had often become resentful or had actually forgotten what it was that truly lit them up. 

They may have been trying to continue living their life the way that they felt they ‘should’, doing what others expected of them, or even sabotaging their own success! But their soul and heart’s desire never stopped trying to get their attention. 

At first, this attention often started as a niggling feeling, a small voice encouraging them to do something new, follow a dream, or dream bigger. 

However, many of my clients reported that they didn’t trust these ‘daydreams’ and they were fairly easy to ignore and dismiss, despite their persistence. 

Often when I asked my clients when their symptoms first started, it usually coincided with a significant event in their life, or a choice that they made, but they’d never realised the connection before. 

It’s my experience that when we ignore, reject, or suppress, that small voice, the niggling feeling, or our intuition, the body will send you signs that will become ‘louder and louder’, until they get your attention. 

These signs have become so persistent and so LOUD that they have resulted in breakdowns, where my clients have had no choice but to stop and seek external help – that’s when they came to see me. 

However, it’s not always so extreme. 

Perhaps you always get a cold or sore throat when you are about to uplevel an aspect of your life. Maybe you cause an argument when your relationship is going well. 

One client would insist on working all hours, even though she was exhausted, saying that ‘she didn’t have time to stop.’ And every time she ignored the cries from her body, she would end up in bed for over a week with sciatica, and no choice, but to rest! 

When I first opened my practice people would come to see me and tell me I was their ‘last hope’. 

As time went on, these clients, now symptom free, would then come back for routine tune-ups to ensure that everything was running smoothly and to nip issues in the bud to make sure that symptoms didn’t return. 

Fast Forward 20 years… and include 1000s of additional clients and experience, plus many more hours honing my own skills and expertise, I now work remotely so I can work with people all over the world, from the comfort of their own home. 

20 years later, my practice still sees the concerns of IBS etc, but the women who I work with now, have a much greater awareness of energy work and the correlation of symptoms expressed by the body as being a sign of an internal energetic imbalance. 

Today, I often hear that women are doing the internal work, but still feel as if they’re going around in circles, that they’ve lost their drive, lack passion and purpose, all of which causes them to feel down and often powerless. 

Basically, they feel disconnected. 

 

Disconnected from themselves, their soul path, and the world around them. 

What I can do, and after all these years I’m very, very good (just see the testimonials!), is use my skills as a kinesiologist to quickly and easily identify the repeating and non-serving patterns that are playing out and causing these symptoms. Once identified, I re-balance your system using a wide range of energy healing tools. 

Although this is quick and easy (as in no pain, but maybe a few tears and some laughter), this is DEEP – right to the heart of the matter work. 

When these patterns are re-balanced my clients re-discover who they are at the core of their being – their fully expressed Divine SHEro Goddess, Wild Woman self. 

Not only do the symptoms seemingly disappear, but the ripple effects of this work permeates throughout all areas of your life, creating space for powerful shifts in a way that feels fully supported and safe. 

What happens in our inner lives shapes our outer realities 

Since 2000 I have been working with clients, using the energy therapy Kinesiology, to help them find clarity, remove blocks, become unstuck. 

I love supporting my clients by helping them to release what no longer serves them. When you can let go of the patterns that have been holding you back, you are then ready to move forward with your life. 

Kinesiology With Rebecca Has Changed My Life.

I have a new found confidence which continues to grow and have more meaning in my life. My life had moved on in two months working with Rebecca than it had in the previous 2 years.”  Susan Leadbeater, Staffordshire, UK 

 

If you can relate, feel disconnected to yourself and life, or want an energetic tune-up I recommend you start with my ‘ART of Being You’ energy-clearing meditations. 

PRACTICAL AND MAGICAL 

I’ve put together a collection of energy-clearing meditations to support you with the ART of being more you! 

These meditations bring together my 20 years of experience working as a transformations kinesiologist and my love of all things practical. They are around 8-10 minutes long and filled with energy clearings so that you can release old patterns that no longer serve you. 

I wanted to make these super accessible and have made them Pay What You Can (click here to learn my selfish reason they’re pay what you can). 

Rebecca Is A Highly Gifted Healer And Guide Who Is Deeply Connected To The Emerging Challenges Of Women On The Path Home To Their Truth.

