What’s your life purpose, here’s what I think…

What’s your life purpose, here’s what I think…

My Story, On Purpose

Yesterday I was chatting to a friend, I love our chats as nothing is off limits, the conversations go deeeeeeep, but there’s always lots of laughter too.

We got on to the topic of ‘Life purpose’.

You see I LOVE this conversation, and I do indeed believe everyone has a life purpose.

Except that where I differ from most people, is that I think everyone has the same one! Yes really, the same life purpose!

If you’re not sure, just hear me out…

I believe that your life purpose, my friends life purpose, and my own life purpose, is all the same thing.

And that our life purpose is….

To become the most fully expressed version of ourselves.

Sounds great! Yes?

But as my friend rightly asked: What does that actually mean?

For decades, I was looking for my purpose in life.

When I was 16 I started doing yoga with my ‘Teach Yourself Yoga’ book (which I still have!), I started becoming curious about who I was and what I was meant to do with my life.

I honestly don’t know where this drive came from, but I certainly started my journey of seeking that was to last decades.

Over the years this resulted in me attending workshops, doing trainings, collecting qualifications, doing just about every personality profile that I came across, each time hoping that I would find what I was looking for – my meaning, my purpose in life.

Then I realised (after decades lol), that I was going about this all wrong.

I was looking for my purpose as if it was a job title or a destination.

I’ll be happy/feel aligned/insert whatever you’re looking for… when I ‘get there’…

But there’s never a ‘final destination’.

We’re constantly evolving, growing and changing, or let’s face it, we’d no longer exist.

So instead of trying to become something or get to somewhere, I decided to let myself just evolve.

To unfold and see who I became when I stopped trying and started being.

I started embracing what I loved and interested me, I began following what made me curious and stopped doing what I thought I ‘should’ do.

It sounds simple…

But what makes this simple thing so hard is that we can become so entangled in what we’re taught and what’s expected of us (the SPELLs that I mentioned the other day), that it becomes impossible to hear, or even trust, what we know to be true about ourselves and what we want from life.

That then makes it difficult, often impossible, to trust ourselves to know what to do next in our lives.

The good news is that you can change this.

There is always a way! And the first step on your journey of breaking these SPELLs that have been keeping you disconnected from yourself, your truth and dreams and desires, is to renew your relationship with yourself and become deeply grounded into your own unique essence.

Again that sounds easy… and this time it is!

And it’s even easier, as I have a free gift for you so that you can start to do this immediately.

I was asked on a podcast, what did I think should be taught in every school, and I immediately said ‘Energetic health’, and this practice I’m going to share with you is just that.

We know we need to exercise to look after our physical body if we want to feel fit, healthy and vibrant, but we also need to look after our energy system too.

To get started click here, It’s called Your SACRED practice as it really is a sacred pause in your day, for you to come back home to yourself and remember what’s really important to you.

How to release the grip of fears (even the unconscious ones)

How to release the grip of fears (even the unconscious ones)

Change Your Story

The SHEro’s Journey is all about ‘coming home to yourself’ but how can you do that if you don’t feel it’s safe to be you?

I do a lot of work with entrepreneurs, these women are smart, have the most amazing hearts and are doing great work in the world.

Or rather they would be…

But, time and time again I see them tripped up and holding themselves back with fears that they aren’t even aware they have.

A common fear that I’ve seen regularly over the last month or so is the ‘Fear of being abandoned’.

“Fear of being abandoned.”

How does that resonate for you, can you feel that in your body, or does it have no response for you?

The way I see it show up for my clients is that they play small, they don’t share their message with as many people as they could in case people don’t ‘get them’, and they delay making the changes they want/need in their life and business because of an underlying fear of being judged and ultimately ostracised by clients, friends and family – can you see how this would be a problem for a business person!

But of course you don’t have to be in business to experience this fear.

Often what comes up is that people don’t want to outshine their family or friends, incase they’re ‘rejected’ by them. In the UK we have a phrase “don’t get too big for your boots”, in the US I’m told it’s “don’t get too big for your britches’, and in Australia it’s the ‘tall poppy syndrome’.

Obviously these aren’t patterns that you’ve consciously chosen to live by.

They are usually learnt behaviours, passed down through the generations, or circumstances, when you were younger, may have reinforced this belief.

And then you live them, never realising, or being taught, that they no longer have to be true for you and that you can release and change these patterns.

Perhaps you experienced the withholding of love from a physically or emotionally absent parent, maybe you were told that you were too loud or opinionated as a happy, confident child.

Maybe you didn’t have role models that taught you it was okay to live life and fully express yourself in your own unique way.