Her depth of wisdom and clarity of insight provide safe and sure treading as we journey back to our SHEro selves and reclaim our full power. 

Through working with Rebecca I have been able to ground down in my power and find access to a reservoir of wise guidance that has led to massive progress and deep peace in my life. Her accuracy, understanding and love filled guidance is soothing and profound to receive; this women will elevate you and speed your journey beyond what you may perceive as possible. 

Working with Rebecca is an investment in decades of wisdom refined that will align your more deeply with yourself and swiftly remove the hidden barriers to your full emergence. 

I truly have deep admiration and soul appreciation for Rebecca, and honour her work as deeply significant for the progress of our worldwide sisterhood.”  Lysa Black, New Zealand 

 

Rebecca is a genuine ally to have on your life’s journey. 

I was introduced to Rebecca through a friend who saw my inner turmoil holding me back and she was kind enough to pay for my first session as a gift to me. 

That gift helped me change my life. 

My first session with Rebecca was amazing! I didn’t know what to expect but was open to it and when we began I was floored by the information she was able to touch upon and bring up. I felt a wave of emotion that I didn’t expect and was crying while my body had tingles and I felt my heart vibrating. It was a strange and unusual sensation to have but I felt clearer once our session ended. 

She provided great insights that helped me to clear up energetic and emotional blockages I have had for years. It was as if my mind, body and soul were finally in alignment. Since then I have had two other sessions with her and my life has found a flow that I have never known possible as I have moved on to start two businesses, develop a positive relationship with money, build up my relationships and use my true voice in the world with confidence.  Angelique Duncan 

 

Rebecca Is An Incredible Healer With An Almost Magical Ability To Pin Point What Blocks Are Wreaking Havoc With You And What Needs To Be Done To Release Them.   

She is able to facilitate their release in a quick and effective manner that will leave you feeling clearer and lighter.  Her insight during this process is invaluable and spot on.  She is powerful and straight to the point while holding compassionate and joyful sacred space for you.  I always call her when I’m dealing with stubborn blocks I can’t shift on my own and I love that with her we can just get in and get it done and I can get back to my magical self.  Ruby Toad, Canada 

How do you say that... My journey as a Kinesiologist
Stop hiding and pretending: It’s time to find your purpose in life

Stop hiding and pretending: It’s time to find your purpose in life

Growing up in a sleepy fishing village on the south coast of Cornwall, I found myself reading ‘Teach Yourself Yoga’ books, whilst my friends around me were reading the latest teen magazines.

 

I’ve no idea what drew me to yoga, but something woke inside of me, and I found myself on a quest.

 

I didn’t have the language for this quest I embarked on, but it ignited within an insatiable desire for knowledge.

 

I found myself seeking.

 

Asking questions about life, and my purpose in life.

 

I’d heard the term ‘soul purpose’, and it resonated within me.

 

 

I wanted to know my soul purpose.

 

I created this idea that once I knew what my soul purpose was, everything in my life would make sense, and everything would fall into place.

 

I didn’t know what that ‘place’ was, or looked like, but I knew I’d arrive there once I knew my soul purpose.

 

I searched for books (these were the days before Amazon!).

 

I read the books.

 

I attended classes.

 

Took more personality profiles than I can remember.

 

And still I kept searching for more.

 

I was searching for meaning, and that meaning for me looked like a quest to find my soul purpose – whatever that actually was…

 

For years, well more like decades, I read, attended courses, had healings, trained in modalities.

 

And carried on seeking for my elusive soul purpose.

 

What was my purpose in life?

 

What was I here to do and contribute?

 

I kept seeking.

 

Each time I learnt something new, uncovered a bit more about my personality profile, astrological chart, Human Design… I thought ‘Yes, this is it! This is who I am and what I’m meant to do.’

 

It felt great!

 

Until it didn’t.

 

What felt great initially, started to wear off.

 

It wasn’t quite right.

 

Something was ‘missing’, so off I’d go again in search of the next thing, in search of that one  ‘missing’ part.

 

Now of course, all of these things were valuable to me.

 

Fascinating in their own right.

 

And each piece useful in learning more about myself.

 

But it wasn’t filling the hole I was trying to fill with my seeking.

 

Then one day, BOOM!

 

It hit me.

 

I’m not sure what or why, but I had the realisation that my seeking wasn’t me following the ‘spiritual’ path.

 

It wasn’t me being virtuous on a quest to know myself fully.

 

It was me avoiding living my life fully.

 

I’d been seeking for my soul purpose as if it was a job title.

 

But in fact, what I’d been searching for was permission to be me.

 

Each book I’d read, training I’d attended, or reading that I’d had done, I wanted it to confirm what I wanted. I wanted it to validate who I was, I wanted to know I was ‘right’ in my interests, dreams, and desires.

 

I’d been looking for external validation of who I was and what I wanted to do, as I’d been too afraid to give that same permission to myself.

 

If it was ‘written in the stars’, well it couldn’t be my ‘fault’, it was just destined to be that way.

 

If it was in my birth chart, my personality profile, or Human Design, how could I be ‘blamed’ for following a particular path?

 

When we grow up, we often find ourselves trying to fit in.

 

We subconsciously find ourselves asking ‘Who do I need to be to fit in or to be loved’ within this family/situation/group of people?’

 

And because I wasn’t directly asking other people, I didn’t realise I’d still fallen into this pattern.

 

I wasn’t asking people, but I was still looking outside of myself.

 

A couple of times people would say to me ‘all the answers are within’, and I’d roll my eyes, smile politely, and go seeking elsewhere.

 

Annoyingly, it was true.

 

All of those years of seeking, and the answers had been within.

 

Deep down, I did know who I was and what my life purpose was, but it had been buried under more than enough life events to keep it from being seen clearly by me.

 

Then that one day, I realised that I’d been hiding the truth from myself.

 

I’d been pretending I didn’t know the answers to the questions I’d been seeking.

 

Because if I did know.

 

Because if I stopped pretending.

 

Then I’d have to make changes.

 

I’d have to do what I knew to be true and stop doing what other people expected of me.

 

I’d have to disappoint other people and prioritise myself.

 

I’d have to let other people down, so I could focus on me.

 

I’d have to say ‘No’ to others, so I could say ‘Yes’ to me.

 

Now being British I’m all too familiar with ‘Being too big for your boots’, and the feeling of ‘Who does she think she is to put herself first?’.

 

Unfortunately, it’s not unique to us here in the UK.

 

In Australia they have ‘tall poppy syndrome, and in the USA I believe the term is ‘being too big for your britches’. And no doubt there are similar phrases all over the world.

 

The result being that when you realise that you do know what you want or need to do, it is way easier to pretend that you don’t.

 

At least on the surface, and in the short-term, it feels easier.

 

But actually, to betray yourself, your needs, and desires, is in fact the harder option in the end…

 

You have to give yourself permission to disappoint others, to let them down, to say no to their ideas and dreams for you, so that you can:

 

  • Say ‘Yes’ to your own dreams and desires.
  • Say ‘Yes’ to knowing who you are and what you want from life.
  • Say ‘Yes’ to loving yourself first.
  • Say ‘Yes’ to living a life that you love.

 

Because when you don’t, when you hide, and pretend that you don’t know who you are and what you want from life, that leads to disappointment, disloyalty, heartache, anger and resentment from yourself, directed towards yourself.

 

You learn not to trust yourself.

 

You dismiss your feelings, insights, and dreams.

 

You become a shell of who you are here to be.

 

And that’s no fun for anyone!

 

PS. You might wonder what my big realisation was….

 

I simply realised that my soul purpose in life, was the same as yours, the same as I believe everyone’s is…

 

And that’s to be more of ourselves.

 

I’d spent all those years looking for someone else to tell me who I was, what my purpose in life was. When all the time it had simply been looking for permission to be more of myself.

 

I’d been seeking permission to be me.

 

No finished article, no job title, no destination. Just the beautifully messy, perfectly imperfect, unfolding, unravelling, unfurling process of being more me.

I’m aware that I could sound crazy… But… I saw a dragon

I’m aware that I could sound crazy… But… I saw a dragon

It all started last week when a yellow dragon was circling my room.