Whatever the reason, these patterns aren’t serving you or anyone anymore.

It’s actually surprisingly easy to release these fears and limiting beliefs – It’s something I’ve been doing professionally for over 20 years for my clients.

If you’re ready to release this fear and break the SPELL that is holding you back I highlt recommend that you Start Here with this free resources I put togther for you

Believe in who you are

Believe in who you are

Inspiration

The New Moon is the perfect time to rest and tap into your intuition

“Believe in who you are

Believe in what is yours.

Believe in your power.

Believe in what lies

In the depth of your soul…”

– Meg Bowman

These were the words that opened my 67th virtual Red Tent tonight. It seemed a perfect reading to explore the energy of the Sagittarius New Moon.

I host virtual Red Tents for the members of my Sacred Grove Community with the New Moon and Full Moons throughout the year – I can’t believe that we are at no. 67! How did that happen?

I feel it’s important for women to have a place where they can spend an hour or so where nothing is expected of them. They show up to the call and all they have to do is rest and receive.

My intention is always the same each month: that each woman allow herself the space to honour herself, to rest and be restored, then I add a little extra to harness the energy of the particular moon.

Before I read the opening poem/reading, I like to draw a Womansrune card to offer insight into the the themes of the event, and even after all these years, the accuracy of the card never fails to amaze me.

Today’s card was the The Dark Moon – The Rune of Wisdom. This fitted perfectly with today’s theme of setting bigger, bolder, and more adventurous intentions with the expansive and confident energy of Sagittarius.

The card spoke to me of trusting your own wisdom, of having the courage to sink deep into yourself and allowing yourself to name and claim your own dreams and vision for your life – ‘Believe in who you are’.

Too often people, especially women, can be so busy going through the motions of life, checking off those boxes of expectations, that you can completely lose track of what YOU actually wanted from life. What you find fulfilling and what brings meaning and purpose to your life.

After I draw the card, I always like to see what card is behind it, as the cards always tell a story. Today the card behind the Dark Moon was The Labyris – The Rune of Will.

This seemed like the perfect card to support your own wisdom, as it’s about cutting away those things that hold you back or weigh you down. It’s about making clear choices and aligning with those choices – ‘Believe in who you are’.

After we’ve explored the energy of the moon, and shared intentions (ask me about the Carebear stare another time!), we do an energy clearing and activation to release the energetic patterns that prevent us from reaching and achieving our intentions.

The main part of the clearing today was around the energy of “Fear of not being heard”.

Two things came up as we cleared the energy around this:

  1. It’s the holiday season and many people will be spending more time with their families. This is enough to trigger old patterns of being the ‘good girl’, or the ‘child’ in a family situation. Even if you are a fully grown adult with responsibilities.
    Triggering patterns of not being listened to, being dismissed or even ridiculed for your beliefs or dreams.
  2. Not listening to, or trusting, your own intuition. Not allowing yourself to hear your dreams and desires.

It reminded me of a time from my own childhood.

Each year at Christmas we would travel across the UK to go and visit my mums family.

When I was 13 I became a vegetarian, Back in those days (lol) being a vegetarian wasn’t that common. But I think it’s fair to say that people new what it meant – I didn’t eat meat…

So the first year I was vegetarian at my Aunty’s house for the Christmas gathering, she served me minestrone soup with ham in it.

When I said that I couldn’t eat it because I was vegetarian, she said ‘Oh yes I know, but you eat ham don’t you?’… I could almost have understood if it had been chicken… there are some people who call themselves vegetarian but still eat chicken or fish… but not pig!

The next year the same thing happened, but this time it was chicken… ‘Oh I know you’re vegetarian, but you eat chicken don’t you?’

Talk about not being heard… Perhaps you can relate?

These patterns can often follow us throughout our life, showing up in all areas.

Do you find it easy to speak up, do you feel heard, or do you have to shout and almost have a meltdown before people take notice?

Do you listen to your intuition, hold space for yourself to connect deeply with your hopes, dreams and desires, or is that very idea alien to you?

How would your life be different if:

  1. You felt heard, witnessed and seen. People listened to you, believed in you and supported your ideas and dreams (even the hair-brained ones!)
  2. You listened to, and completely trusted, yourself. You believed in who you were.

During each energy clearing, as we gently remove and dissolve another layer of limiting beliefs, fears and out-dated patterns, and that’s exactly what people begin to experience.

They trust in themselves, and make confident choices that are aligned with their truth, energy and values! No more doubt or second-guessing themselves (or at least much less!)