Yes, I know that sounds crazy, and no it wasn’t ‘real’ like a cat wandering into my room, but it was ‘real’ in that I could see it and sense it…

I was in the middle of an energy activation for the year ahead for my Re-Enchant community. The session itself focused on activating confidence and releasing the need for validation from others.

And interestingly TRUST was becoming a clear theme in the session.

As I was working through the session, I suddenly became aware of a huge golden-yellow dragon circling in my office.

I often sense energies whilst doing energy work, but this dragon was clearly trying to get my attention.

At first I ignored it.

But it was clear that it wasn’t about to leave any time soon

I didn’t initially share what I could see with the group – as yes, I’m aware at how weird it sounds, but it was so insistent that I had to share.

I also wanted to share what I could see with the group,  as I knew it wasn’t my dragon (more on that in a minute lol).

So I asked the group if any of them worked with dragons and a few of them did. Then I asked if anyone worked with a golden-yellow dragon and I got a very strong ‘yes’ from one of the members (maybe the response actually included words not suitable for children lol), as she had indeed been ignoring this dragon. Among other things she told me that this dragon reminded people to trust their intuition – one of the themes from the session!

Anyway the golden-yellow dragon eventually left.

I really don’t want my office to be home to the energies and allies that people are ignoring lol!

But the archetypal dragon energy didn’t leave.

Back in 2018 I had a very strange experience with dragons – but that’s a whole other story that included a visit to hospital, emergency surgery and ‘giving birth’ to a ‘dragons egg’ (which the Dr. named Pete!)… Does that make me a Dragon Mother? 😉

Anyway… my dragons aren’t the flying dragons I experienced during the energy session last week, the dragon energy I’ve encountered in the past has been much more earth-based. More like giant serpents undulating through the ground.

Showing my age… I described them as looking more like the creatures in the film Tremors, to which my friend responded she had imagined them to be like from the film Dune. and when I did a quick google ‘Yes’ to Dune creatures (a film that I hadn’t seen), and ‘No!’ to Tremors – those creatures were waaaay more gruesome than I remember haha

Anyway… after the experience with the golden-yellow dragons, my own dragons are back and wanting me to work more with the land energies.

The call to walk the land and connect with nature, and in particular the trees, was so strong that I asked the members of the Re-Enchant Community if they want to join me in some land connection work too, which involves working with the eight Sabbat/Earth Festivals, and includes:

  • Land ceremonies
  • Tree connection
  • Sabbat Crafts
  • Creating our own Ogham
  • Creating Sacred Tree healing discs
  • Earth Acupuncture

All from an energy clearing session that woke my dragons haha

As I said at the beginning, I know sharing this makes me sound a little ‘out-there’. I often joke that if my sister, who’s a mental health nurse, sat in on one of my sessions she may well be concerned for me…

But this is my reality. Of course I don’t see dragons all the time, but I do believe we can be much more aware of things than we can typically see with our senses, and that we’re taught are ‘real’.

I’d love to hear if you have any experiences of things that make you sound ‘out there’.

I look forward to hearing your experiences!

The Sacred Pause

The Sacred Pause

As soon as I heard the term ‘Sacred Pause’, my body recognised it and sighed ‘yes’.

There was almost a relief that came with it.

The Sacred Pause is a term I learnt from Molly Remer, who learnt it from Joanna Powell Colbert and is a central theme in my work.

I loved that there was a phrase that matched the energy I knew was needed and essential to everyone of us.

Being and Brewing

In a world that values doing and achieving, giving yourself time to be and brew, to honour the need of the Sacred Pause can be hard.

Yet the Sacred Pause is at the heart of life.

The Essence of Life

When you breathe, you breathe in, pause, and then breathe out. Without this pause you’d likely faint!

I like to think of it along the lines of walking the labyrinth.

When you walk a labyrinth, you enter with intention, often to seek the answer to a question you hold in your heart.

As you spiral in, you let go and release all of the things that are preventing you from finding the answer you seek.

Then when you get to the centre you pause.

The Sacred Pause.

The Sacred Pause where you allow yourself to assimilate. To allow the answer a chance to come to you. This is where the transformation and inspiration occurs.

Then when you’re ready, you spiral back out of the labyrinth, transformed, a new person, never to be the same again.

The Sacred Pause being quite literally the heart and the centre of this transformation and experience.

And then you really *KNOW*

I often think you know things and then you really *know* things.

I had this experience about the Sacred Pause – although I didn’t have a name for it then, when I started doing Kundalini Yoga.

I’d been dabbling with Yoga for years, and for me it had always had a focus on fitness and flexibility.

I was surprised when I started Kundalini Yoga, as we’d hold a pose, and then rest for longer than we’d held the pose.

Initially I noticed I was frustrated by this. I wanted to stretch and feel like I was ‘doing’ something.

But then I chose to trust the process.

And immediately noticed that in the Pause, in the rest, I could feel my energy releasing and moving around my body.

I started to value the importance of the rest, rather than the doing.

I realised that in the rest we were making the space for the magic to happen.

Ever since then I have honoured the Pause as much as the doing, understanding that both are needed.

To Consciously Pause

I definitely have a tendency to be prone to more doing, but I always ensure that each day I take moment to pause and check in with myself.

To Pause and allow the integration to happen.

To Pause and allow life to come to me.

If you’d like some help to embrace and experience the magic of the Sacred Pause I have a free practice for you, simply CLICK HERE

Inspired by a jumpsuit…

Inspired by a jumpsuit…

Here’s something you probably don’t know about me… It’s not very important, but it did make me think about change today… And that’s…

I hate clothes shopping!

I always have.

I’ve never known what colour or style suits me.

I go snow blind as soon as I walk into a clothes shop.

I’m not sure where this has come from, but I’ve never enjoyed it.

 

Shopping is too hard….

My bum has always been ‘too big’ compared with my waist, so finding trousers that don’t ridiculously gape at the back is a nuisance, my legs seem to be in between lengths lol… I could go on… but I’m sure you get the picture…

 

I think I missed the part of being a teenager where you learn how to dress and find what suits you.

 

And now of course I’m on the other side of 40, still wondering what clothes I should buy!

 

So I choose another way

Last month I booked a consult with a stylist who tells you what colours you look best in and what styles work for you.

It was such fun! If you haven’t done it before, I highly recommend it!

And if you know colours and are curious… I’m ‘Summer’ and need to wear cool colours, like blues, dark green and burgundy.

 

But knowing what to wear and buying it are two completely different things!

 

So I booked  a session with the same inspiring woman to go personal shopping, and oh my… what a totally different experience!

 

She loved shopping and knew exactly what to look for that would suit me.

 

She picked things for me that I wouldn’t have even looked at

 

I kept shaking my head… and am still shaking my head chuckling, as I now have

Jumpsuits

Animal print dresses

And White trousers!?!

 

All of which I would never have bought without her help.

And all of which I actually now love! In fact I’m writing to you in one of my jumpsuits! (yes I have more than one now!!)

 

And it go me thinking…

The jumpsuit got me thinking about change.

 

As humans we’re not really good at change…

Whether it’s a change to how we see ourselves, change in the type of clothes we wear, or the relationships we have.

 

We can resist it, ignore it, fight it …

I know that I’ve even resisted change that I knew would be beneficial to me in the long run!

I could despair at myself lol, but instead I look to nature…

 

Nature has so much to teach us about change. About starting over, again, and again and again.

 

As humans we’re taught that time is linear.

There’s a start, and a series of steps that moves you towards an end goal.

Each of those steps builds on the previous step, and you’re expected to become bigger, stronger, and more successful with each of those steps.

 

But in this model, there’s no space for failure, for stumbling a few steps back, for starting over. No place for rest or a reset.

 

But when we remember that we are intimately connected to nature, and we can model our experience on hers, we realise that life is in fact a spiral path and not a linear path.

 

On a spiral path we can allow ourselves to start again.

 

We can give ourselves permission to rest and pause. To change our minds, to reset, to revisit, to regroup and start over.

On a spiral path there’s no comparison, so no place for fear, blame or shame.

 

When we remember that we are intimately connected to nature we can embrace the spiral path and give ourselves permission to start over, to start again and change.

 

With love, jumpsuits and spirals

Rebecca xo