Then after the energy clearing, now that you’re relaxed and more connected with your intuitive self, we do a meditation along the theme of the Moon’s energy, this month I thought I’d try something new.

For longer than I’d care to admit… okay I’ll tell you… at least year, I’ve been wanting to write meditations that are specifically for the energy of the Zodiac signs as the Moon travels through them – this month was the first time I actually did it! And writing it here, in black and white, is my commitment to keep going – only 23 more to go!

We then finish the Red Tent with me drawing cards for the members who want some additional guidance, again I love seeing the patterns and messages emerge for people as the months unfold – nothing in these events is ever random, everything has a meaning!

I love these Red Tents, I love the community we’ve created in the Sacred Grove – it’s all the perfect blend of accountability, guidance and space to connect with your inner voice and truth – even if you don’t know where to begin.

No expectations, people dip in and out of what they need, but always knowing they are held and there’s a space for them to come and explore their passions, beliefs and desires, share their concerns and challenges, or have a community to celebrate with them.

If you don’t have a space where you can do all of this I highly recommend that you find one! It will quite literally change your world!

Everyone needs a community where you can be witnessed, celebrated and where you feel safe to explore all the things that light you up.

Of course you are more than welcome to see if The Sacred Grove is a good fit for you, but if this isn’t for you find one that suits exactly what you do need.

So in the spirit of the Sagittarius New Moon, what bigger, bolder, more expansive intentions/goals/dreams are you setting for yourself and what community is going to support you reach them as you learn to more deeply trust and ‘believe in who you are’?

Walking the spiral path

Walking the spiral path

Inspiration

Tonight was the final call of a four month group that I’d been running, I was both excited to share more on our final lesson togther, and sad that such an amazing experience was coming to an end.

It was fitting then, that our final topic was on supporting our sacred self, and looking at the spiral path that women walk.

As I spoke about honouring our sacred selves, the topic invariably turned to cycles and nature – two of my favourite topics.

It seems like a lifetime ago, but I used to teach people about how to create amazing raw food recipes.

Raw food didn’t appeal to me because it was healthier, in fact in my case, when I was pregnant, raw food wasn’t the best choice for me – but that’s a whole other story… But I love raw food because it’s food in its natural form (or at least much closer than heavily processed foods!), and when I ate a high raw food diet, it was one way that connected me more deeply to my own true nature.

There was no hiding from emotions or feelings by stuffing them down with foods such as breads and pasta, but eating more raw food, allowed to to relearn about my relationship with myself, and highlighted the areas in my life that needed some attention.

It reminded me that ultimately we are part of nature in all of it’s glorious, colourful, juicy, tasty, powerful, and unruly ways.

We’ve done a good job over the years of trying to control nature. To harness her power, and protect ourselves from the very same wild, unpredictability that both scares us and has us in awe.

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Travel tips that teach us about life

Travel tips that teach us about life

Inspiration

I was listening to the radio on my way back from dropping my little boy at nursery the other day, and Ray Mears, the adventure and survival expert was a guest on the show.

I’ve always liked Ray Mears, he seems so ‘normal’ yet has these amazing adventures, he knows pretty much everything he can about surviving in the wilds, yet remains the eternal student, always curious, he would most definitely be on my fascinating ‘people to have at a dinner party’ list…

Anyway… He always has great stories to share, and this was no different.

Someone had phoned in to the show, and asked him how to get the most out of their upcoming trip to the rainforests of Borneo, and I LOVED his response.

He said:

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When you miss all the signs you have to laugh at yourself

When you miss all the signs you have to laugh at yourself

Inspiration, My Story

When I was a child I loved school… I really loved school

I can remember when I was 10yrs old telling my friends that I wanted to go to University. I have no idea where this desire came from, as neither of my parents went to University and I don’t ever remember them encouraging me to do so, but it was just something I knew I wanted.

And I did it – twice. Two degrees later and I still love learning.

In fact, sometimes feel a little sad, that there is no way that I can possibly learn about everything that I’m interested in, let alone read all of the books that I want to, in just one lifetime.

Unfortunately my love of education and knowledge wasn’t always celebrated when I was a child, and I can totally relate to this quote from Harry Potter:

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Explore Your Energy With the Cycle of the Moon

Explore Your Energy With the Cycle of the Moon

Lunar Love

I have Put Together a free tool to help you tap into your own lunar energies.

The moon, is the closest astronomical body to Earth, and it has a profound effect on us and the earth we live on.

It represents the feminine, emotional, creative and nurturing aspects of our lives.

I’ve always been fascinated with the moon and her ability to influence us.

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